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In recent times, whether looking at the circle of friends or Weibo, I found that many people's status is very depressed.
The circle of friends sent by a friend is like this:
"A few years ago, the company went out of business, dismissed all employees, and prepared to file a lawsuit the next year because there was no compensation. But as a result, it has been dragged on until now, I can't even go out of the house, there is no income, no job, no socializing, and I am alone at home all day, like going to prison, it is really painful, and I feel that there is no hope of life!'
A friend posted a Weibo like this:
"I have a stomach full of grievances that I want to say, but I don't dare to say it in front of my acquaintances, so I can only open a trumpet to express my unhappiness." Although I have now returned to work, I am nervous every day, I don't eat well, I don't sleep well, and I don't have the heart to do work. On the surface, everything is slowly returning to normal, but I always feel that the world of people is closed to each other, I always feel that I am alone, and I really don't know what the meaning of such a life is! 」
One reader left me a message saying that the situation was more negative:
"Since I got married, I feel that life has lost its meaning, and I feel that there is no rush to live at all. I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't know if it's because I'm older, or because I've been tortured by life so badly that I feel like I don't have confidence anymore, I don't have hope anymore.
It feels like everything is changing, and everything is changing in a bad direction.
My husband and I have survived so many years of long-distance relationships, and once we could survive for many years by relying on the daily "good morning" and "good night" greetings, and our hearts were always full of expectations, but now, we can no longer find that feeling of expectation.
After getting married, the daily life pattern is very fixed, eating, sleeping, working, although two people live together, but for a long time, there is really nothing to talk about, every day after returning home, the two of us are like strangers, although each other is busy with their own things, but always feel that there is a barrier in the middle, the atmosphere of the whole home is very depressed, sometimes even make me breathless.
I'm not very good at language, and I don't know what language to use to describe that feeling. If there is pressure, but if you think about it, it seems that there is no pressure. I can't figure out what the problem is, and sometimes I resist thinking about it.
Every day I only get a little more steady after falling asleep, but every day I feel like I just woke up when I fell asleep, it was dawn, and then I started a new day to repeat. The thought of the days ahead is still very long, and the same boring life will be lived for decades, I lose all motivation.
Could it be that everyone gets into my state as they get older? I've thought about divorce and wonder if it would be better if I'm divorced. But on second thought, what if you're divorced? It felt like my life was disconnected from all my passions, and I felt like I couldn't get it back."
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Little X says:
"When people are alive, they should learn to "find fun" for themselves, and if they can't please themselves, they really fail." 」
Pessimistic and negative states, everyone will experience, because people can not always be in a state of chicken blood.
In my personal experience, every time I feel negative and pessimistic, I will give myself a day or a few days off, during this time do not think about anything bad, just eat, drink, play, drink, drink, or walk around, or watch a horror movie to scare myself, or watch a sad movie and cry, is a good way to vent.
If you want to take it for granted that it's useless, then there's really nothing you can do about it. These things you have to do, you only have to do to divert your negative pessimism, in order to really put the troubles aside for the time being, in fact, to put it bluntly is to look at the problem from another angle, another way to live, life content is rich, naturally you can dilute the inner pessimism and negativity." 」
Little Y says:
"If you feel that life has lost its meaning after getting married, it is certainly not your problem alone, you can't close yourself in your own world, the most important thing you should do is to communicate with your other half, two people to deal with it together, and find a way to solve the problem together, it is definitely much better than you complaining about yourself." 」
If it's really the marriage itself that makes you unhappy, then you can consider giving up, divorce can make you feel better, why not divorce?
But if it is not marriage that makes you unhappy, you can't easily give up marriage, otherwise without the company of marriage, you will still live a very painful and negative life alone, and if you rely on yourself alone, the consequences will be unimaginable."
Some people say that life is short, and we should be happy in time.
Some people say that life is bitter, but it is very long, and if you don't "find fun" for yourself, you will suffer for decades.
No matter which kind of statement, in fact, it is the same as the above small X said, to take into account both "good times" and "bad times". When you feel negative and pessimistic, you must be caught in some kind of adversity, at this time, if you do not realize that you are caught in that adversity, it is better to stop, relax, and live in another way, maybe you will find out where the problem is.
Text/Donglin Xiting, if you have a story, come to me.
Let's talk about it: How do you usually deal with negative mentality?