The pictures in this article are selected from the pictures of Li Yang and Kim's related characters, all from the Internet.
Some melons, everyone really did not want to eat, but they were caught off guard and stuffed with a mouthful.
For example, crazy English Li Yang "and" domestic violence of this hot search. What？ 10 years ago domestic violence against the wife, 10 years later began to domestic violence daughter?
The post-80s and post-90s should still know Li Yang, who once influenced many people with "crazy English", and the most brilliant resume is that he served as the head coach of English speaking training for volunteers at the Beijing Olympic Games.
But now "speaks for him" in addition to crazy English, there are also domestic violence men.
Let's talk about this on the hot search first. Before the start of the national children's school, Li Yang's ex-wife Kim suddenly sent a video complaining about Li Yang's abusive daughter Li Hua.
According to Kim's meaning, the video was recorded by the second daughter Li Na, there was no picture, only to hear Li Yang frantically scolding in English, "What's the matter?" Sit down! Shut up! Li Hua was crying.
Then there was a commotion, not knowing what was happening, Li Na should have rushed into the room and yelled at her father, "What are you doing!" Do you want to hit me? You want to kill me? ”
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Sorry, in order not to be punched in the face and as rigorous as possible, I can only say for the time being that this is what Kim wants to express. She also made it clear that Li Yang brutally beat her daughter.
Kim said it very clearly: 10 years ago you beat me up and said it was Chinese culture, I couldn't help it, I got divorced. But you are the father of the child, so I forgive you. You married a young woman, I bless; you gave birth to a new baby, I congratulate. But you beat up our daughter, I can't stand it.
In particular, the phrase "Chinese culture" describing domestic violence as "Chinese culture" made netizens angry and joking about "wanting to hand a knife".
Yesterday morning, Kim sent another Weibo report to ping an, once again saying that it was unacceptable for men of more than 110 kilograms and 1 meter 8 to beat 12- and 15-year-old girls, and posted a WeChat message sent to her by Li Na Lihua.
According to the screenshot, Li Hua said "Daddy is beating us" and sent a photo of him crying, with small bloody wounds on his face.
Li Na's message also revealed that when she heard her father beat Li Hua, Li Hua began to cry. And the reason why she shouted "Do you want to kill me, hit me?" was because her father said he was going to kill her or something. Then the father and daughter fought.
Seeing that Li Na was a little hysterical in order to protect her sister, Li Yang was afraid.
Yesterday afternoon, Li Yang finally responded, the keywords are "slander" and "grievance".
It is clear that the video posted by Kim was a screenshot, which is not the case. And it happened on July 2, when the two daughters' visas expired and have now returned to the United States.
He disciplined the children because Li Na was absent from class and early love, and asked Li Hua to clean his room. The rhetoric was a little fierce, but there was absolutely no beating of the child.
He also posted the happy times that his daughters spent with him during their lives in china to prove that the father-daughter relationship was harmonious.
Domestic violence is an absolutely serious matter, there is no doubt about it, but because the "debaters" are still in the free play stage, the attitude of netizens this time has calmed down a lot.
Especially after the reversal of many events in July and August, everyone who was punched in the face and doubted human nature learned to "wait and see what happens".
Another point is that Li Yang has a previous record of domestic violence, and Kim, as a former victim, bravely exposed and decisively divorced, not only won the domestic violence lawsuit with the help of public opinion, but also was once regarded as a heroic figure in the country against domestic violence.
But two years ago, she suddenly sent a long text to forgive Li Yang.
The phrase "I will always love my husband" shocks people into thinking that they are threatened. Then there are the long stories "Love is not a pool that can be switched on and off at will", "Emotional relationships are not fast food that can be discarded at will", "The first slap in the face does not automatically relieve the love in your heart"...
Forgive it, forgive it, the keywords are still full of love, so that everyone thinks that the two are going to remarry. Don't say that the cultural differences between the East and the West are not used properly, and there is nothing wrong with Kim's Chinese to write such metaphors.
So this time, although everyone is still unconditionally supportive of anti-domestic violence, it is inevitable that there will be some psychological discomfort for Kim.
Whether Li Yang has repented over the years or not, everyone does not know.
These days, Weibo is brushing up on the clips of him when he participated in the "Oriental Live Room" 10 years ago.
At that time, some people said that they did not understand why he did not stop on TV, implying that the ugliness of the family should not be publicized. Li Yang replied: I need to be on TV, because everyone needs me to go on TV. It is true that the wife was beaten. A fight is a fight, and an apology is enough.
Educators also make mistakes, and the mistake of hitting people is not a serious mistake...
Venus was so angry on the spot that he was uncultured, and he in turn felt that Venus's anger was due to immaturity, and even because of a misruly threatening to be rude to one of the female guests present.
Even in a video of a speech exposed by Kim in 2014, Li Yang claimed to be a spokesman for domestic violence, glorifying wife beating as a "Sino-US cultural conflict."
He said: "My American wife scolds every day, every day like this, I slap her on the ground, is it too much to give her a slap for five years?" Isn't [her] verbal violence worse? She scolded every day, I endured every day, fortunately I could endure, if in the United States I shot her down. ”
There was an audience in the audience laughing and applauding.
Until the previous two years, the "educator" was asked about the impact of domestic violence on his career, and he also said that in addition to having no face, it had no impact at all, but was busier than before.
Like many years ago, he also used his domestic violence as a paragraph in public speeches.
Therefore, whether it is a domestic violence daughter, let the bullet fly for a while. But can such an "educator" who once claimed to be the spokesperson for domestic violence still educate the children of thousands of families?
Today's private reply comes from a wife who has suffered domestic violence but has been accused of being flirtatious, hoping that Seth can help her.
Hello Thurs:
Can you imagine that my husband and I have not spoken for about half a year, or more precisely, in the past six months, we have spoken no more than 20 sentences, and each sentence has not exceeded 5 words.
Scary?
I was getting a divorce, and my family said I was being pretentious and told me not to do it. At that time, when he married her, everyone was against it, because his conditions were inferior to mine in all aspects; now he wants to divorce, and everyone is also opposed, only because after two years of marriage, he suddenly opened up and has made a lot of progress in his career and finances.
Whose question it is, I don't understand. Why is it that since he began to be busy and began to earn money, our distance has widened day by day, until now such a cold situation?
I haven't changed. But I can't stand it either.
Over the past year, I have taken the initiative many times and wanted to have a good talk with him. But he was very impatient, or very tired, and I was stuck in my throat and breathless.
I was also tired, there was no other way out, and I didn't know when my love for him would be worn out little by little.
Without the support of my family, I went to talk to my friends again, because I felt that when making major decisions in life, there must always be someone to support you, so as not to appear too obstinate.
As a result, she listened to me and came to a sentence: Isn't it too cheap for him to divorce now?
Yes, after he was financially prosperous, he did not give me less for my family. Every month, a transfer message will pop up on my mobile phone coldly, and he will fix my account to transfer a generous amount of household use.
But this marriage has nothing but money transfers.
We were married for a few years, and I have been carrying the pressure of all parties without having children. Occasionally wondering if it might be different if I had a child? But now that we are all in the same bed and have different dreams, why should I force anything more?
Sometimes I'm incredibly determined, sometimes I'm particularly confused.
Seth replied:
Hello see the letter, this girl.
First of all, you are not sick, it is your husband who is sick.
Many people hide more symptoms than those that can make people live in the ICU in minutes.
Liu Shufen in "No Questions Asked" has a line that is still fresh in people's minds: "Outsiders only see how I beat and scold you, but they don't know how you beat me." You didn't hit me with your hands, you hit me with your attitude. ”
In a relationship, many people think that the worst-case scenario is to be deceived, but they do not know that the same level of despair can be achieved by the loss of communication.
A friend recalled to me the scene in the final stages of his last marriage: "Every day I drove off work with her, stuck on the viaduct for an hour, smoked on the radio or opened the window, but preferred not to even make eye contact. ”
He described the feeling in only two words: "suffocation."
Many people like to package this kind of cold violence as "cold treatment", as if this is a more advanced way for them to deal with family conflicts, in fact, they are too lazy to say more to each other, just like Xu Bochang of "No Questions Asked", who looks down on his partner from the heart.
This kind of contempt may stem from the underlying reasons that existed long before marriage, or it may be caused by the trivialities accumulated after marriage, or it may be a sudden change in the trajectory of life, but in any case, it is enough chronic poison to kill marriage.
Your husband is the third kind, but also the kind I despise the most, as soon as I started to dislike everything in the past, when it was difficult to hug you together to keep warm, now I may not even bother to look at the right eye.
And the most embarrassing thing about this kind of goods is that there is no thief's heart and no thief's guts, although he also wants to dump you early to push open the door of the new world, and he is afraid of eating ugly, so for him, the cheapest material to give now has become "extremely generous" to outsiders.
Being a bad guy is not complete, and he's working hard to be a person.
I suggest that you don't bother with it anymore, to put it badly, this year's divorce still has to go through the people around you to raise their hands to vote?
Even if they can really put themselves in your shoes, what about people who are willing to lose their real marriage and envy having a husband? Your pain seems to them to be the result of wishing.
I admire your understanding of marriage, we choose to live alone, the most important thing is always to be able to see the world, can talk to each other side by side, share happiness and sadness.
That's all, and so on.
Fortunately, this marriage did not last so long, and it is more correct to refuse to have children before you think clearly, just imagine how depressed and sad it is for a child who grows up in such an environment.
Finally, I would like to send you a sentence from "The Tale of the Next Wife":
It takes more courage to grasp happiness than to endure pain.
Good luck with your courage in the right choices.
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Thurs, a woman with a scented soul signed author. Ten years of advertising man, the poisonous chicken soup maker walking in the emotional world, understanding feminism from the perspective of a man, good at gentle reasoning, a straight man who does not hate, the portfolio "Concave and Convex Relativity".
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