Writer Liu Yong once said: "Everyone has the problem of showing off, and when you are showing off, it is also the moment when your weakness is revealed." ”
Deeply.
In life, there are always people who like to hold up their faces and create a sense of superiority for others.
You have to provoke the envious eyes of the people around you before you are willing to give up.
As everyone knows, sometimes, what you desperately show off and show off may be what you lack.
The decency you disguise, instead of adding glory to yourself, will appear ignorant and ignorant.
Therefore, even if you are proud, don't casually show the bottom card and learn to be a silent adult.
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Don't show your wealth in front of others
There is such a story in "The New Language of the World".
Shi Chong, a rich man in the Western Jin Dynasty, was a man with a strong sense of vanity, not only lived in the "Golden Valley Garden" prosperous and luxurious, but even the toilets were extremely exquisite and exquisite.
At that time, there was a man named Liu Yu who wanted to go to the toilet, and saw that there were gorgeous furnishings such as crimson gauze tents and blankets, and there were maids waiting with sachets.
Frightened, Liu Huan hurried back and said to Shi Chong, with a look of chagrin on his face: "Disrespectful and disrespectful, the subordinate official mistakenly entered the adult's bedroom." ”
Shi Chong smiled and said, "That's the toilet." ”
Liu Yu was shocked for half a day and could not speak, "I can't enjoy such a toilet." So I looked for a toilet elsewhere.
Shi Chong not only loves to show off his wealth, but also likes to fight for wealth.
Once, Shi Chong fought with his uncle Wang Kaifu.
Wang Kai ordered the pot to be brushed with wheat sugar water, and Shi Chong asked the domestic servants to use candles instead of firewood to burn the fire; Wang Kai traveled with purple silk cloth to make a forty-mile step barrier, and Shi Chong ordered people to use multicolored brocade cloth to make a fifty-mile step barrier;
Shi Chong, who showed his financial strength, won an overwhelming victory in this battle for wealth, but he was also targeted by people with hearts.
In the end, he was framed for plotting against him, confiscated all his family property, and lost his life.
It can be seen that in order to satisfy the vanity on the face, every person will show off, in addition to arousing the envy and jealousy of others, but also confirm their ignorance.
On the surface, it looks like a long face for yourself, but in fact it only leaves people with a rich and powerful appearance.
If you meet a person with ill intentions, you may arouse people's greed, but instead you will cause trouble and disaster.
As the saying goes, "The wise hide a lot, and the fool often shows off." ”
Truly wealthy people never deliberately show off their wealth to show off their inner satisfaction.
Because they know that money is just an external object, and it should not be the capital for you to compare.
People live to the extreme, not vanity and wantonness, but low-key and restraint.
Therefore, showing off is impossible, and only knowing how to hide money is the consciousness that adults should have.
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Don't show off your happiness in front of others
Life is like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge!
The same goes for happiness.
Human sorrow and joy are not the same, and the more you are happy, the more likely you are to pierce the happiness of the other party.
See such a story on Zhihu.
My son was admitted to college, and although it was an ordinary university, the whole family was still very pleased.
The father said to his son:
"Son, you are better than your parents, we used to suffer from the loss of no culture, but fortunately you worked hard to have the results you have now."
The son smiled shyly, smiling sweetly and comfortably, and surrounded them with happiness.
Near the start of school, the family went to the station to send their son to school, and met an acquaintance.
The acquaintance patted his father on the shoulder and asked, "What university did your son go to?" ”
As soon as my father said the name of the school, the acquaintance immediately showed a look of surprise and said:
"That university is not good, reading is also a white read, in the future graduation can not find a job, it is better to go to work early." My son was admitted to a prestigious university, and after graduation, everyone was rushing to get it. ”
After saying that, a proud smile appeared on his face, and he took care of himself and left.
Looking at the back of the acquaintance leaving, the family's expression suddenly became lonely, and the original happy and heart-warming atmosphere suddenly disappeared.
Between the two words of happiness, the most intolerable thing is to compare and show off.
Some people are always eager to show off their joy and completely ignore the feelings of others.
As everyone knows, maybe the happiness you flaunt is poking at the pain of others.
Life is also not a stage, fortunately unhappy, not wonderful, do not need to be proved by the envy and applause of others.
Many times, showing off not only does not illuminate people's hearts, but will add to the blockage of others and destroy hard-won happiness.
Over time, people around you will slowly alienate you.
There is no standard answer to happiness, there is more than one way to find happiness, I hope that everyone can quietly pursue their own light, to enjoy the warm and soft little luck.
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Don't show off your knowledge in front of others
In this noisy world, how can we go fast and far?
One of the high praises replied: Maybe by luck, you will go very fast. But only by accumulating their own strength can they lay out a romantic and colorful life.
In ancient times, there was a Xiucai who felt that his calligraphy had been practiced to perfection and was quite a master.
Even if it is compared with the master, it is not inferior, even if it is described in a thousand words.
Later, he was invited to the capital to participate in the "Yaji", which attracted the attention of many literati and scholars.
In the crowd, he saw a man holding a blank fan, walked up to him, and stood up as if showing off, took the fan and prepared to write a poem on it.
Unexpectedly, the person who came to his knees with a thud, Xiu Cai laughed secretly and said, "Writing a few words for you is just a show of hands for me, and there is no need to perform such a big gift." ”
The person who came panicked and said, "Please don't write, this fan is something I bought at a great cost, I can't afford to waste it?" ”
Xiu Cai listened, full of shame, and thought that he could show off his talent and show off his superb calligraphy.
As everyone knows, the words that are worth thousands of dollars in their eyes can't even withstand the fan in others.
Xiucai was depressed, and the teacher learned the ins and outs and said, "Don't you understand?" People must not be proud of themselves, because of their own little knowledge, they are overwhelmed and boast and show off. ”
It is inevitable that some people in life always think that they are very powerful, and if they have some achievements, they love to be complacent and wantonly show off, thinking that no one can beat them.
As everyone knows, if you look too highly on yourself, you are doomed to lose completely.
Not only will you not win the envious eyes of others, but it will expose your superficiality and ignorance.
You must know that there are mountains outside the mountains, there are people outside the people, and there is never a shortage of excellent and powerful people in this world.
People who really have great wisdom are often very low-key and never take the initiative to open their mouths to flaunt themselves.
Just as there is a cloud in the old saying: "The heavens are self-exalting, the earth is self-explanatory, and with all things as a reference, one can see one's own inadequacies." ”
As a person, no matter what situation you are in, don't overestimate yourself, and don't underestimate others.
Everything can be stopped, know how to converge the edge, not proud of oneself and not short, in order to win the favor of everyone.
I like a quote from the writer Maugham:
"What you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and what you have to deal with is the cleverness that you want to rush out of the moment and want to make a splash." 」
In life, there are always people who like to show off in a high profile and try to get the envious eyes of others to satisfy vanity.
However, it always backfires.
Others do not understand your feelings, even if the noise is loud, it is a waste of effort, but it will expose the emptiness of the heart.
Truly powerful, we should learn to precipitate, keep a low profile and do not show publicity, and always maintain inner humility and respect.
Admittedly, there is no one else outside the door, only yourself.
For the rest of your life, don't always live to show others, shine in your own world, and pick up the joy of life.
Light up "watching", may you keep a sense of sobriety, have a restraint, keep a quiet heart of pure joy, and watch the clouds rise and fall.
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