There is no future in the world that cannot be chosen. Nothing in the future is certain. But, because of this, every choice for us women is fate. - "You Are My Destiny"
"You Are My Destiny" tells the fate of the heroine Yaji from the age of twenty-nine to forty-one, spanning ten years of life growth, with thinking about life; understanding of fertility; interpretation of love; and decisions about fate. There are no exciting words in the book, but it conveys a profound and accurate and delicate reflection of women's psychological changes, which is known as a woman's 20-40-year-old life script.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >, if love has providence, you are my destiny</h1>
Tomoki is a talented woman who, at the age of twenty-nine, received a wedding invitation from her ex-boyfriend Yasushi Sato's wife. Yasushi Sato pleaded with her not to attend the wedding because his mother had an attachment to the ex-girlfriend as a "daughter-in-law.". When a person steps half a foot on the threshold of thirty, he will always be sad, and the boyfriend who has proposed marriage before will marry her in the blink of an eye.
Subsequently, she moved to Fukuoka with the transfer of work and met Junpei, an industrial designer younger than her. "I came to such a distant city just to meet this man." Yaji tried to believe that this time he had met the fate of the True Destiny.
Under the guidance of the author, it seems that it is really thought that this is the case, Yaji will marry Junpei, and the ex-boyfriend will happily live in another city with his wife.
In fact, the fate of the hero and heroine has just begun.
Aqua is separated from Junpei. She realized that Junpei was not what she had imagined. Perhaps, it is our imagination that is responsible for love, not the other party.
Yasushi Sato suffered from lung cancer and divorced his wife.
Ten years later, at the crossover of an opportunity for work, Aki interviewed Yasushi Sato. The two in front of each other are no longer green teenagers, but there are ambiguous waves in the seemingly awkward air.
Yagi has always been sorry for Yasushi Sato's cancer, believing that her refusal to propose at that time caused the hero, who has never smoked, to smoke and become ill.
After meeting, seeing Yasushi Sato, who was tormented and emaciated by illness, all the sporadic thoughts of several years crept into his heart, and Yagi couldn't help but have the urge to take care of him. After ten years of separation, Yaji understood that what he wanted to cherish most was him. So he wrote to Yasushi Sato, saying that he wanted to marry him and take care of him.
"Thinking that the opportunity to reunite has finally arrived, I can't help but sigh for a long time. For me, and for you, this decade has been too long. The hero wrote in a reply letter after a decade of absence. Seeing this place can't help but be a little tearful, ten years, how many decades of our lives have been missed.
Some lovers eventually became dependents, they got married, Agi was pregnant with a child when he was 40 years old, and Yasushi Sato's body recovered well, as if everything was developing in a good direction. Life is uncertain, but on the night of the birth of the child, Yasushi Sato left permanently due to an earthquake.
The world is a big dream, and life is cool several times. If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman of your soul?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, children are not only a continuation of our lives, but also a continuation of our abilities</h1>
There are three places in the article that discuss the topic of children.
For Yaji, this desire to leave his descendants behind is understandable in his heart, although it is literally understandable. Bringing new life into the world is, in a way, an act of courage.
At the end of her life, Saori, Agi's sister-in-law, still insisted on using her impermissible body to leave a son and a daughter for her younger brother Masato and become The companion of Masato. In the end, he died in premature birth with both his children.
Yaki's friend Gomi even suggested that "the mere feeling of being able to have children allows me to know that I am not alone from the beginning, that is, it is great that my life is closely related to the distant future." ”
Recent readings from "Jin Zhiying born in 82", "Your child is not your child" to "You are my destiny", all of them coincidentally mention the topic of women and children, which makes me slightly moved and has a change in the matter of childbirth, and I began to look forward to the beauty of the continuation of life, but I was also worried about whether I could do my duty?
Yaji also did not approve of the desire to "leave future generations" before having children, but after having children, both physically and psychologically changed, just in response to the sentence: "Children, it is your armor, but also your weakness!" He is not only a continuation of our lives, but also a continuation of our abilities. ”
It turns out that where people end up, the biggest wish is not to realize their dreams or hopes, and it may be more satisfying to pin that dream or hope on someone.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, what I have is a fluke, and what I lose is life</h1>
The heroine Agi and Yasushi Sato go around and miss — pick it up — miss it forever. Every day together after realizing that Yasushi Sato was ill was a blessing and cherished. Although the ending is still separated by heaven and man, at least it has been had and loved passionately.
In the face of every choice, we do not know where to go, with all our wisdom to deal with it, trying to grasp the life we want most. In the end, looking back at so many forks in the road, I realized that the result of this weaving was fate.
What I have is a fluke, and what I lose is life. When the sense of belonging has not yet arrived, the sea of people floats and sinks, after all, it is not a returning person, just a passer-by. As Borges said: Any kind of fate, though it may be long and complex, is in fact reflected in a moment, and it is at that moment that one always understands who he is. And every time we try our best to choose, in fact, fate is already predestined.