Rural funerals are sung with strings, and some people sing and dance, and the so-called "joy and funeral" is held. Shouldn't "funerals" really be happy?
What is "joy and mourning", in fact, this definition in ancient times, there are clear provisions, "joy and mourning" is the existence, but not to say that everyone can do "happy funeral".
"Joy and mourning" is naturally easy for us to understand, lively and lively "funeral", participants do not have so much sadness, some people say that "joy and mourning" is to treat the funeral as a happy event.
In fact, "joy and mourning" was previously stipulated, and funerals were an important part of etiquette. The ancients believed that human death is also the beginning of another kind of rebirth, so there is the existence of "joy and mourning".
As for the "joy and mourning", I summed up that the following conditions should be met in order to become a "happy funeral".
1. The elderly and children are alive
2. Four generations are needed to be together
3, be old enough
4. We must end well and end without disease
In the traditional Chinese bar culture, there are five blessings: Shoubi Nanshan, Wishing you prosperity, health and tranquility, noble morality, good beginning and good end. The Five Blessings were first published in the Shang Shu. Hong Fan", one is Shou, the second is Fu, the third is Kangning, the fourth is Xiu Haode, and the fifth is the final life.
That is to say, high life expectancy and good death, we say here that ending without illness are a blessing and a blessing for people.
For example, my own grandmother, it can be said that the four generations are in the same house, at the age of 92 at the end of their lives, they fell asleep, and they did not wake up, they belonged to the end of no disease, there was no sin, there was no pain and suffering, this should be a good ending, belonging to "joy and mourning".
As almost the oldest old man in the village, the grandmother died, and the whole village came to mourn, but there was no qi Rong, but they were very happy for the grandmother and uncles.
I heard that in Hebei and northern Shandong, if there is a "happy funeral", people from the nearby ten miles and eight villages will even take the initiative to come to mourn in order to "get touched with joy".
Even, on the day of my grandmother's funeral, the village elders told me that this is a "happy funeral" and you should not cry, nor should you cry.
Now what we generally refer to as "funeral joy" often distorts its original meaning. It has become a kind of comparison, or a way to take advantage of the opportunity to accumulate wealth for the living, which is a "blasphemy" for the deceased, and it is not what the deceased wants to see.
Someone has four sons, who died of cancer in their 60s, and in order to compare with other elderly people, their children and grandchildren invited a drama team to set up a stage to sing.
Some people are powerful and powerful, the old father has died, and the spiritual hall has been set up for seven days and seven nights, in order to allow enough time for those who make up their belongings.
In particular, the old man died, and the funeral was carried out, and as a child, he could not cry, and even gave birth to the industry of "crying spirits" for a living.
Zhao Benshan's "Liu Laogen" was specially designed to give people "crying spirits" at the beginning, which is really sad.
In our Yimeng Mountains, there are now "funeral committees" in basic villages and villages. There is no longer a phenomenon of funerals, of course, I have no "joy and mourning".
Everything from Jane, our customs here. If a loved one dies, it is simple and completed in one day.
The year before, a cousin of mine was in his 50s, with an acute myocardial infarction, no one got it at 2 o'clock in the middle of the night, and he was cremated at three o'clock the next day.
"Happy funeral" is not something that anyone can do, and hastily reporting "joy and mourning" will, in the words of our old people, be blessed.