Ding Ding Zhang asked Si Wen, after Yang Jia, Li Xueqin, Zhao Xiaohui, and the twins were on fire, how did you feel?
Si Wen replied very calmly: A little jealous.
In 2020, the third season of "Talk Show Conference" was broadcast, and Yang Kasa landed on the hot search throne with:"Men are so ordinary, but so confident", and for a long time after that, she was the center of the topic.
Also in this season of "Talk Show Conference", Si Wen lost the first time, was resurrected after elimination, and finally chose to retire.
The "Talk Show Empress" took the initiative to step down from her throne.
In the end, the main reason is divorce.
When they decided to divorce, it was when the new season of "Talk Show Convention" was just beginning to be recorded.
The caution and concern between her friends made her originally bored mood even more depressed, so she instinctively chose to escape from all this and give herself a chance to breathe.
Now, more than a year after their divorce, Cheng Lu has obviously put it down, and the talk show is better than before.
What about Siwen?
"Marriage, funeral, and marriage" has always been a major event in the eyes of ordinary people. The "joy and sorrow" between celebrities is the top priority of the melon-eating masses.
Si Wen and Cheng Lu are not big artists, but the news of their divorce still makes waves on the Internet.
On July 23, 2020, Cheng Luwen and Siwen divorced, and they changed from Duanzi brothers to real brothers.
Life after divorce is not as dashing and beautiful as Siwen imagined, and how to face loneliness and helplessness when alone is still her compulsory course.
Of course, she didn't fare badly either.
They raised a cat called "Lost", Si Wen liked that cat very much, before leaving, Cheng Lu let Si Wen take away "Lost Lost", Si Wen held the cat tears and couldn't stop flowing down.
She rented a large house with a monthly rent of thirty-six thousand, with an open kitchen and an easy view of the Oriental Pearl on the balcony.
She didn't want to degrade her quality of life or attract unnecessary sympathy.
My aunt called and asked if she wanted to buy a house in Xi'an, and it took her 10 minutes to get everything done, and the moment she paid, she felt unprecedented happiness.
Without the shackles and obstacles of marriage, Siwen has a deeper reflection and understanding of himself, and he also knows what kind of life he wants to pursue.
The long-hidden social consciousness gradually awakened, she took the initiative to open herself, to contact new things, take the initiative to organize the game, and ask friends to come to the house to play.
In just half a year, she has met more new friends than she has known in the past 5 years in Shanghai.
Left the "Talk Show Conference", participated in the variety show "Struggle Bar Anchor", the food variety show "Fresh Kitchen 100", the interview program "Half of Life"...
In the TV series "I'm Fine In Other Places", i played a wave of soy sauce.
Looking at its development, there is a trend from talk show actors to professional artists, but the effect is not obvious.
In fact, the effect is not obvious, it does not matter at all,
Importantly, she stepped out of that shadow and reinvented herself.
There may be many friends who will wonder, since divorce will be sad, married life is not as good as imagined, why choose divorce?
It can only be said that freezing three feet is not a day's cold.
Whether or not to divorce is never based on whether you are happy or unhappy after divorce.
For Cheng Lu, an ordinary and stable marriage may be enough to comfort the rest of her life.
But for Siwen, a marriage with cold love and lack of communication has no meaning of existence.
Among the people who are still alive, the person Siwen despises the most is her mother, because she has made her life very bad.
Her mother has been divorced 5 times, her grandmother has been divorced 2 times, her aunt has also been divorced, and there is no divorced relative, and her married life is also turbulent.
Siwen, who grew up in this environment, did not have a strong resistance to marriage, but was more casual.
But the love experience of her relatives has changed her view of love to some extent.
She believes in love and can also enter marriage, but she seems to be unable to take root in marriage, and she has felt since she was a child that her first marriage will definitely end in divorce.
Sure enough.
In marriage, she is always vigilant, always sticking to herself, even the closest people, not easily showing her vulnerability.
Whether before or after marriage, she firmly believes that the essence of marriage is unhappiness, and happiness is only an illusion in the state of performance.
The so-called stable married life is only that both husband and wife are not living well, and they need to rely on each other for their lives.
Although such an opinion is too extreme, it also happens to be the best summary of her marriage with Cheng Lu.
Si Wen and Cheng Lu met in a talk show club, when talk shows had not yet emerged, Cheng Lu was the host on the stage, and Si Wen was the crowd of onlookers who were on the stage.
The people on the stage did not talk about the passages very funny, Siwen did not understand why the people at the bottom laughed so happily, to the audience interaction link, she took the initiative to go on stage, spit all the actors again, and easily exploded the scene.
If Si Wen had simply joined in the fun at that time, then her and Cheng Lu's fate would not have intersected.
But fate is sometimes so wonderful, SiWen's explosion, let Cheng Lu see her charm, but also see her potential, but also look at her people.
The love life of the two dan hands will never lack laughter, after the performance, the two walk home, while walking and talking about the passage, laughing until the stomach hurts and can't stand up.
Cheng Lu's humor and thoughtfulness, transparent and frank, just in line with Si Wen's subconscious ideal boyfriend standards, so no matter how her father shed tears, Si Wen insisted on being with Cheng Lu.
In the first few years of marriage, their lives were relatively stable, and both of them had their own main business, and they would go to offline clubs to perform in their spare time.
There are occasional quarrels, but they are quickly dispelled by laughter.
The time when their feelings were most stable was also the time when their lives were more difficult, probably like Siwen said, the two people were not living well, so they would not have other thoughts.
Later, they became angry, and in just a few years, their value soared, and SiWen may earn more than Cheng Lu.
She also had a lot more, which seemed unrealistic to Cheng Lu, but she herself felt that it was a very suitable idea.
For example, buy a house in Japan, or buy a house in Beijing, or buy some big things that look good but are not very practical.
These ideas were rejected by Cheng Lu one by one, which made Si Wen very unhappy, because more than half of the money was earned by her.
In fact, these small things are only secondary reasons for their estrangement.
The real main reason is the lack of communication and companionship.
When he first arrived in Shanghai, Si Wen had nothing to do, Cheng Lu indulged in talk shows and returned early and late, and not long after getting married, the two decided to sleep in separate rooms.
With the rise of their careers, they have less time to see each other, and occasionally they meet at home, and they can even send out "your surprise at home".
One year Siwen was in a particularly bad state, had a disease, had surgery, the operation was not in front of Cheng Lu, after the operation, Cheng Lu sat in front of the bed for more than 20 minutes and left.
Coupled with the death of Siwen Grandma during that time, it was difficult to repair the relationship with his father, and his father also died suddenly.
In this one thing that needs Cheng Lu's company, Cheng Lu did not appear, and he was still immersed in the creation of talk shows.
Someone has said that a good marriage relationship is, you are you, I am me, and we are together, but the two of them only do the first half of the sentence.
Cheng Lu himself knew that home was a place to talk about love, but he gave love to Duan Zi instead of Si Wen.
Eventually Sven was gone, and he was promoted.
For Cheng Lu, talk shows are a hobby and a career that can be fought for all their lives.
But for Siwen, it was just a job, a job that overwhelmed her.
She really didn't have much enthusiasm for talk shows.
Before she took the stage, she was a screenwriter, writing every day until the early hours of the morning, getting up very early the next day to go to the script, and enduring the stinky temper of the star.
But in the face of the pressure of survival, she had to continue to do it.
After the so-called "fire", the announcement line is full, running five or six cities for four days, every day is a trance, but you have to pretend to be a hundred times more energetic in front of the camera.
She didn't like to show herself as much as everyone thought, and the reason why she stood there in good spirits was entirely out of a professional ethic.
Back at home, I can't see my husband's figure, I don't feel a little fireworks, I order a takeaway, and I cry while eating.
This state of affairs lasted for a long time until she divorced and retired from the race.
A person who cannot find himself, how can he find a sense of belonging in the great torrent.
What exactly did the divorce bring to Siwen?
The first is the new direction of career development - live streaming, interview variety, jazz concerts.
After leaving "Talk Show Conference", Siwen joined a reality show with live broadcast, and she became interested in it.
In her own words, when surrounded by a bunch of goods, there is a strong sense of happiness, full of desire to express and share.
Singing is SiWen's hobby since childhood, some time ago when JZ Club and Xiaoguo had a cooperation, they asked Siwen if he wanted to try it.
Si Wen felt that it was not impossible.
Secondly, she has reconciled a lot with the world, and many people and things are more understandable.
That anger is slowly dissipated in the continuous growth of people, not a sudden epiphany after divorce.
Of course, it's more about her reconciling with herself.
In the episode where she decided to retire, she told the company leaders not to broadcast the clips of her crying in the show.
But she still saw these clips on the show later, and she was very angry and directly angry with the leader.
At that time, she was particularly annoying and afraid of the sympathy of others, and if someone showed sympathy, she would be very unhappy.
But a year later, she looked back on these past events and said very calmly: at that time, she may not have accepted her vulnerability.
Since then, she has no longer pretended to be a light and breezy person, nor has she deliberately hidden her unhappiness.
Get back to the essence and be yourself.
What can we learn from their marriage?
Professor Shen Yifei has a point of view:
The two parties are completely independent, and this love or marriage must not go on.
There is "you" and "me" in love, and there must be "we".
Good love is like a twist, we are independent, but we have been spiraling together.
For Cheng Lu, he originally had many opportunities to be a dutiful husband, to give his wife love, to accompany her through the trough, and to give his wife enough security.
But he was absent.
For Si Wen, showing weakness is not such a terrible thing, in intimate relationships, showing weakness to the other party does not mean that it will be inferior. On the contrary, it will arouse the other party's desire to protect and make yourself feel safe.
But she didn't do it.
Marriage, not two people get a license, and then live together is enough, marriage needs to be managed.
The absence of love can cause great harm to the marriage.
Similarly, not needing a partner's love can also cause a lot of harm.
For the vast majority of people, it is really not easy to meet a partner who fits the soul, so be sure to cherish this feeling and don't wait until you lose it to regret it.
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