At 2:00 a.m. on March 8, 1935, Ruan Lingyu returned home after attending a gathering of colleagues, poured three bottles of sleeping pills into the eight treasure porridge prepared by her mother, and swallowed them one by one.
At nearly 12:00 noon on March 8, Ruan Lingyu was sent to a Chinese and Western sanatorium by her boyfriend Tang Jishan for rescue, but unfortunately, 10 hours had passed since she took her medicine, and even if Hua Tuo was alive, she could not return to heaven.
In fact, with the medical conditions in Shanghai at that time, as long as it was sent to the hospital in time within 4 hours after taking the medicine, it was completely possible to be rescued. But Obviously Ruan Lingyu was found by her family half an hour after taking the medicine, why was she sent to the hospital after 10 hours? What's behind this?
Ruan Lingyu is known as the queen of Chinese silent films, and her roles in "Spring Dream of the Old Capital", "Wild Grass Idle Flowers", "Goddess", and "New Woman" are all milestones in the history of Chinese cinema, in that silent era, she only relied on expressions and body language to interpret one role after another vividly.
When Ruan Lingyu and her ex-boyfriend Zhang Damin broke up, the money stored in Zhang Damin's account alone was 200,000 yuan, and Lu Xun only needed 3,000 yuan to buy a courtyard in Shanghai, and her value can be imagined.
However, such a rich and beautiful and capable woman was frantically squeezed by the former Zhang Damin, obviously alive, but was forced to marry in the Spirit Hall, cheated on her friend by her boyfriend Tang Jishan, used as a plaything, and finally walked on a dead end step by step.
Why does Ruan Lingyu repeatedly encounter scumbags? What is the hidden behind her suicide? Let us travel through the tunnel of time and enter the lamentable tragic life of Ruan Lingyu.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > lost her father at the age of 1 or 6, met the "affectionate" young master at the age of 16, and her mother planted a tragic "cause" in her heart </h1>
In 1910, Ruan Lingyu was born into an ordinary worker family, and when she was 6 years old, her father died of illness, and her mother He Aying had to take her to a large family in Shanghai surnamed Zhang to work as a maid.
With the help of Mr. Zhang, Ruan Lingyu entered Hai Chongde Girls' High School. Although she had excellent grades and was highly accomplished in her dance performances, her mother would always warn her, "Don't let anyone know that you are the maid's daughter, they will look down on you." ”
The students still knew Ruan Lingyu's origins, and during a stage performance, the classmates laughed at her as the daughter of a servant and did not deserve to play the noble protagonist at all.
After returning home, Ruan Lingyu cried to her mother about what had happened at school, and He Aying could only sigh: "This is your life!" ”
Unhappy childhoods take a lifetime to heal. The early death of her father, the life under the fence made Ruan Lingyu extremely insecure in her heart. The outside world's disdain for her identity has made her deeply inferior, but the biggest impact is her mother's attitude.
He Aying constantly instilled in her the concept that being a maid's daughter was shameful, which made Ruan Lingyu unable to identify with herself from the depths of her heart, which was the most important reason why she was led by the nose of men again and again.
If her mother's education planted the "cause" of the tragedy for Ruan Lingyu, the arrival of Zhang Damin was the beginning of the tragedy.
Zhang Damin is the fourth young master of Zhang Fu, he was originally going to an unnamed university outside, and when he came home by chance, he saw Ruan Lingyu, and his heart was so moved that he could not sleep at night. At the age of 16, she already has a graceful style, especially those eyes, which are breathtaking.
Zhang Da democratically gestured to He Aying and inquired about Ruan Lingyu's preferences and whereabouts. Immediately after, he went to the park where Ruan Lingyu often went, created a romantic encounter, and revealed that he admired the dancer Duncan, and Ruan Lingyu felt more and more that the two were in love, because his idol was Duncan.
Subsequently, the two often walked and chatted together, and soon the news reached Zhang Damin's mother, who of course would not allow her son to have a relationship with the maid's daughter.
In the face of his mother's obstruction, Zhang Damin's rebellious psychology was even stronger, insisting on being with Ruan Lingyu.
Soon after, Zhang's mother drove Ruan Lingyu's mother and daughter out of the Zhang family on the grounds of "theft", and Zhang Damin also said that "even if you cut off contact with your family, you must be with Ruan Lingyu", and then ran away from home.
Zhang Damin took the private money to rent a house for Ruan Lingyu's mother and daughter, and went to the door every three to five to offer hospitality, at this time Ruan Lingyu was only 16 years old, and she did not understand the love between men and women, and did not express her attitude.
However, He Aying felt that if she missed Zhang Damin, her daughter was afraid that it would be difficult to find a better home, so under the persuasion of her mother and the coaxing of Zhang Damin, Ruan Lingyu dropped out of school and lived with Zhang Damin.
At the beginning of the cohabitation, Ruan Lingyu, who had received a new education, still vaguely felt inappropriate, but her mother said categorically: "Can there be a better way out?" Such a good family can't burn incense. ”
In the early stage of cohabitation, Zhang Damin took the private money, danced with Ruan Lingyu, and felt the lights and wine of the shanghai beach together, they used the shortest time to burn passion and romance, as Zhang Damin's private money became less and less, the contradiction gradually appeared.
Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin in film and television dramas
First of all, the two have very different family backgrounds and are difficult to integrate into each other's lives. Zhang Damin no longer disguises himself as a literary youth, he likes to go to the horse farm to vent, go to the dance hall to buy drunks, go to the casino to splurge, but Ruan Lingyu only likes to read quietly.
More obvious is the economic contradiction, although Ruan Lingyu and her mother are very frugal, but Zhang Damin's expenses are very large, after the private money is spent, he can only go home and ask his mother for it. On this day, he went home to ask for a subsidy, but was ridiculed by his mother.
Zhang Damin was very depressed, and when he returned to the residence, Ruan Lingyu asked him for living expenses.
Zhang Damin suddenly broke out: "Money money money, are you a debt collector?" I don't have any money either. After saying that, he just brushed his sleeve and left.
This was the first time the two had a head-on argument, Ruan Lingyu was angry and crying, but she simply thought that Zhang Damin was only troubled by the economy, as long as the situation was better, everything would return to its original state.
But Zhang Damin not only did not work to make money, but wanted to change the status quo through gambling money, and as a result, the few money was lost, after that, Zhang Damin began to stay home all day.
The identity and personality of the two people are very different, and such a combination is a mistake at the beginning. Although the times have changed, there is no longer a class difference between the master and the servant, but this relationship still has many reference significance for young girls.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > one of them: whether it is love or marriage, it should not be too early </h1>
Years later, Ruan Lingyu regretted and sighed: "At that time, I was too young, and after not knowing him for a long time, I couldn't stand his deception, so the two of them practiced cohabitation." ”
Ruan Lingyu, 16, does not understand what a man-woman relationship is, and all decisions depend on her mother's attitude.
Whether it is love or marriage, it cannot be too early, because at that time, you do not have the ability to think independently, the worldview and values are not formed, and you are likely to make the wrong choice.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > two: don't make any decisions during the love period </h1>
The handsome and golden young master, in love with the humble born handmaiden, the two have endless common topics, such a man, Ruan Lingyu is naturally moved. But she didn't know that these were Zhang Damin's "disguises", and within a few months of living together, Zhang Damin revealed his true face.
During the love period, everyone will intentionally or unintentionally "disguise" and try to show their own advantages, even virtual advantages, to each other. Therefore, people in the hot love period must not rush to make decisions, marriage and cohabitation are slower.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, Ruan Lingyu tries to save the relationship, but is ruthlessly squeezed by Zhang Damin </h1>
Thinking about it, Ruan Lingyu felt that the reason why Zhang Damin had changed greatly was because she had no money, and second, because the two had not yet started a family, so she made two decisions.
One is to go looking for a job. Zhang Damin's eldest brother, Zhang Huichong, is one of the partners of the joint company, and seeing that his brother was so sloppy, he introduced Ruan Lingyu to the star company, and Ruan Lingyu was able to star in the movie "Nominal Couple".
Ruan Lingyu and actor Jin Yan
Subsequently, she starred in some movies, and although she has been tepid, her salary has been able to support the family.
The second is to propose to Zhang Damin to get married and have children, but Zhang Damin is unwilling. Ruan Lingyu is not dead hearted, and adopts a daughter behind her boyfriend's back, trying to impress Zhang Damin with the warmth of the family.
Although Ruan Lingyu tried his best to save the relationship, Zhang Damin was still immersed in the casino, and in the middle of the night, Zhang Damin finally went home, and after a few simple greetings, he asked Ruan Lingyu for money.
Ruan Lingyu persuaded bitterly: "Can you stop gambling?" ”
A sentence caused Zhang Damin to be furious: "You think that making a movie will be beautiful?" I don't even want a home for you, and now I want to see your face? Ruan Lingyu felt ashamed in her heart, or took the money for him.
The following year, Ruan Lingyu participated in the movie "Merlin Edge", and was refrigerated because she offended the director.
At this time, Zhang Damin's father died, and in order to get a huge inheritance, Zhang Damin hastily brought Ruan Lingyu to his father's spiritual hall, and held a prostration ceremony to count as a relative. Because at that time there was a rule that you could not take the inheritance without marriage.
What is even more excessive is that after he got the inheritance, he began to separate from Ruan Lingyu. He rented a yard to raise horses, indulged in gambling and dancing every day, and soon squandered his estate and owed a huge debt.
Cornered, Zhang Damin found Ruan Lingyu again. He changed his previous tough attitude, and even cried and confessed his mistake, Ruan Lingyu was soft-hearted for a while, not only took money to him, but also proposed that the two be reunited. But not long after, Zhang Damin owed a few hundred yuan in gambling debts.
Career setbacks, boyfriend repeatedly squeezed, the fragile Ruan Lingyu took sleeping pills one night, fortunately Zhang Damin found in time to send to the hospital, which saved a life. Waking up in the hospital, Ruan Lingyu looked at her mother and daughter and decided to be strong.
After being discharged from the hospital, she jumped ship to Lianhua Company. In 1930, Ruan Lingyu finally waited for the time and place to be favorable, and she starred in "Spring Dream of the Old Capital" and "Wild Grass Idle Flowers", and Ruan Lingyu became the most popular actress in one fell swoop.
With the growth of fame, Ruan Lingyu's film remuneration has also skyrocketed, close to the first-line price. Zhang Damin often changed the law to find money, and if Ruan Lingyu did not give it, he threatened: "Now that you are so famous, are you not afraid that I will stink you?" ”
At this time, the news of Hu Die's lawsuit with her husband was boiling over. Zhang Damin said triumphantly:
"Hu Die's scandal has become the laughing stock of the whole of Shanghai, and if you shake out the fact that you lived with me at the age of 16, and then tell those tabloid reporters in detail, how much do you say you can sell?"
Ruan Lingyu was trembling with anger, but she could only compromise, because she knew that she did not have the courage to face the dilemma of Hu Die.
She dragged Luo Mingxin, the chairman of Lianhua Company, to find a job for Zhang Damin, with a salary of 120 yuan, which is 3 times that of ordinary people, and then dragged her fellow fan Qiwu to Find a fat shortage for Zhang Damin in Fujian. In this way, Ruan Lingyu briefly got rid of Zhang Damin's entanglement.
Zhang Damin's scum is unquestionable, but the failure of a relationship is bound to be a two-way choice, and Ruan Lingyu's various methods just connived at Zhang Damin.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > first: there is a problem with feelings, and it is impossible to passively escape </h1>
After a few months of living together, Ruan Lingyu found that the two were not suitable, but she was unwilling to face the problem, in a vain attempt to escape the problem by improving the economic situation, or getting married and having children, and finally even escaping by suicide.
It's very much like where we are in marriage today. After getting married, we found that the feelings of the two people had changed, and everyone would persuade themselves that it would be good to have a child, but after the child was born, they faced more problems, and then we would say that it would be better to wait for the child to be older.
In fact, those problems of passive avoidance will one day explode exponentially, and the easiest way to solve problems is to solve them.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second: beware of "emotional blackmail" in intimate relationships </h1>
In intimate relationships such as lovers and couples, many people habitually want to control each other, and their most common form is "emotional blackmail". One side will control the other by threatening, pretending to be pitiful, playing the victim, etc., to make the other party submit to itself.
Zhang Damin knew that Ruan Lingyu valued fame the most, so he threatened it. He blamed ruan lingyu for his predicament, making her feel guilty and eventually obeying her orders.
If an intimate relationship always makes you feel uncomfortable, or gradually loses yourself, you must be wary of whether the other party is "emotional blackmail" against you.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, meet the married rich businessman Tang Jishan, once again use the man as a lifesaver, but fall into a darker abyss </h1>
Ruan Lingyu had a hard time getting rid of Zhang Damin, and thought that she could finally live a few days of comfortable life. But the next year, in 1931, when the Japanese army attacked Shanghai, Ruan Lingyu had to take her daughter to Hong Kong, and then Zhang Damin also went to Hong Kong to defect to her.
In Hong Kong, Zhang Damin once again indulged in gambling, and Ruan Lingyu was very lonely inside. At a dance party, she met Tang Jishan, a personable middle-aged businessman who has not only been married, but also has fallen in love with many actresses.
Tang Jishan
On this day, Tang Jishan took her lover Zhang Zhiyun to the ball, but she was attracted by Ruan Lingyu, who had a cold temperament, and he ignored the lover's side and even offered great courtesy to Ruan Lingyu. Ruan Lingyu, who had already been injured once, naturally would not be easily moved. But Tang Jishan is a veteran of the love scene, and Ruan Lingyu is like an inevitable prey to him.
Soon after, Ruan Lingyu could not rest assured of her mother and returned to Shanghai alone, Tang Jishan knew that this was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, so she quickly abandoned Zhang Zhiyun and returned to Shanghai.
Tang Jishan is a shareholder of Lianhua Company, and during Ruan Lingyu's filming, he often took advantage of his position to visit, and would send a bouquet of flowers every time, and would also write "Don't be too tired" on the card.
Not only that, Tang Jishan often talked about her business experience in front of Ruan Lingyu, like a proud businessman, which made Ruan Lingyu, who had been squeezed by Zhang Damin for a long time, add a little good feeling.
Subsequently, the two often went in and out of the dance hall together, and after the tabloid reporter discovered their whereabouts, he added fuel to the fire and said that the two were in a relationship. Ruan Lingyu, who saw the newspaper, was annoyed, who knew that Tang Jishan hugged her: "Why aren't we really together?" Soon, Tang Jishan bought Ruan Lingyu a three-story bungalow, and the two officially lived together.
Here, after Zhang Damin returned to Shanghai from Hong Kong, he found that Ruan Lingyu had already thrown himself into the arms of Tang Jishan, and the man was rich and powerful, he did not dare to offend, but he refused to give up, and even shamelessly asked Ruan Lingyu for a breakup fee.
In the end, witnessed by the lawyer, Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin signed a break-up agreement, and Ruan Lingyu paid Zhang Damin 100 yuan per month for two years, and the two voluntarily ended their cohabitation relationship, and from then on, the marriage of men and women was irrelevant.
Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan were also sweet at the beginning, it was the happiest day of Ruan Lingyu's life, and her most famous movies "Goddess" and "New Woman" were filmed at that time.
But how could a man who obviously already has a family and is still out in contact with multiple female celebrities love only Ruan Lingyu?
Soon, Tang Jishan began to stay homeless at night, smelling the thick smell of fat powder on her boyfriend's body, and Ruan Lingyu became suspicious. That night, she secretly followed her boyfriend out, and Tang Jishan entered the dance hall and hugged him left and right, among which the closest to him was his friend and neighbor Liang Saizhen.
Ruan Lingyu returned home in a daze, but when Tang Jishan returned drunk, she didn't even have the courage to question him why, and only advised him not to come back too late in the future.
But Tang Jishan intensified, although he came back late, but he demanded that Ruan Lingyu must return home on time, and once it was too late, he would shut her out.
During the filming of "Xiang Xue Hai", due to the tight construction schedule, Ruan Lingyu sometimes had to go home in the middle of the night. At 12 o'clock that night, when she knocked on the door, no one answered for half a day.
Mother He Aying was ready to open the door, but was stopped by Tang Jishan: "If you dare to open the door, go out with her." ”
Ruan Lingyu knew that it must be Tang Jishan who would not let herself in, and she cried and pleaded: "Please, let me come in, I have no place to go." It was winter, and she was shivering with cold, but Tang Jishan didn't let her into the house until the early hours of the morning.
Not only that, in life, once Ruan Lingyu is slightly unhappy with his heart, Tang Jishan will fight hard, and even do it in front of outsiders.
Li Minwei once wrote in his diary: "This night at the Xinghua Building, Tang Jishan somehow beat Ruan Lingyu in public. ”
Tian Han also sighed: "I don't understand why Ruan Lingyu would marry such a Ximen Qing-like person!" ”
If you were overwhelmed by feelings at the beginning, why did you hide it again and again after facing your boyfriend's cheating and domestic violence?
On the one hand, when she was a child, Ruan Lingyu was the daughter of a maid with white eyes, and when she grew up, she was squeezed by Zhang Damin's despicableness. With the mature and stable Tang Jishan, she gained an unprecedented sense of security and love. Knowing that the other party is a husband with a wife, Ruan Lingyu still has no remorse.
On the other hand, the reason why Ruan Lingyu is willing to accept Tang Jishan is also because she feels that Tang Jishan, who is rich and powerful, can help her completely get rid of Zhang Damin.
In addition, Ruan Lingyu was too concerned about face and too concerned about the eyes of others, at that time, everyone knew that they were lovers, and Ruan Lingyu felt that if she really fell out, it would only damage her reputation.
Most importantly, Ruan Lingyu, who is in love, is still too naïve, knowing that Tang Jishan is a scumbag, but she always hopes that she is the most special woman, hoping that she can impress him and make him a good man.
But in fact, a man's attitude toward women and feelings is mostly a reflection of other people's character, and a person who has no sense of responsibility for marriage and wife must be selfish, and no one can really impress him.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, two boyfriends took turns to sue, Ruan Lingyu was under pressure to commit suicide </h1>
The roof leaked during the overnight rain, and here, ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan's feelings were full of contradictions. Over there, Zhang Damin saw that Ruan Lingyu was getting more and more popular, and even proposed to raise the living expenses of 100 yuan per month to 150 yuan and pay it for life.
Ruan Lingyu couldn't make up her mind, so she consulted with Tang Jishan, who knew that the other party said coldly: "Whatever you do, I won't give a penny anyway." Ruan Lingyu's heart was like falling into an ice cave. But before she could relax, she received a letter from Zhang Damin's lawyer accusing Ruan Lingyu of privately engraving Zhang's seal and stealing property to give to Tang Jishan.
Ruan Lingyu originally wanted to calm things down, but Tang Jishan learned that he was involved in the lawsuit, and he was instantly angry, on the one hand, he let Ruan Lingyu publish a newspaper to declare that the two did not have any economic exchanges, on the other hand, he also accused Zhang Damin of fabricating facts.
Of course, Tang Jishan's series of operations were not to help Ruan Lingyu, but to protect his reputation, but unfortunately he lost the case.
After tasting the sweetness of the lawsuit, Zhang Damin accused Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan of adultery, on the grounds that his marriage relationship with Ruan Lingyu, or the cohabitation relationship had not been dissolved.
At this point, Ruan Lingyu was even more panicked, because the lawyer who made the breakup agreement for the two of them had committed an accident and was revoked, so that the breakup agreement lost its legal effect.
In addition, Ruan Lingyu starred in a movie called "New Woman" at that time, which attacked newspapers and magazines for disregarding the facts and maliciously fabricating news. This made many unscrupulous media people hate Ruan Lingyu, Zhang Damin sued twice, that is, the reporter's instigation, and some reporters spent a lot of money to hire a good lawyer for Zhang Damin.
Before the trial began, various newspapers began to fabricate various colored articles by Ruan Lingyu, and for a time Ruan Lingyu was labeled with many embarrassing labels such as "relying on men to ascend to power" and "private life indiscipline".
Ruan Lingyu has always cherished her reputation, and two lawsuits have left her faceless in the face of the public and the media, and her mood is very unstable. But Tang Jishan, the pillow person, not only did not comfort her, but became the last straw that crushed the camel.
Before the trial, Lianhua held a colleague party, and everyone thought that Ruan Lingyu would not attend, but she appeared happily at the party with Tang Jishan. That night, she pulled Tang Jishan to dance wildly, and after the end, she hugged and said goodbye to every colleague, which would not have happened before.
But Tang Jishan did not care about his girlfriend's abnormality, and on the way home, he repeatedly told Ruan Lingyu to carefully consider the words in court.
Ruan Lingyu said lightly, "I'm tired." Tang Jishan instantly lost his temper, knowing that Ruan Lingyu would never reject him before, he angrily rebuked: "Harm others and harm yourself." ”
Ruan Lingyu did not respond, and when she returned home, she went upstairs with a cold face, and Tang Jishan pulled her aside and scolded: "Where did you get your temper?" ”
Ruan Lingyu replied coldly, "I have always had a temper." Rest assured, I will certainly save your face in court, and all the faults will be borne by me alone. ”
Tang Jishan's face turned green and he raised his hand to prepare to fight. Ruan Lingyu not only did not hide, but instead put her face over: "You beat me, just beat me to death, or I go out, and you lock the door again?" ”
"Snap", Tang Jishan slapped Ruan Lingyu a few steps back, Ruan Lingyu did not cry, looked at her boyfriend with a smile, and then went upstairs.
It was 12:00 midnight on March 8, 1935, and two hours later, Ruan Lingyu wrote a suicide note and swallowed 3 bottles of sleeping pills on the porridge. Half an hour later, her mother found that Ruan Lingyu had taken sleeping pills and immediately called Tang Jishan.
Near Ruan Lingyu's residence are two of Shanghai's best hospitals, Guangren Hospital and Noor Hospital. But Tang Jishan did not send his girlfriend to these two hospitals, but instead drove for two or three hours to a hospital run by a Japanese.
Unfortunately, there was no doctor on duty at night in this hospital, and Ruan Lingyu's condition was already very critical at this time, but Tang Jishan still sent her to a private hospital, and the doctor saw that the patient was in a critical condition and did not dare to accept the treatment.
In desperation, Tang Jishan called Li Minwei, the owner of the joint company. At the insistence of Li Minwei, Ruan Lingyu was finally sent to a Chinese and Western sanatorium for rescue. But at this time, it was close to noon, and the doctor also returned to the sky and lacked skill, and at 6 p.m., a generation of shadow queen Ruan Ling Yuxiang disappeared.
After Ruan Lingyu's medical experience was exposed, Tang Jishan claimed that she was willing to seek medical treatment near and far in order to protect Ruan Lingyu's face. He also forged two suicide notes, putting all the blame for Nguyen Lingyu's suicide on Zhang Damin, as well as the newspapers and magazines that maliciously smeared Nguyen Lingyu at the time.
But half a month later, Liang Saizhen said that the previous suicide note was forged by Tang Jishan, and published a real suicide note written by Ruan Lingyu to Tang Jishan in a local newspaper in Fujian: "Without you loving Liang Saizhen, without you beating me last night and beating me again tonight, I would not have come to this step." ”
If Zhang Damin's shameless oppression and the malicious slander of newspapers and magazines were the fuse of Ruan Lingyu's suicide, then Tang Jishan's derailment, domestic violence and indifference were the last straws that crushed the camel.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > written at the end: </h1>
Ruan Lingyu's life is more wonderful than most people, she has an enviable beauty, a unique talent for acting, she has enjoyed the most luxurious life, and is regarded as an idol by countless people. Even after her death, 12 big men in the film industry carried the coffin for her, and 300,000 fans sent her off.
But ruan Lingyu's legends are completely through the achievements of light and shadow, all of which are in line with the trend, and she herself does not have any courage to go against the wind. In other words, she lived too weakly, too passively.
When her life encounters difficulties, she always habitually relies on external forces to change her destiny. Zhang Damin was chosen to change the fate of the maid's daughter, and Tang Jishan was chosen to get rid of Zhang Damin's entanglement.
Relying on external forces to change her fate is like a big gamble, in this gamble, Ruan Lingyu gambled on youth, feelings and even life, but in the end she lost.
If you want to really change your destiny, the most reliable thing is to seek inward. If Ruan Lingyu had not dropped out of school, she might have been able to find a stable job after graduation, and everything would have had a different ending.
Ruan Lingyu has been inferior and lack of love since childhood, resulting in her being sensitive and fragile as an adult, and lack of security, such a person, as long as she sees a little light, will moth to the fire.
Ruan Lingyu once said to a friend: "I am a person who can't stand other people being good to me." If someone were nice to me, I would love him like crazy! ”
Therefore, knowing that the love given by Zhang Damin and Tang Jishan was as hot as charcoal, she would also die in her hands. Because it is better to be hot than to be hungry and cold, by the time the burned body is exhausted, she has already lost the strength to let go.
The two men in Ruan Lingyu's life are indeed not good men, one treats her as a cash cow, and the other treats her as a plaything, but even if she does not meet Zhang Damin and Tang Jishan, her life is difficult to be happy.
Because deep in that era, Ruan Lingyu, who had long been indoctrinated by her mother with feudal ideas, could not truly be spiritually independent, let alone have a strong ability to identify herself. Her joys and sorrows are all determined by the men around her, so that no matter how perfect a man she meets, it will end in tragedy.
Therefore, what makes Ruan Lingyu repeatedly encounter scumbags and finally embark on a dead end is the times, her mother's education, and even more herself.
Finally, I still remind all women that they must always stay awake in their feelings, remain independent, increase their sense of self-identity, and at any time, they must have the courage to stop losses in time and the courage to turn away.