In the process of our social life,
We will use the prominent social character of different individuals as symbolic metaphors.
In this way, it is convenient for different groups to understand and grasp these personality traits.
Especially in the recent mbti (Myers–Briggs Type Indicator) test based on Jungian psychology that has swept the Internet, different personality types have been given various nicknames by netizens:
Old man, puppy, little butterfly, etc...... This also makes today's young people have a greater psychological identity with their character.
But in fact, long before MBTI swept the Internet,
There are already such similar metaphors in traditional modern psychological research.
For example, Brian Little, a psychologist at Harvard University, in his book "Breaking Through Nature",
once proposed an "avocado-type" personality, which once made many "avocados" have an extremely proud psychological identity.
"Avocado" personality
Avocado, scientific name avocado (Persea americana Mill.), is a fruit native to the tropical regions of South America, which is rich in nutrients and has medical value.
The fruit is oval in shape and has a hard core in the center.
So we also easily understand that the so-called avocado-type personality,
Like the shape of the avocado itself, when you spend a lot of time with individuals with this kind of personality,
You will find that when you keep digging deeper, what awaits you is an incomparably hard core.
Individuals with avocado-type personalities are also due to the existence of this core.
Only then did he show a great willingness to think in life.,And for the things that I believe in.。
When other groups face the ever-changing and even stormy environment of the outside world,
There will be some vacillation and self-doubt,
Individuals with avocado-type personalities are still convinced of their own ideas.
In fact, even in today's life, there will be many people who emphasize that they are "strong inside".
often says that he "will not be swayed by other people's remarks", but more often he says it to others, as a way to prove that he seems to be very charismatic.
People who really have a firm core and a strong heart,
I would not confide my heart to the outside world in such a flamboyant way.
Because groups with avocado personalities are able to stick to their inner thoughts at the same time,
Extreme self-discipline in daily life, make reasonable plans for yourself according to the lofty purpose of life, and then pay silently and make a splash.
Let's take a look at a typical example of an avocado personality.
What is the core: the life of a writer
He became famous in the literary world because of his own style of works.
But probably few people know about what he went through before he became famous, especially how much hard work he put into becoming a writer.
Lin Qingxuan was born in a rural family in Taiwan and has lived a very poor life since he was a child.
He and his younger siblings even ate cockroaches to satisfy their hunger because they had no food to eat.
The lack of material life also led to the lack of spiritual life in his family, and the young Lin Qingxuan showed great interest in literature and writing.
I often miss work because of reading books and writing articles, and even once I was fascinated by looking at the world map, which caused the firewood to go out.
At this time, what was always exchanged for his father's beating and scolding,
In other words, "You don't want to think of places on the map in your life." ”
But even under such a hard material life and great spiritual pressure,
Lin Qingxuan has never forgotten his dream of being a writer.
He worked as a coolie at the wharf, set up a stall and started a small business, while supporting his family, he worked hard and tempered himself.
When he finally arrived at the Pyramid of Khufu in Egypt, he wrote a postcard to his father here:
Artist Huang Yongyu said:
"Life is a 10,000-meter run, if someone criticizes you, then you have to run faster.
That way, those voices will be behind you and you won't be able to hear them again. ”
From the perspective of social communication psychology, various evaluations from the outside world will have a significant impact on our value judgments and even social actions.
Even for most people, when they hear voices from the outside world,
Your own nerves will respond accordingly.
As a result, there is no confidence or even doubt about self-perception, and then they adjust their social actions.
If only we could know that having a firm core like an avocado is a very important point in life.
So what would the result be without an identified kernel?
The spiritual world of the "onion" group
Since there is an avocado with a hard kernel, then there is naturally an onion on the opposite side.
The so-called onion personality refers to those who are not very mentally firm and are very easily defeated by external pressure.
Just like singer Yang Zuwei sang in the song "Onion", when you peel off their hearts layer by layer, you will find that there is nothing in the end.
What kind of inner world does such a person have?
Xiao Wang, a girl who graduated from graduate school more than ten years ago, is such a personality.
Who knew that such a choice was greeted with all kinds of ridicule:
People I know around me say that good graduate students go to be "cabinet sisters", helping others put on and take off their shoes and get clothes.
Even a colleague in a store often asked him to do this and that, all kinds of difficulties.
So in the face of such great external pressure, although the income was not bad at that time,
But Xiao Wang still chose to give up, listened to the advice of his elders, went home to take the exam, and lived a 9-to-5 life.
A few years later, Xiao Wang accidentally communicated with two colleagues who had done store sales together that year.
found that a person became a company executive, a person became a well-known fashion blogger, and achieved financial freedom while also having a relatively high social status.
This made Xiao Wang, who was still living a life in the grassroots system for ten years, regret it: If he insisted on it a little more at that time, would he be able to live the life he wanted?
In today's complex society, the Internet and various media influence our thoughts and perceptions all the time.
If you want to succeed, the most important thing is to have a strong core.