Marriage, once the most important event in life, has now become a seemingly expensive "condition". Modern women often put forward "three high" requirements for their future partners: high education, high income, and even high bride price. This view of marriage has been disparaged as utilitarianism, but the truth is much more than that.
Once upon a time, we were still talking about the importance of "the right door". However, times have changed, and the concept of marriage is also quietly changing. In today's society, people value personal worth and independence more. Women are no longer just dependent on men, they have their own careers, careers and aspirations.
Therefore, when women are looking for a lifelong partner, in addition to the emotional factor, they also look at each other's conditions. A considerable income represents future economic security; A self-owned property, symbolizing a safe place to live; The high bride price is regarded as a recognition of its own value.
These seemingly material requirements actually stem from women's inner desire for safety and respect. In these fast-changing times, it is inevitable that anyone will feel uncertain and anxious. As a long-term disadvantaged group, women are even more worried about the future.
A stable job, a house of their own, and a testimony to their own value are not only luxuries for them, but also synonymous with a sense of security. It is only when the basic necessities are secured that they can devote themselves to marriage and family.
Needless to say, some women do have utilitarian and objectifying tendencies. But we can't stigmatize the legitimate needs of all modern women by choking. In contrast, it is imperative to not properly address the root causes of women's insecurity.
Only when society gives equal opportunities and respect, eliminates gender discrimination, and improves the social status of women, can they truly gain a sense of security. At that time, it may no longer be necessary to seek psychological comfort with the help of material conditions such as high bride price.
In the same way, a man should not be just a virtuous and virtuous wife for the marriage he dreams of. Isn't a woman with an independent personality, a career-minded, and a confident personality a more attractive and respected choice in modern marriage?
A healthy marriage requires both parties to be fulfilled both materially and spiritually. Therefore, instead of dictating the legitimate needs of either party, we should strive to create an equal and inclusive environment in which love can grow freely.
Only in this way can marriage no longer be a dead letter, but become a beautiful bond between each other's willingness. We look forward to the day when everyone can find their own security in this world, instead of pinning their hopes on expensive bride price.