For women, marriage is tantamount to a second reincarnation, if you are married, you will be very happy for the rest of your life, and even the previous injuries can be gradually healed, but if you meet someone who is not ladylike, the end will be very miserable.
In the 30s of the last century, an actress named Ruan Lingyu was born and became a popular film and television star.
It's a pity that when she was popular, she was deeply entangled in feelings, and as a result, she was overwhelmed and ended her young life with a bowl of poisonous porridge, which made people sigh.
So, what's the story? Let's talk about it today.
A natural actor
Born in 1910 as Ruan Fenggen, Ruan Lingyu was originally from Xiangshan, Guangdong, and moved to Shanghai with her mother shortly after her birth. Her childhood was not wealthy, and her father died young, leaving only her mother to depend on her.
In order to survive, her mother worked as a maid in a family surnamed Zhang, and Xiao Ruan Lingyu also worked as a maid in the Zhang family, helping to take care of the children in the family. As the saying goes, "the children of the poor are in charge early", such an environment has created Ruan Lingyu's tenacious character.
She has been smart and clever since she was a child, and has a strong interest in acting, and whenever a guest from the Zhang family visits, she will quietly hide in the corner to observe the guests' speech and behavior, imitating their expressions and movements.
Observation and imitation are prerequisites for becoming an actor, and it just so happened that Ruan Lingyu's outstanding talent in these areas was later discovered by Zhang Damin, the fourth son of the Zhang family, who recommended her to pursue a career as an actor.
In this way, Ruan Lingyu began to contact the film industry, and her talent and efforts were recognized by directors, and she soon made a name for herself in the film industry.
The performances are natural and real, and the emotions are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, whether it is tragedy or comedy, they can accurately grasp the inner world of the characters and vividly present them in front of the audience.
Ruan Lingyu's film works include "The Goddess" and "New Woman", which are not so much movies as portrayals of her life.
In the movies, she often plays the role of women with ill-fated and difficult lives, while Ruan Lingyu shows the tenacity and strength of women through movies, and also expresses her love for life and expectations for the future.
With her outstanding appearance and unique performance style, she gained an excellent reputation among the audience in a short period of time, but when her acting career was booming, she made a lifelong regretful decision - to become husband and wife with Zhang Damin.
Wrong payment feelings
When Ruan Lingyu was working as a maid in the Zhang family, Zhang Damin fell in love with this young and energetic girl at first sight, and saw the different temperament and talent of the other party.
Ruan Lingyu also has a good impression of Zhang Damin, and feels that the other party is a person who can understand herself, otherwise she would not recommend herself to take the actor route.
Although the Zhang family did not hesitate to design to drive away Ruan's mother in order to cut off contact between Zhang Damin and Ruan Lingyu, Zhang Damin secretly settled Ruan's mother and daughter and lived with Ruan Lingyu, so two young people with extremely disparate identities came together.
Zhang Damin's pursuit of Ruan Lingyu is passionate and persistent, expressing love in his own way, but ignoring the real needs of her heart.
All along, Zhang Damin has tried to incorporate Ruan Lingyu into his world, but he is unwilling to change his lifestyle for her.
Ruan Lingyu strives to find a balance between her career and Zhang Damin for love, or to find her own place in Zhang Damin's world, but gradually discovers that there is an insurmountable gap between dreams and love.
"Men are strong and women are weak" is a concept that has been around for thousands of years, and "men are weak and women are strong" will make the family discordant, and as time goes by, Zhang Damin's jealousy gradually appears, and he can't tolerate Ruan Lingyu's success in her career, let alone her normal interactions with other men.
He began to unreasonably entangle and slander Ruan Lingyu, and even humiliated him in public......
On the other hand, Zhang Damin has never been able to change his behavior and life style as a gentleman, and later he became addicted to gambling and smoking, both of which cost a lot of money, so that life became beyond his means.
Even in the predicament, Ruan Lingyu still did not give up her desire for love, and tried to communicate with Zhang Damin to find a solution to the problem, but Zhang Damin fell into his own paranoia and ignored Ruan Lingyu's persuasion.
She began to think about whether to leave this love-hate man, and after a series of twists and turns, Ruan Lingyu made up her mind to leave Zhang Damin and embark on a new life path full of pain and disappointment.
Do you think this is the end of the matter? The answer is impossible, and it is impossible to be entangled by a hooligan without cutting off the "three catties of meat." Zhang Damin was unwilling to let go, constantly pestered and harassed Ruan Lingyu, and even took her to court.
At that time, Ruan Lingyu was a well-known movie star, and the scandal in her marriage made her miserable, and even almost destroyed her confidence and hope in life.
It was at this time that he met the man who brought him hope, and this man was the wealthy businessman Tang Jishan.
In comparison, Tang Jishan is mature and steady, and his appearance makes Ruan Lingyu feel unprecedented security, thinking that her life is about to restart, and the previous haze will eventually become a thing of the past.
However, things did not develop in the direction that Ruan Lingyu expected, although some good changes did occur in the early stage, the most fundamental problems were never solved, laying the groundwork for the tragedy that followed.
Tragic ending
The meeting between the two seemed to be arranged by fate, when Ruan Lingyu had just finished the painful love-hate entanglement with Zhang Damin, and her heart was exhausted, and Tang Jishan walked into her life with a mature and steady temperament.
He knows how to appreciate Ruan Lingyu's artistic talent, and he also gives Ruan Lingyu great support in her acting career, which makes her feel an unprecedented sense of security.
Ruan Lingyu found a moment of tranquility, and thought in her heart that this time she had finally found someone she could rely on, and found a man who was enough to entrust her for life.
As time passed, the relationship between the two gradually warmed up, Tang Jishan not only spared no effort to support Ruan Lingyu's career, but also gave meticulous care in life, taking her to watch movies, listen to music, attend dances, and spend many good times.
Ruan Lingyu was immersed in this deep affection and was full of longing for the future, but in fact, Tang Jishan's feelings for her were not as pure as she imagined.
Tang Jishan may have a good impression of Ruan Lingyu in the relationship between men and women, but she attaches more importance to her public image and influence in personal emotion, and uses this to help her expand her business territory.
After the material is fully used, it is no longer valuable, and in just the past year, Tang Jishan began to empathize with other lovers outside. This news was like a bolt from the blue for Ruan Lingyu, unable to accept that the person she loved betrayed her.
The emotional rift plunges her into deep pain, but that's not all there is to pain. At that time, Zhang Damin, who was penniless, kept harassing Ruan Lingyu for the purpose of extorting money.
even threatened that if he couldn't meet his demands financially, he would make Ruan Lingyu's previous identity and experience public, making her completely ruined.
It turned out that Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin only signed a separation agreement, not a legal divorce. In the absence of divorce, he and Tang Jishan came together, which in today's words belongs to marital cheating.
On the evening of March 7, 1935, Ruan Lingyu was invited to attend a party held at the home of her friend Li Lili. During this time, Li Lili's fiancé Donner handed a copy of "Lianhua Pictorial" to Ruan Lingyu.
Ruan Lingyu took the magazine and looked at it, her face turned pale, and this magazine published an article titled "Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin Tang Jishan's Gender Dispute", hyping up the scandal between her and Zhang Damin and Tang Jishan.
After all, Tang Jishan is a famous businessman in Shanghai, and now he is naturally unhappy to be implicated in this kind of scandal, and when Ruan Lingyu returned home, he was already waiting with anger on his face.
Tang Jishan has also seen this article, although he is messing around outside, he can't accept the rights and wrongs that Ruan Lingyu once had, and he can't accept that he will be involved in these rights and wrongs, slap Ruan Lingyu in the face, and then brush his sleeves away.
This night was destined to be sleepless, Ruan Lingyu thought about those things and no one knew, only that when Ruan's mother walked into her bedroom the next morning, Ruan Lingyu had become a cold corpse.
On the table were a bowl of porridge, an empty bottle of sleeping pills, and two suicide notes from Ruan Lingyu, or a masterpiece. One letter was addressed to Tang Jishan, and the other was addressed to Zhang Damin, which read:
"Ji Shan: Without your infatuation with Liang Saizhen, without you beating me that night and beating me again tonight, I probably wouldn't be like this! After I die, some people will definitely say in the future that you are a demon who plays with women, and even more so that I am a soulless woman, but, at that time, I am no longer alive, you can suffer it yourself! The weaving clouds of the past, who I am today, who will be tomorrow, I think you know it yourself.
I am dead, I don't dare to hate you, I hope you treat your mother and the little girl well, and Lianhua owes me 2,000 and 50 yuan for labor, please pay for raising them, and please take care of them, because they are the only ones you can rely on! Without me, you can do what you like, I am very happy.
"Damin: I was forced to die by you, who would believe me? Don't you want to think that after I separated from you, I would pay you a hundred dollars a month! You have no conscience, and now that I am dead, you are probably satisfied! People must think that I am afraid of sin, but in fact I am afraid of sin, but I am very repentant that I should not be the object of contention between the two of you, but it is too late! No need to cry! I will not live, and I will not repent, because things have come to this point. ”
Soon the news of Ruan Lingyu's death spread, and 300,000 fans in Shanghai took to the streets to mourn her, and the queue stretched for 3 miles.
The famous director Su Mu wrote in the couplet: "Competing in the film industry, forging ahead, when the green light and yellow scroll, the middle way abandons the sky; ”
Ruan Lingyu's death and tragedy have become an important event in the history of Chinese film and culture, reminding people that while pursuing commercial interests, they cannot ignore the respect and protection of the rights and interests of others.
This incident has also caused many people to reflect deeply on the professional ethics and social responsibility of the media, and the tragedy of Ruan Lingyu is not only a personal tragedy, but also a tragedy of women in the entire old society.
What do you think differently about this?