"Wang Gui and Anna" and "Golden Marriage" describe the married life of the same era. Compared with Anna who was not willing to marry Wang Gui at the beginning, Wen Li and Tong Zhi in the golden marriage were also considered to be in love first, and with an emotional foundation, they entered the marriage.
Supposedly, the latter's marriage should be better than the former's, but the truth is just the opposite. Anna was obviously much happier than Wen Li. At least she has the thoughtfulness and gratitude of her husband, and Wen Li and Tong Zhi are only left with dislike and even disgust for each other after middle age.
Of course, both husbands have had the experience of cheating (spiritual cheating), but Anna's life has not been much hurt by this matter, and Wen Li has ruined her husband's future because of rumors, and because her husband is depressed, she has made rumors come true, and she has lived on the verge of collapse for the rest of her life.
Why is it that the same husband cheated, but the two were affected by a world of difference?
The first is the responsibility of two men to the family.
In addition to Tong Zhi's sweet love with Wen Li when he was just married, and was willing to take on part of the responsibilities of the family, from his mother, he began to be a hand-throwing treasurer, and the family affairs were fully responsible for the mother and wife.
And Wen Li's mind is used to ask for her son, and the daughter is either pampered or thrown to her mother-in-law, or she doesn't even want to see it. After finally getting what he wanted to have a son, he directly ignored her husband, and several daughters did not have the heart to raise. Both her daughter and Tong Zhi have great opinions about her.
The only thing that can be done is to escape, Yanni escapes by falling in love, the south escapes by reading, Duoduo escapes by promiscuity, and Tong Zhi escapes by work. In a word, no one's mind is at home, and no one feels real warmth in this home.
And Wang Gui, whether he has just been married or married for a few years, his family is cooking, and Anna only does it when Wang Gui is too busy to go home and cook. And Wang Gui never felt that his cooking was a grievance against himself, a compromise with his wife. In his eyes, marrying a wife is to make her wife live well. He worked hard to substitute classes, earn more money, and let his wife and children live a better life. Decades as a day, that is, in the old age, the family's meals are basically cooked by Wang Gui.
Making a meal doesn't mean anything.
Indeed, it at least means that Wang Gui's feelings for Anna and this family have not changed. He knows to take on that responsibility. I know that as a man, you can't just make money, and housework is also obligatory. And when Anna and her mother-in-law had a conflict, he did not turn to his mother, although he beat his wife, but he knew that his mother was also wrong.
In terms of children's education, although Wang Gui has traditional concepts, he feels that his son is the one who inherits the generations. But he also loved his daughter. There was no distinction in the treatment of the two children. Anna has no old thoughts, if it were not for Wang Gui's request, she might have only given birth to an an'an child. What's more, Anna was also a little flirtatious in the first two years of marriage, since Wang Gui went to study and substitute classes in order to make more money, Anna has gradually been impressed by this man who strives to let his wife and children live a good life, although sometimes she is still hard-mouthed and unwilling to praise Wang Gui in person, but she is very distressed about her husband in her heart.
In short, Wang Gui and Anna's home is warm, there is no differentiated treatment of children, no mutual complaints about each other, and there is no bad heart incident of disregarding the life and death of their spouses for the sake of children. The two husbands and wives work hard together, and the little days become more and more prosperous. Between them, there is no very essential contradiction, and there is no factor that is prone to cracks.
Secondly, there is an essential difference between the derailment of Tong Zhi and Wang Gui.
Tong Zhi and Li Tianjiao were really just gossip at first. At least Tong Zhi had no idea on his side. But later, Wen Li's series of operations ruined his future, cut off his promotion path, coupled with Li Tianjiao's initiative and heart to intervene, there was really an emotion between them. Tong Zhi later said to Li Tianjiao, "In my life, except for my wife, I have only loved you as a woman" Tong Zhi was really touched by Li Tianjiao.
Wen Li's sentence "You didn't touch her hand, did you touch her heart" Yes, whether it is because of venting the unhappiness of the career, or because of the depressed and tense family atmosphere, or the resistance to the increasingly bad relationship between husband and wife. Tong Zhi is really cheating, and mental derailment is more terrible than physical derailment. He was truly moved, and his heart was no longer at home. The old woman was sick and hospitalized, and she couldn't stop him from meeting his lover. If it were not for the mother-in-law, their marriage would have ended in divorce long ago.
But when it comes to Wang Gui, do you say that he has the intention of cheating? No, things are still going well for the family. But both men and women have vanity, facing the adoring eyes of young and beautiful girls, taking the initiative to throw themselves into the embrace, and men who are not moved at all can not find a few. You want to say that he really like Tong Zhi really moved the mind of liking other women, it seems that it is not comprehensive, he is enjoying the adoration of the little girl, and satisfying the sense of superiority and vanity with the love of the little girl. After all, she has been hated by her wife all her life, and Anna is a person who does not praise her face. It is not easy for someone to think that he is excellent, look up to him, who to change, the heart can not be happy.
At the end of the day, a man's infidelity lies in his sense of responsibility to his family. Everyone will encounter temptations, it does not matter whether the person is good or not, but whether he can withstand it or not depends on the man. Wen Li is no longer good in the early stage, she strives to change herself for this family, rejects the pursuit of admirers, and focuses on her children and family. Even the picky mother-in-law is moved, can't move a husband who throws his hands in charge?
Between Wang Gui and Anna, if Wang Gui cheats, it must be Wang Gui's fault. But between Wen Li and Tong Zhi, it is really biased to say that it is completely Tong Zhi's fault. After all, his career can be said to have been buried by Wen Li himself again and again. Wang Gui always thinks of home, and always has Anna in his heart. In the later period, Tong Zhi no longer wanted to return to that home, and he no longer had Wen Li in his heart. If it wasn't for Li Tianjiao not wanting him, if it wasn't for his mother's last words, he and Wen Li would have parted ways long ago.
It is said that the prodigal son does not change the gold, but it also depends on what prodigal son, like Tong Zhi, who gives his heart out, wants it in vain, in his heart, what he can't get will always miss!