If, your wife cheats on you behind your back for a year, you learn the truth and choose to let go and forgive.
At this time, I received a provocative email from a third party: Do you know what your wife has done?
And in the email, publish all kinds of cheating details, every detail of the secret process, what will you do?
Most people get angry, their self-esteem is damaged, and they jump like thunder.
But there was a man who replied to the third person who couldn't put it down and was still entangled, and he said, "You hurt me, but I can understand that because you're hurting too."
This man is Colin Firth, darcy's character in the 95th edition of Pride and Prejudice.
The English Patient, Shakespeare's Love Story, BJ's Single Diary, True Love Supreme, The Girl with the Pearl Earrings, The Last Legion, The King's Speech, Railway Laborer, Ace Agent........
The commercial blockbusters that we are familiar with, the award-winning films, many of them are his masterpieces.
It was for his performances in these films that he won the Academy Award for Best Actor, the Golden Globe, two British Academy Film Awards, three Film Actors Guild Awards, and the Walpi Cup for Best Actor at the Venice Film Festival...
He was known as the most gentlemanly man in Britain, and because of his name harmonic face, Chinese audiences affectionately called him Uncle Face.
Not long ago, he announced that he and his wife ended their 22-year marriage, and many viewers were full of sighs and regrets after learning the news, but more importantly, they were distressed about him.
Uncle Face's emotional world is very simple, 46 years old, there are only 3 relationships in total.
The first relationship was in 1989, when filming "The Most Poisonous Woman's Heart", with actor Meg Tilly.
They are married by drama, and both love each other fiercely.
Meg Tilly is a quarter of Chinese, beautiful and cold, and she is tired of the hustle and bustle of the city, yearning for a utopia, a life of seclusion like a peach blossom garden.
When Uncle Face fell in love with her, she was already a mother of two children and lived the life of a divorced single mother, but Uncle Face did not hesitate to love, and the two quickly got a license to get married.
And in order to fulfill his wife's wishes, he gave up the great future he had just worked hard to lay, and lived in a wooden house in the primeval jungle of Canada with his wife.
It is inaccessible, and on stormy days, heavy snow will block all the way out and completely disconnect from the outside world.
At first, Uncle Face could bear it, making furniture and doing farm work every day, but after a long time, he felt that everything was boring, and he had nothing else to do but work, completely isolated from the world.
In the whole 6 years, he has not made a play, completely gave up his career, followed the footsteps of his wife, this love, can not but be said to be sincere and deep, from the heart.
After 6 years, the two people, who had very different ideas and ways of life, chose to go their separate ways.
After the breakup, Uncle Face returned to his acting career, and a year later, he took over the movie "Pride and Prejudice" that later made him famous.
How popular was the film at the time? Media comments say Colin Firth caused a record spike in estrogen levels on both sides of the Atlantic.
In the movie, Colin's iconic scene in a wet shirt is still a classic in film history years later.
So for a long time, people regarded Colin Firth as Darcy, Darcy was Colin Firth, and even the male protagonist of the follow-up remake looked like Colin.
In the movie, he plays Darcy, cold, handsome, wealthy, low-key, restrained, arrogant, but when he perceives that his feelings for Elizabeth Bennett have reached the point of being uncontrollable and unable to sustain himself, this arrogant man finally compromises with everything, affectionately and thoughtfully abandons all rules for his lover.
He said: I disregard the world's opinion, fight against the expectations of the family, against your origins, against my class, to say to you that I love you...
That confession has moved countless women, because women are afraid of men's love, stemming from beautification and lack of understanding, but when he has insight into all your shortcomings, embarrassment, disadvantages, shallowness, but still loves you, this love, is thick, no filter, sincere love, such a payment, more trustworthy.
Because the drama is too deep, Colin Firth, and the actor who plays the heroine Elizabeth, Jennifer Ellie, fake the play really do, and also develop a relationship outside the play.
But this relationship is probably based on the infection of the movie, so after the shooting, when the reporter found out, the relationship has ended without a problem.
In 1996, Firth and the Italian producer, Livia Gigilli, met on set.
At the time, he was 36 and she was 28. The two fell in love at first sight.
But in order to chase After Livia, Uncle Face did not bother less.
Born into a traditional family, Livia still lives with her parents as an adult and has a very close relationship with her parents. In order to make Livia's parents accept himself, he studied Italian hard, and the first time he met his parents, he talked with Livia's parents in Italian and talked cordially.
His sincerity touched the two old people, in 1997, they carried the blessings of their parents, walked into the marriage hall, hand in hand, it was 22 years.
In 2011, in an interview, he said affectionately: "My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, I will never do anything to sorry her in my life, we will be together forever."
In 2017, he renounced his British citizenship and voluntarily became Italian.
He once said: I am as romantic as anyone, but I don't take the clichés of romance seriously, such as saying that I don't pay attention to Valentine's Day. Because I don't think there's much technical in sending roses on a particular day.
Putting yourself all in your wife and centering everything in your life is a silent man who gives his wife the best romance possible.
But love, not a one-sided effort, marriage, nor does it depend on one person's management.
Although Uncle Face promised himself that he would not do anything to be sorry for his wife, he could not guarantee that his wife would not do anything to be sorry for him.
Between 2015 and 2016, for an entire year, Livia cheated on her back to her uncle, the Italian journalist Marco Blancacia, a good friend of hers who grew up.
After marriage, the face uncle, accommodating his wife to live in Italy, the two families are very close, and extramarital affairs are also happening unconsciously.
However, the paper can never contain the fire, the extramarital affair is soon discovered, although the pain is unbearable, but the face uncle chooses to forgive, and Livia also decides to return to the family.
Marco Blancacia, however, pestered Livia.
In 2017, Livia sued Blancacia, claiming that she was only in a brief relationship with him, but the other party took the matter, repeatedly pestering, harassing, threatening, and even incarnating as a stalker, which seriously affected her life.
In order to protect his wife, soon after, Uncle Face published a joint statement in the Times.
In this statement, Uncle Face said: A few years ago, he and Livia had secretly made the decision to separate. During that time, Livia had a brief relationship with her childhood friend, Mr. Blancasia, until she later reunited with Colin. Mr. Blancasia then made a frightening act of harassment that lasted for months, which was recorded. Apparently, the Colins had no intention of making the matter public.
In the statement, they also mentioned that the leak of information in court has led them to have to explain all this.
If it were not for the revelations of Blancacia later, people simply could not know how much a man could compromise affectionately.
Shortly after this statement, Blancacia issued a statement denying everything.
He said: Between 2015 and 2016, Uncle Face did not live apart from Livia at all, nor did he make any decision to separate, saying this, it was all to cover up Livia's extramarital affair and protect her public image.
Because, the infidelity after deciding to separate, although it is also a marital infidelity, is more easily accepted by the public, after all, the husband and wife intend to separate.
Blancasia then vetoed the claim that unilateral entanglement and mere intercourse was just a period of time.
He said Levia repeatedly complained to him about the boredom of work and marriage, claiming they were true love and expressing a willingness to divorce and be with him.
During the time they were in love, Livia would tell her husband that she had gone on a business trip, in fact, dating him all over the world and cheating on him.
Not only do they see each other as much as possible, they also call, text, and talk to each other every day.
What made him angry was that he had made the decision to be together, but Livia suddenly chose to return to the family and let him be left hanging.
The most deadly thing is that Blancacia has a lot of evidence in his hands.
In July 2018, Livia dropped the indictment and the two reconciled privately.
During this period of scumbags and scumbags who exploded their privacy and blamed each other, Blancacia said something that made all the face fans feel heartbroken after listening.
It turned out that after the two reconciled, they often appeared under the camera and the flash, and the media that did not know the truth also preached the love of the husband and wife as usual, but Blancacia, who saw all this, was unbalanced in his heart, and he felt that Livia clearly planned to leave Uncle Face, be with himself, and return to the family, just for the sake of the child.
So, he sent Uncle Face a malicious email, in which he revealed in great detail the details of Livia's meeting with himself, as well as her complaints about Uncle Face, her boredom with marriage, and the sweetness of being with herself.
A few days later, Uncle Face replied to the third party who had ruined his marriage and provoked him.
He said, "You've hurt me, but I can understand that because you're hurting too."
This shocked and regretted Blancacia.
Because no matter how you look at it, Uncle Face is the most innocent person in this relationship, the most deeply hurt person.
At that time, when he decided to renounce his nationality for Livia, countless fans announced that he had lost his fetish, and he just wanted to have more commonalities and more intersections with his wife.
He had given everything for her, and after being deeply hurt, he still maintained her decency, and even forgave provocations from third parties, because he himself was deeply in pain, so he was considerate of the pain of others.
Many people say that it is because Uncle Face's family has decided his upbringing.
Because he was born into a family of intellectuals, his parents were both scholars and teachers, the family had religious beliefs, and the family was very low-key and religious.
But in fact, looking at the growth experience of Uncle Face, he is not a person who will be gentle and humble because he was born in a family of scholars.
His kindness is because he himself has suffered a lot and suffered many sins, so he can best recognize kindness and be considerate of others.
When he was a child, his parents were always out of town for work reasons, so he lived with the preacher's grandfather. At the age of 11, he returned to his parents, attended a comprehensive state school, and as a transfer student, he was an outsider to the school, an outsider.
Not only can it not be integrated, but it also becomes the target of bullying by classmates.
To alleviate the situation, he had to learn the Hampshire accent of the local working class, which appeared less prominent.
Therefore, Uncle Face has not been fond of the school, the only gratitude is that in the sixth grade, I met a warm-hearted teacher, instilled his love for English literature, and later Uncle Face said: It was the most difficult time in my life, but I spent the happiest two years.
In fact, in addition to the brilliant achievements of his acting career, Uncle Face, as a literary enthusiast, is also very good at literary style, and even wrote scientific papers to study the differences in brain structure between people with different political orientations.
Not only that, but he is also a member of Survival International, a voice for indigenous tribal peoples, as well as refugees seeking asylum.
Because he was once neglected and a vulnerable person, when he was capable, he chose to protect those who were in a similar situation to him.
The absence of childhood parents, frequent moving, and the past of being bullied not only did not distort his personality, but let him taste loneliness, taste isolation, and experience bullying, so his heart was exceptionally soft and kind.
Two years after his wife's infidelity, although their relationship was not successfully repaired and the collapsed trust was difficult to rebuild, he still broke up in a peaceful, decent, and kind way.
He and his wife issued a statement: They maintained a close friendship and remained united in their love for their children.
At the end of 2019, the couple who stayed together for 22 years finally ended up breaking up, which inevitably made people feel a lot.
Although the world is full of people who are hurt in the marriage relationship, those affectionate men and women are particularly distressing.
Today is Christmas, remembering that there is a satirical joke in the West that a man made a wish to Santa Claus.
He said, "I want a unicorn."
Santa Claus said: Make a wish to be realistic.
He added, "I want a lover who will never change my heart."
Santa Claus then asked: What color do you want the unicorn?
It turns out that in the minds of modern people, having a lover who never changes hearts is even more unrealistic than having a unicorn.
Is this our sorrow, or the sorrow of love?
However, if a person who never changes his heart is not cherished in love, is it more sad than not having love?
Text | Paris Night Rose
Figure | Google