Personally, I think that psychological counseling is wiping the ass of modern education, especially in the face of those Chinese parents!
It's too much and too bad to wipe it off, and there are many people who don't appreciate it at all! The point is that it can't be wiped clean.
The vast majority of adolescent psychological problems are caused by parents, and the parents' counseling attitude has been bad, unconsciously attacking children, causing more pressure, and doing more counseling will feel that being born in this kind of parents' home is the misfortune of these children.
It is very likely that they take their children to psychological counseling not to see a doctor, but to find someone from the same camp to reprimand the child or complain about their own suffering.
Children's mental illness is actually a parent's disease, and there is a saying on the Internet: children who go to a psychiatrist are often the least ill in the family. Many parents are the ones who really need to see a doctor. They are terminally ill and adamant that they don't feel like there's anything wrong with them.
There are many young psychiatrists or psychological counselors who are reluctant to do adolescent diagnosis and treatment or counseling, because it is often not the child's problem, but the parents who are sick and have to give the child medicine.
It's always harder to save people than to save lives, and it's still your own power.
The commonality of the tragedy of the Chinese family, the child as a slave, and the child as a god to redeem themselves, Chinese parents this creature, is that they feel that they have given birth to a baby, must get 10,000 times the return, otherwise it is a loss, a group of lame chickens laid an egg and wanted to hatch a phoenix, seeing that the child is developing more and more in the direction of the chicken, he began to suppress the anger and go crazy, take 10,000 steps back, even if you do a phoenix, he still thinks you fly too far, you are not close, you don't hatch eggs, you say that he is a lame chicken, typical both and want!
As a chess teacher, there are always those weird parents among the children every year, and it is useless for us to talk about them. Can't figure out how much such parents love their children? There is not the slightest shadow of respect and tolerance, only endless belittling and suppressing of a sick person.
I met a little boy of eight or nine years old before, I can see that it is very painful, very depressed, and I will hold back my crying, hammer the wall with my hand, and smash my head hard, his father said: It is useless for you to pretend to be nervous in front of me, if you want to die, it has nothing to do with me, I really think why a bunch of beasts are also worthy of having children.
Let parents put aside the three views that they have relied on for decades to survive and embark on a new road again, which is no different from life, children are taken care of, but no one takes care of parents, they can only hold this crooked and broken umbrella and continue to walk.
The thinking of these parents has been solidified, and it is useless for you to say anything. Grades are the top priority they think, in essence, it is still the cognition left over from the previous era, it is basically impossible to change them, at this time, I really just want to find a way to guide the child, so that the child can learn to get out of the control of the original family, even if it is difficult, basically the pain of peeling off the skin, but this can not be helped, and there is often only one ending, that is, to stay away from their parents, and spend the rest of their lives to heal the damage caused by the original family!