The weakness of human nature

Chapter 1: Basic Techniques for Dealing with Others

Only those who are not wise enough will criticize, accuse, and complain about others. Indeed, a lot of stupid people do that. Instead of complaining and blaming, it is better to understand more, put yourself in their shoes and think about why they would do this, which is more beneficial than criticism, and in this way, it will make us

Generate compassion, tolerance, and kindness.

1: Master Golden Words

We need to understand that criticism is like a domestic pigeon, they always fly home. We should understand that whoever we want to be right and condemn will defend himself, and thus condemn us in turn. Or, they'll be like the mild President Taft, who will say, "I don't know what I'm going to do is different from what I've already done." ”

2: Master Golden Words

Next time, if we want to criticize someone, let's get out of our pockets with a five-dollar bill, look at Lincoln's portrait on the bill, and ask ourselves, "Suppose Lincoln encounters such a difficult problem, how will he deal with it?"

As Dr. Johnson said, "God will not judge anyone until His end comes." "Why should you and I criticize others? Therefore, do not easily criticize, condemn, and complain about others.

3: Master Jin Yan

"Sincerely, generously praised", people will cherish your words and never forget them for the rest of their lives——— years later, you may have forgotten what you said, but he still remembers them.

4: Master Golden Words

Owen Young, a well-known American lawyer and famous business leader, once said: "People who can set themselves in the situation of others, people who can understand their psychological activities do not have to worry about their future." ”

After reading Tsubaki: Confucius, a famous great thinker and educator in China, once said, "Do not do to others what you do not want." While criticizing, blaming and complaining about others, think about it from the other side, if it is myself who is criticized, accused and complained, how will I look at this problem? The famous psychologist Hans Hill once said: "We are all afraid of being blamed, which is already proved by quite a lot of evidence." "We always criticize, blame and complain about others, but we never think about reviewing and reflecting on ourselves. Truly intelligent people will never directly criticize, accuse, and complain about others, but find ways to make others accept their opinions. Try to get to know them and figure out why they do that. This would be more effective than direct criticism, accusation and complaining. I treat others sincerely, understand and tolerate others, and others will treat me with sincerity. This should be the case with family, friends, and colleagues, and this is the skill of getting along with people. I have benefited greatly from this and should constantly improve and perfect myself.