In fact, in love, not all boyfriends are honest. In the process of finding a partner, most children may be drunk in half-awake and half-dreaming, lacking reason and sobriety, but as parents, no matter who they choose in the end, it is important to wake up or help your children find out the following three details:
1. Find out the details of the other party's character. It may sound a bit of a worry, and the children may say, "We don't know, it's the most basic thing to fall in love, and you need to remind you!" ”。 But children have to believe that this is not necessarily the case. At this time, they tend to be immersed in sweetness, enveloped in honey, the shortcomings are diluted, and the advantages are magnified.
In married life, a person's quality is undoubtedly the most important, carrying the common happiness and future of both parties. If your partner is a selfish person who lacks integrity, then your married life will be full of suspicion and quarrels.
Therefore, before deciding to enter into marriage, you must observe and understand more about the other party's way of behaving. See if he is honest and trustworthy, respectful of others, and has a sense of responsibility and compassion. These qualities will have a direct impact on the quality and happiness of your married life.
Of course, understanding the character of the other person is not something that can be achieved overnight. Parents need to observe each other through the details of daily life. For example, whether he is honest and upright, and never lies or conceals the truth easily; whether he knows how to care and be considerate of his partner and the people around him; Whether he is willing to work hard for his family. These qualities are all indispensable and important elements of married life. You need to observe and think with your heart.
There is such a pair of young people when they are in love, the woman finds that the man often lies, and she thinks it is just a small problem and does not care. Later, the two got married, and after marriage, the man's lying habit became more and more serious, and he even began to deceive the woman's family and friends. Eventually, the marriage didn't last and broke down. Therefore, don't ignore the consideration of the other person's character, and don't ignore this key factor for the sake of momentary sweetness.
2. Find out the other person's family background. Marriage is not just a matter of two people, it is also a reorganization of the families of both parties. Therefore, it is crucial to understand the other person's home environment, family atmosphere, and the relationship between family members. A harmonious and warm family environment can provide a solid backing for married life; A family full of conflicts and strife can cause you endless troubles and troubles.
In the process of understanding each other's family background, parents can get to know each other by contacting and communicating with each other's family members. Observe how they get along, how they communicate, and how they deal with problems.
At the same time, pay attention to the fact that one or two things can be seen in your daily speech, work and behavior. For example, do you look out for someone who blames a member of your family or is often dissatisfied with your own family? Do you respect and care for your family? These questions reflect his attitudes and values towards his family.
The neighbor's son had a good relationship when he was in love, but after getting married, he found that the other party's family environment was very bad. The man's parents often quarrel, fight, and even commit domestic violence. This makes the woman bear huge psychological pressure and distress after marriage, and the wife is always going home all day long, which makes the husband very confused, and the two of them are not happy.
Therefore, as parents, you must help your children to visit each other's families in advance, and parents on both sides often get together to understand each other's family background in communication, so as to avoid family problems affecting your married life.
3. Find out the details of the other party's financial situation. In modern families, money and material conditions have become an important part of determining the quality of marriage. It is very necessary to understand the financial situation of the other party before marriage. Of course, children should not be allowed to pursue material conditions or financial interests excessively, but to ensure that both parties have a certain economic foundation as a guarantee.
You can understand his income, expenses and financial management concepts through daily contact and communication with the other party. At the same time, you can also observe the consumption habits and lifestyles of the other party, from the aspects of eating, wearing, living and traveling. In particular, as a man, he is the main force in his future married life, and he has at least a basic foundation for life. For example, does he often overspend or go into debt? Does he know how to manage money and plan for the future? These questions can reflect his economic concept and attitude towards life.
Here, parents should pay attention to reminding their children that married life requires the joint efforts and management of both parties. Therefore, while understanding the other party's economic situation, you should also pay attention to whether your own economic concept and lifestyle are healthy and reasonable. Only in this way can we create a better future together in married life.
Children are reminded to be sensible and cautious in their pursuit of love and happiness. Pay attention to these three details, which will make your married life not only happy but also long-lasting.