People have a day of birth, old age, illness and death, so we must know how to respect the elderly, filial piety to the elders, and show the predecessors to future generations, so that their next generation can continue this traditional virtue.
However, there is a rule in the countryside, that is, if you die at a very old age, you will be regarded as a dead-end, and even funerals are done in a happy and mournful way, and everyone is not sad or crying, but like doing a happy event.
Some rural areas not only say that they will die at the end of their lives, but also that they will go to bed at the end of their lives, so what is the difference between the two? What kind of situation can be done according to the joy and funeral? The following will interpret these folk trivia with you ~ ~ ~
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First, both of these claims require the deceased to die, at the age of 60 or above, and the cause of death can be too old to function in all aspects of the body, or death from illness.
What is different is that men over the age of 60 who die of illness are called "end-of-life sleep", and women are called "end-of-life sleep".
However, this is a rural favorite saying, in fact, most of them are regardless of men and women, as long as they die at home normally after the age of 60, they can be called "the end of life"!
Rural areas like to call older people "shou", such as giving the elderly a birthday, called "over the life", and the coffin prepared for them is also called shou material, shou coffin, etc.
Rural areas expect longevity, so for some people who die at an old age, there will be something special about funerals.
The so-called "right bed" first refers to the main hall where the emperor handles the government, and later the common people followed suit, calling the main hall or main room of the family house "right bed"!
Therefore, the end of life is the meaning of the 60-year-old man's peaceful death in the main house at home, and the pursuit of many ordinary people is to end his life.
Therefore, even if the age of death does not meet the standard, when doing funerals, they will park the body of the deceased in the main house of the family and are willing to die.
If it is said that the funeral at the end of life is still sad, then when it is happy, the family will send the elderly away in a joyful way.
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First, the whole life
The first is to meet the age requirement, which needs to be 80 years old or above.
In the past, all aspects of rural medical life were not developed, and the average life expectancy was forty or fifty years old, so those who could go to eighty years old were already very long.1 days old.
Therefore, I will feel that when I die at the age of 80, I should not be sad, but I should be happy and need to be handled with joy and funeral.
Now most of them have an average life expectancy of about 76 years old, and there are still many who have reached full life.
But reaching full life is only the first point, and the following two conditions need to be met.
2. All blessings
In fact, if you are highly respected, blessed with both life, prosperous family, harmonious family, filial piety, the ability to send the end to your parents, and if there are successors, and the incense is continuous, this is considered to be a complete blessing in the countryside.
3. The end of the day
To meet the age of 80 and above, the family harmony has children and grandchildren, but also need to meet the "full end" of this condition, in order to celebrate the funeral.
The whole end is the meaning of "good ending", that is, the deceased ends without illness, and naturally grows old and dies.
Like those who are in a car accident, killed, suicide, etc., even if they are older at the time of death, no matter how harmonious the children and grandchildren are, after all, it is a sudden accidental death, and the family cannot be happy and happy to send the old man away.
Because the cemetery of joy and mourning is used to comfort the families of the deceased, the harmonious and normal death of the elderly age and the large family to make the family mourn, the life of the deceased is also considered to be complete, the deceased has passed away, and the living mourn.
Therefore, for the deceased who are in line with the joy of mourning, the gifts are not given with white cloth, but with red ribbons and red accounts, and the funeral is done happily.
The family members will not be too sad, but they will be more relieved of the departure of the elderly, and they will stop for three or five days, set up a feast, and entertain relatives and friends to eat and drink.
The funeral of the deceased becomes a carnival party for the living.
Not only that, some places hold joy and funerals, but also set up a big drama stage to sing big dramas, put on popular songs, invite people to dance, and the funeral music directly becomes joy.
Locals like to say that the old joy and mourning is to laugh, the old man has worked hard for more than half a century, and now that he is gone, he is going to heaven to enjoy the blessings, so he cannot cry.
The village holds a happy funeral, and young and middle-aged people feel relaxed, but they can take this opportunity to gather and drink.
But for the families of the deceased and the elderly in the village, it is still inevitable to be sentimental.
After all, relatives have lost their loved ones, even if they live a long life, but they are not sad and are false.
And the elderly, seeing the death of people of their own age, will also think that they may soon die, and it is inevitable that they will be sentimental.
After a person dies, he needs to burn his clothes before he was born, and then burn even the tribute, and sprinkle some white wine on it in order to burn quickly.
When the old man is buried in a coffin, the children must also take the hemp rope tied to their bodies and throw it into the coffin to bury together.
At the end of the funeral, the white flowers, filial piety belts, filial piety, etc. are removed, and the immediate family members need to wear black veils to thank the filial piety.
Even in the eyes of many people in the countryside, they would like to be able to do a happy funeral after they die in the future, in other words, the joy and mourning are enviable in the countryside.
Because from the three conditions of joy and funeral, it is true that the old man who can celebrate the funeral and do the funeral is also happy before he dies.
However, if it is a person who has been stumbling and bumpy in his life, and has experienced unfortunate things such as losing his son and widowed in middle age, he can only be sent away sadly.
For the joy and mourning, some people feel that it should not be, after all, some people have passed away, after all, they are still sad, and they should not be happy to be mourned.
But there are also people who feel that eighty or ninety years old or even over a hundred years old died, the family is harmonious, the children and grandchildren are full of halls, even if they are gone, the living should also be relieved, the tone is sad to do a funeral and hurt the body, it is better to send away the king with joy, and the mourning continues to live!
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