I was supposed to marry love and ended up losing to money

□ Yu Ensheng

The decision to break up was just two days before the engagement

The Mid-Autumn Festival was originally the day when Shao Yi and I were betrothed, but just two days before the festival, we broke up...

Shao Yi's parents came to our house to explain the bride price repeatedly, saying that Shao Yi had made up his own mind, that they had always liked me, and had always prepared according to the number said at that time...

Listening to their chatter, I was frustrated and chagrined like a needle felt: Uncle and aunt, I really am not for money, nor for gambling, after this, I found that we are not the same kind of people, even if we are married, we will not be happy...

After Shao Yi's parents left, my parents sighed and called my aunt and uncle, saying that the wedding banquet had been cancelled, and that the situation was special, and that they would explain it to them after the festival...

After the phone call, my mother cried: How to go out to meet people? Pingping, are you short of those tens of thousands of dollars? Sooner or later, if you have to paste it upside down, why do you have to make a big fuss about small money?

I know that what is more difficult for my mother to accept than the "yellow" affair is face.

I used to put my arms around my mother: It's not a question of money at all, it's a matter of human nature, is face important or is your girlfriend's happiness important for a lifetime? Besides, I just posted it upside down, and I have to be willing, right? Mom sighed: In fact, I also understand that it is not a matter of money, I just feel a little pity...

We are together because of love

It's money again. I can't avoid that word. But at first, I was with Shao Yi because of love.

Last year, during the eleventh long holiday, my classmates introduced me to Shao Yi, saying that he graduated from a prestigious university, was a civil servant of the district direct organ, was smart and capable, and looked good. At that time, I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend, and I didn't want to fall in love right away, but I couldn't stand the repeated encouragement of my classmates, so I met with Shao Yi. Shao Yi fell in love with me at first sight, and I also felt that he had a rare temperament: calm, not exaggerated, and his speech and demeanor made people feel very determined...

I told my parents about Shao Yi's situation, they are not very supportive, I think the gap between the two families is too big: Shao Yi's parents opened a small supermarket after being laid off, although they have no worries about food and clothing, but compared to our family, it is almost a world of difference, and the boyfriend I talked about before, the economic conditions are very good. My parents are not worried about my lack of money, but they are afraid that the difference between the two people's family backgrounds is too big, and they will not be able to go together...

In fact, without my parents saying, I also hesitated in my heart, because after my aunt's cousin married the phoenix man, she was very uncomfortable with the brother-in-law's poverty and stinginess, and because the in-laws were calculating everywhere in the economy and often quarreled, at the beginning it was quite enviable, and now they are separated, and divorce is only a matter of morning and evening...

But in the end, I still established a relationship with Shao Yi, because he made me very moved: he talked about the poor appetite and was reluctant to eat some good food when he was studying for graduate school, and people were so thin that they were out of shape; he said that when he was a village official, he visited every household and innocently organized idle young people to learn English; he told that his first blind date was laughed at by the woman because he was dressed in a rustic manner, and he also said that he missed the simple and simple life before, and now the environment temptation is too great, and he must always be vigilant to maintain a new heart... Listening to Shao Yi is a kind of enjoyment, simple, sincere, and philosophical, compared to those ex-boyfriends who opened their mouths and luxury cars and mansions in Dubai, Maldives, I feel that I have found an ambitious and enterprising young talent.

In love for nearly a year, I almost covered all the expenses, ate and played and watched movies. It's not that Shao Yi refuses to spend money, it's that I don't want to increase his burden: because he often talks about how his parents save money in order to buy a house for him, and he also says that in order to give me a beautiful wedding, even the two-yuan unit meal has stopped, and every day he goes home at noon to eat...

Listening to this, I was very touched, in fact, the money thing does not need him to worry at all, my parents said, in the future, let us live in the river house, will also give me a rich dowry. But I never told him, first, for fear of hurting his self-esteem, and second, to surprise him when he was betrothed.

However, when it came to the engagement, there was only surprise, no joy...

In his eyes, I just love vanity

In mid-August, Shao Yi was going to Suzhou on a business trip, so I asked me to take a leave of absence to go with him. Although my mother repeatedly told me to grasp the scale before leaving, under Shao Yi's warm kiss, I could not help myself, and that trip to Suzhou became our honeymoon trip...

Maybe I was too sensitive, but after Shao Yi and I had skin kisses, his attitude changed: the previous politeness and respect were gone, replaced by arrogance. When I went to check out, he no longer pushed, but a reasonable expression, and what made me even more congested was that when it came to marriage, he actually said that it was best to live with his parents, rent out the marriage, and earn more than a thousand yuan a month. Listening to him say this, I was very unhappy: What do you mean? How do two generations of more than 80 square meters live? Want to get our family out of the marriage room in this way?

Looking at his serious look, I remembered some small awkwardness when we got along: I bought big-name clothes, he didn't say it, but afterwards he would insinuate that I was vain, and when I watched the movie, I bought two haagen-dazs of more than thirty pieces, he was too expensive to eat, and he kept inhaling cool air, as if I had eaten his flesh... In fact, this is the norm of my life, but in Shao Yi's view, I just like luxury and will not live a life...

I didn't want to hurt my feelings because of money, and I kept being patient, but then things made me have to open my mouth.

Before the betrothed, his mother said that according to the current practice in Weifang, we should give 68,000 yuan: although our family is not rich, the money for the bride price will not be less, and besides, the house is installed by your parents, and we can't make people laugh.

But not long after, Shao Yi said that he wanted to buy a car, asked if the dowry money could be less, I said almost on the line; later, Shao Yi said that he wanted to buy a better car, he could only take out twenty thousand yuan, I was a little unhappy in my heart, but still endured; until half a month before the engagement, Shao Yi said that after setting aside the cost of the wedding, the family had ten thousand yuan left, and had to grievance me on the bride price.

If he had consulted with me first, or had a polite attitude, maybe I would have put up with it, but Shao Yi's tone was unquestionable, and his expression was determined, as if he was just telling me that the decision was up to him and not me.

I felt very humiliated, couldn't bear to get angry, counted our relationship since his miserliness: their family deliberately dragged no decoration, in order to let us pay, usually two families walk around, the things they send are about to expire, and I took the past, are the best and freshest...

Shao Yi was enraged: Haven't you always flaunted the supremacy of feelings, it turns out that in your bones you are still material first...

I was choked up and unable to speak, thinking that I was with him for love, after paying so much or being misunderstood, I felt very worthless, and I said: Since this is the case, we broke up...

Shao Yi was even more annoyed: Do you scare me with money? Divide and conquer...

A formal showdown, not because I'm counting on money

When I calmed down, I felt that I was not really thinking about money, but felt that Shao Yi did not respect me, and even had the meaning of teasing: Anyway, you are not short of money, our family gives a little meaning, even if you are more real? Looking back at some of the things he had said before, I finally understood his thoughts: he had always felt that we had our own plans together, that our family picture was his decent career and future, and that he was trying to figure out the economic conditions of our family. Since each has its own plans, there should be a payment, and if we pay a little more now, he will definitely repay us when he develops in the future.

Thinking about this, I sent a message to Shao Yi and officially announced the breakup. He came to me and begged, wanting to reconcile with me. Seeing that my mind was already decided, he sneered: A lot of rich girls chasing me, you don't regret it in the future.

The parents of both sides knew that we were in a hurry to break up, and repeatedly discouraged us until the eve of the Mid-Autumn Festival... Now that more than ten days have passed, I am not so miserable, but there is still frustration: I ran for love, and finally lost to money...