To be a human being, you are valuable in having self-knowledge.
However, many people do not understand "self-knowledge", let alone what "self-knowledge" is.
No matter how high the sky is, there is still a skyline; no matter how wide the earth is, there are still boundaries.
Sometimes, there is no tone and no boundary in human nature, but there is no end.
The biggest characteristic of people without boundaries is self-righteousness.
As everyone knows, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people.
If man does not have humility and respect, and is arrogant and arrogant, there will be disasters.
From childhood to adulthood, there is one of the educations we receive, and if a person has self-confidence, he is half successful.
More than enough is too much.
Any good quality, good thing, if it is beyond convenience, will be counterproductive.
For example, if you are too confident, you will unconsciously evolve into a kind of conceit.
The immediate consequence of self-conceit is often to be obnoxious.
There is a self-proclaimed psychology enthusiast friend, every time everyone comes out to play together, he always looks like he sees through everything, but when others say something and talk about something, he uses the so-called "psychology" to "analyze" people.
At first, everyone was slightly curious about his "professional" statement, but after a long time, every time they met, they would be criticized and dissected by him, and they were not very happy.
Once, when a friend was tripped up by another person in the unit, wronged, and just after vomiting, everyone was preparing to raise a glass, and when they drank unhappily, he said:
"Everything you get now is what you allowed before. People are greedy for you, you didn't know how to reject others before, there are no boundaries in being a person, and now people make you tripping, which is a very normal thing. ”
The friend, who was in the midst of grievances, did not come out, listened to his words, and at that time he replied to him:
"You are a friend, now I am not happy, you are now a friend even if you have three drinks, if you don't drink, you will leave, we will no longer be friends in the future." 」
Everyone can see that the wronged friend is deliberately intimidating him.
Only he seemed to be out of the sky, did not understand at all, and wanted to continue to say something.
Later, it was another friend who pulled it over, and the matter was over. That day's meal, the back also ate very awkwardly, everyone invariably talked less, directly after the "psychological self-confidence" left, only to express fear of saying something, and was analyzed.
In the future gatherings, everyone also understood and did not call him together.
The interaction between adults needs respect and understanding, but the big truth, or blind criticism and criticism.
This friend's confidence in psychology just reflects the current he does not understand what psychology is, but swollen face and fat, even his own position can not be located, but to blindly analyze others.
It's good to be confident, and it's not a bad thing to be willing to learn and share, it should be based on respect for others.
If you trample on others as a stepping stone to elevate yourself, then you will be eaten by others.
Whether it is walking the rivers and lakes, or being alone, knowing how to accurately position yourself is the wisdom of a person.
Beyond the ability of the self, blind self-confidence is self-righteous and disgusting.
I don't know, is there such a person around you:
There seems to be a sense of superiority that comes with them.
Specific manifestations are:
With a little experience in a large company, they are dismissive of people in small units;
Having a period of reading experience, he pointed fingers at the people around him;
After wearing two or three designer clothes, I felt that I was among the celebrities, superior, and empty-eyed.
It is undeniable that such a person may indeed have some ordinary people who have no experience, knowledge and profession, and even economic conditions, but no matter how much he has, it is only his personal things, and if he wants to show off, he can only close the door and be happy, rather than dressed in front of outsiders.
Such a person, others generally do not envy, but will be disgusted.
Don't be arrogant when you are proud, and don't be trampled when you are frustrated.
Life in the world, ups and downs, ups and downs, no one can have a smooth life, no wind and no waves, the current brilliance, does not represent the eternal golden splendor.
A person who is too arrogant is equivalent to playing with fire and self-immolation.
They can't see their true selves and they don't see anyone else in their eyes.
Really powerful people often know how to be humble and do things in a low profile.
Many times, if a person wants to really grow, only by being good at putting himself low can he truly learn the knowledge of growth, in obscurity, slowly edified by time, Taoguang and obscurity, and finally, reach the peak.
In our hometown, there is a saying: a full jar does not swing, half a jar swings.
This means that a jar, filled with water, is more stable, and those jars, which are only half a jar of water, will be shaky due to insufficient connotation.
The same is true when it comes to people.
A person likes to be under the public, showing off, showing off their abilities, money, status, etc., which just reflects the lack of foundation of this person, self-righteousness, as if jumping beam clown.
Unfortunately, self-righteous people may not understand this truth for the rest of their lives and have been imprisoned by the so-called sense of superiority for a lifetime.
Two days ago, when chatting with colleagues, I talked about an old colleague who had been retired for more than two years.
The old colleague is a particularly low-key person.
Coming from a large family, it is said that the whole street belonged to their family at that time, probably because of this family environment, which gave him an innate sense of nobility.
Even if the family road fell later, the quality revealed in the bones was still not submerged.
After joining the work, the old colleague's profound cultural skills were quickly discovered by the unit leaders and transferred him to the office to do clerical work.
For more than 30 years, no one did not praise the articles he wrote by hand.
It is said that every time someone asked him for advice, he never boasted about himself, always humbly expressed, learned from each other, and patiently discussed with others how to write articles.
In order to talk with young people and keep the article up to date, he usually asks young people for some Internet hot words and software usage.
Blessed is humility.
Be humble and treat others, and Fang Fu will come from within.
In this world, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, if you take your own strengths to trample on the shortcomings of others, you will inevitably be disgusted by others, and you will let yourself fall into a blind and arrogant circle.
People live to value themselves, but not on the basis of contempt for others.
Others exalt you, it is a respect for you, if you put yourself on the top, you are overwhelmed.
Whenever and wherever you are, either know how to socialize upwards or get along in parallel.
Smart people, can see the advantages of the people around them, take their strengths, make up for the shortcomings, and constantly improve themselves, is the way to grow.
Source: Clothed Village
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