In the eyes of many people, it is best to have children and daughters in the family, but whether to give birth to a boy or a girl is often not influenced by parents. Friend Xiaoli held three babies in five years, all girls, friends said that Xiaoli is blessed, because everyone has the impression that girls understand things early and take care of their families more.
It is said that the family has a difficult scripture to read, even if you know that Xiaoli is also very headache. Her headache is that she quite wants a son, but she has not waited, and her in-laws have been under pressure, but her family conditions are also average, and she does not dare to regenerate. Even if they put aside the economy and continue to regenerate, she does not dare to guarantee that the sons born below will be sons, because there are 2 mothers in the village, one of whom has given birth to 5 daughters in a row, and the other family who wants to have daughters has 4 sons in a row.
Just like this, under pressure, Xiao Li's little daughter should also go to kindergarten, she still did not dare to have children again. Once I chatted with her and asked if she was alive later? She answered me very directly: don't think about it. I asked why I was so determined, but it wasn't like this before.
Raising children is the bigger deal than having children. The reason why she didn't want children anymore was because she found that her adoptive daughter was not at all worry-free. The eldest daughter is indeed older and sensible, and the family often praises the child. The second daughter and the younger daughter are a bit naughty, especially the second daughter is more naughty than the boys, jumping down and down all day and night, energetic, like a monkey. She couldn't help but sigh: You said I gave birth to a tomboy!
A tomboy is a girl with a personality or image like a boy, and in general, these families are prone to tomboys.
1, often indoctrinated with boys' good ideas
For example, some families who want to have boys will unconsciously put this on their lips, or some are instilled by relatives and friends. Like a friend's house, many relatives come and see three girls, and unconsciously they will say: If only there were another boy!
When children have gender awareness, when they hear adults say this, they will think that boys are not very popular, and then unconsciously imitate boys to get the attention of adults.
2. Raise boys
Some families like boys, and the things bought for children are also bought according to the preferences of boys, plus what children like when they are young is not very obvious, and the family buys what they play and wear what they buy. Xiao li's second daughter is a year younger than her nephew, the clothes and toys that her nephew does not wear are given to her, she dresses up like a boy from childhood, and most of the toys she plays with are toys played with by boys, sometimes they play outside, and people who don't know them think she is a boy.
3. Often with the opposite sex, lack of same-sex family company
People who have watched the TV series "In the Name of the Family" must have the impression that Li Jianjian in the play was a tomboy when he was a child, and his family is a man, especially often with two brothers, in addition to looking like a woman, behavior habits, speaking tone, there is no bit like a woman.
When the child is young, the imitation ability is very strong, she will take the initiative to imitate the speech and behavior of the people around her, if the child lacks the same-sex family around when the child is young, then the first thing she imitates is the speech and behavior of the opposite sex family.
In fact, boys and girls are the heart of parents, and if they are well cultivated, they will not be bad in the future. I remember watching the Tokyo Olympics with my children a few days ago and found that many of the medal winners were women. One of them, who looked a lot like a "tomboy," won the gold medal at just 14 years old. Her family conditions are not good, but she trains very hard and of course has talent.
Therefore, if you also have a "tomboy" in your family, don't care too much, maybe she is the one who is different, you just need to guide her well, encourage her, give her enough care, and don't let her take a detour!
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