When you think of Disney fairy tales, what comes to mind? Snow White, who eats a poisoned apple, is woken up by the prince's kiss and lives happily with the prince? Or is cinderella, abused by her stepmother and stepmother, putting on a glass shoe that fits her feet and starting their happy life hand in hand with the prince?
The ending of the fairy tale is that the prince and the princess live happily together, because in this way, the beautiful love in the story seems to be destined. But after watching the Disney live-action movie "Beauty and the Beast," I realized that no love affair can happen for granted, and that all lovers have put a lot of effort into the relationship to hold on to their children.
Beauty and the Beast won the 2017 MTV Film and Television Awards and the 21st Hollywood Film Awards, and was nominated for Best Art Direction and Best Costume Design at the 90th Academy Awards. The gorgeousness and exquisiteness of the film makes the love of Beauty and the Beast more fairytale romance.
The story of the film is simple: Belle, a young girl who voluntarily stays in the castle to save her father, and the prince who is cursed into a beast, fall in love with each other in their daily relationship. True love defeats magic, the beast transforms back into a prince, and the two hold a grand ball in the castle to start their sweet life.
Behind the love of Beauty and the Beast, hidden are 3 psychological effects in intimate relationships. This article will analyze the acquaintance and love of beauty and the beast from three aspects: the "primacy effect" at first meeting, the "proximate cause effect" in daily relationships, and the "reward theory" in intimate relationships.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01's first meeting full of misunderstandings did not create the "first cause effect" of "love at first sight", but caused an embarrassing situation of "looking at each other and getting bored"</h1>
In the film, Belle and the Beast meet for the first time and are unhappy: Belle's father picks a rose in the Beast's castle because of his promise to Belle, and wants to take it home for Belle, but the Beast identifies him as a thief and locks him up in his castle. Belle, who came to the castle to save her father, was regarded by the beast as a "thief's daughter", and the beast did not give her any good looks.
In the eyes of Belle, who came to the castle alone, the beast that indiscriminately locked up his father was cold-blooded and strange.
Because of this unpleasant first sight, when the beast was encouraged by the servants of the house to invite Belle to dinner, Belle simply rejected the beast. The beast plucked up the rare courage to come and invite, but was decisively refused, and he became angry and left angrily.
After this, Belle, out of curiosity, went to the West Bell Tower, where roses were placed that affected whether the beast could turn back into a prince. As she approached the rose in the glass canopy, the beast of the rose that was particularly nervous was angry at the fall of the rose petals, so she turned to Belle and yelled at Belle, who was angry and frightened, and fled the castle all night.
At this stage, the state of antagonism between Belle and the Beast has a lot to do with the "primacy effect".
The first cause effect was proposed by the American psychologist Locsins, also known as the first effect, the priority effect or the first impression effect, which refers to the impact of the first impression formed by the two parties to the interaction on the future relationship, that is, the effect of "preconceptions".
What we call "love at first sight" is actually the role of the "first cause effect", because a good first impression makes the two parties who meet for the first time have a very high sense of identification with each other, thus generating the flame of love.
In the movie, the love between Belle and the Beast obviously not only did not get the benefits of the "first cause effect", but was pulled back. Because they left a bad first impression on each other's hearts when they first met, the two people did not have a good attitude towards each other in the subsequent relationship.
Although the "first cause effect" can create "love at first sight", it does not determine the direction of feelings. The emotional path of Belle and the beast in the film is like this, and the phenomenon of flash marriage and divorce in society is also a strong proof.
In modern society, there are many talents who know each other for a long time, and they think that the other party is their "destiny", so they rush to marry each other. However, most of the couples who "flash marriage", because they do not know each other well enough, will find many places that are difficult to coordinate after marriage, and their expectations and admiration for each other are consumed in ordinary daily life, and the "first impression" brought by the "first cause effect" is replaced by the real face slowly displayed in life.
At this time, some people will shout that they have discovered the "true face" of the other party, but they do not know that the other party has always been like this, but when they first met, the "first cause effect" was named "love at first sight", blindfolding people's eyes. That's why someone says, "Love at first sight is not love, but face." ”
The "primacy effect" is important, but it can't determine the ultimate direction of a relationship. No relationship can be supported entirely by a "first impression," and likewise, even an unromantic first sight like Beauty and the Beast can have unexpected endings.
"First impressions" do not exactly represent what a person really is. Therefore, in life, do not easily "label" a person because of the "first impression", do not easily affect your own judgment by the "first cause effect", give the other party more time to show yourself, and also give yourself more time to understand each other, so as not to miss your princess or prince.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 simple and ordinary daily interaction, creating a "recency effect" of "long-term love", breaking the prejudice of first impressions, and allowing the two to truly know each other</h1>
On Belle's way home from the castle, she encounters wolves, and in a critical moment, the beast comes to her side, and in order to drive away the wolves, the beast is seriously injured. Because of this, Belle reversed course and rode the wounded beast back to the castle on horseback.
While caring for the wounded beast, Belle learns of the beast's unhappy childhood from the housekeeper's description, and also learns the origin of his indifferent character, and she begins to change her "first impression" of the beast.
When Belle reads the lines from Shakespeare's play at the beast's bedside, the beast naturally picks up the next sentence. Belle, who loves to read and seems out of place in the village, meets for the first time someone with whom she shares a common hobby. What surprised her even more was the richly booked study that the Beast had opened to her.
The experience of resisting wolves and common hobbies breaks the "sequelae" left by the "first cause effect" for the two, and Belle and the beast begin to truly know each other.
Together, they choose books to read, eat together, and enjoy the snow together. In the process, the Beast discovers Belle's intelligence and amusement, and Belle recognizes the Beast's talent and tenderness.
Although the experience of meeting is not beautiful enough, in the process of getting along, the "proximate effect" allows two people to understand each other's advantages in daily life and re-recognize the real other.
The recency effect is the psychological effect of the newly emerged stimulus on the formation of impressions, also proposed by psychologist Luchins.
In 1957, Luchins conducted a psychological experiment in which, in the event that two or more stimuli of different meanings appeared sequentially, the determinant of impression formation was the new stimulus that appeared later. This means that when two people still have the opportunity to get along daily after the first meeting, the image displayed later will overshadow the "first impression" and form a more complete and rich image in the person's mind, thus leaving a deeper feeling.
This is also reflected in the classic novel Pride and Prejudice, where Darcy and Elizabeth's love also has a "proximate effect":
When they first met, Darcy, because of Elizabeth's mother's shallowness, decided that Elizabeth was equally superficial and unattractive, and put aside her bold words: "She is beautiful, but she is not beautiful enough to make me move." And Elizabeth found this Darcy particularly arrogant and not at all likable. But later together, they left a new impression on each other and re-acquainted themselves with each other.
Darcy saw Elizabeth's intelligence and uniqueness, and Elizabeth noticed the gentle gentleman beneath Darcy's arrogant appearance. Time gives them the opportunity to get along, and the "proximate effect" makes them reacquaint themselves with the real other.
In other words, the "proximate effect" is "seeing people's hearts over time." Because of the long time together, the two people have the opportunity to see more details about each other. The first meeting can be carefully prepared, and there may be various misunderstandings because of the wrong timing, but daily getting along can show more details of life and the real self, and it is also conducive to seeing the real other party.
Therefore, when we miss the plus point of the "first cause effect", it is better to grasp the "proximate cause effect" to express ourselves and show ourselves. At the same time, we are also wary of the hints that the "primacy effect" may give us, even if we encounter people whose "first impression" is not very good, we will give the other party more time and opportunities, so that the "proximate effect" can play its role.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 Love is a two-way rush and mutual satisfaction of mutual fulfillment, the "reward theory" in intimate relationships, making the love between two people more mature and firm</h1>
What is very special about "Beauty and the Beast" is that it does not belong to the traditional fairy tale, does not arrange the plot of the prince saving the princess, but is more in line with the emotional concept of modern love, so that Belle and the beast redeem each other and complete each other.
The Beast shares his book collection with Belle, letting Belle know that he is not the "eccentric nerd" of the village neighbors, and has never been understood before. The beast uses the book that the witch left him that can travel to all parts of the world, takes Belle back to paris as a child, figures out the reason for her mother's death, understands more about her father's love for herself and the love between her parents, and unties the knot in her mother's heart.
Belle stood on the bridge reading poetry for the beast, letting him understand the poetry of the ice and snow, teaching him how to get close to his horse, and making him feel the satisfaction of trust. When the beast stained his hair by drinking soup, Belle did not laugh at him, but chose to personally demonstrate another posture of drinking soup, so that the beast felt respected and no longer gave up on himself because of his appearance.
Most importantly, Belle taught the Beast to love, and the Beast learned to give for Belle, so even knowing that Belle's departure would put the whole castle under a curse forever, the Beast was still willing to let Belle leave when Belle's father was in trouble, and Belle would return to the castle alone in a dangerous moment to be with the Beast.
It is precisely because Belle and the Beast attract each other with their own merits and help each other become better selves that their love will become more mature and strong in mutual achievement and mutual satisfaction. And this is the "reward theory" in intimate relationships.
Milan Basil, a professor of psychology at Houston State University in the United States, once mentioned in his book "Intimate Relationship": "The most basic assumption of attraction between people is that the appearance of others has a rewarding significance for us. ”
And this "reward" means something that makes us happy and helpful in intimate relationships. When we can get a "reward" from the other person in an intimate relationship, the other person will also be more attractive to us. When we show our value in an intimate relationship and give each other a "reward", we will also be more attractive to each other.
The "reward theory" in intimate relationships is a "two-way" giving and satisfaction. This is true of Belle and the Beast in the movie, as well as the enviable Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai in the literary world.
Qian Zhongshu commented on Yang Dai as "the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman." Yang Dai fully supported Qian Zhongshu when he decided to write "The Siege of the City". In order to save money, Yang Dai, who was popular at the time because of the play "Satisfactory Heart", resigned from the maid of the family and was willing to be a "maid under the stove". They are perfected and recognized by each other.
The wife's talent and dedication to the family is a reward for Qian Zhongshu, and it is also the "attraction" in the intimate relationship between the two; his appreciation and affirmation of his wife is also a "reward" in the intimate relationship for Yang Dai, so that Yang Dai can get satisfaction and happiness in this relationship.
Therefore, the importance of the "reward theory" is self-evident in order to have a good intimate relationship. We need to recognize that the "reward theory" increases the attraction between the sexes, and we also need to pay more attention to the sense of happiness and satisfaction that the "reward theory" brings in intimate relationships.
To realize the "reward theory", we need to have our own strengths that deserve to be affirmed, to be able to give each other happiness in love, to heal each other's pain, and to take the initiative to "reward" each other. We also need to have the eyes to discover each other's strengths, see each other's efforts, recognize each other's strengths, and affirm each other's "reward" value.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >04 conclusion</h1>
Although the love between Beauty and the Beast has the romance and gorgeousness of a Disney fairy tale, there is no setting bound to "love is destined". It is more like the love of our ordinary people, feelings from scratch, from shallow to profound, slowly heating up, water to water. Because of this, we can see our own shadow in it and explore the "knowledge points" that can be learned behind love.
Behind this ups and downs of fairy tale love, it is the "first cause effect", "proximate cause effect" and the "reward theory" in intimate relationships that play a guiding role, and this is also the psychological effect we usually encounter on the road of feelings.
I hope that we can all get inspiration about love from the love between Beauty and the Beast, have a clearer understanding of our own emotional path, and write a love fairy tale with our own "prince" or "princess".