When you truly love yourself, you can learn to love others

Wen | little jumping classmate

People who like to read healing prose should be familiar with Bi Shumin.

Bi Shumin, a first-class writer in mainland China, is quite influential in the contemporary Chinese language scene. She is an attending physician, counselor and writer in internal medicine.

Her articles are beautiful and atmospheric, the content is wise and compassionate, and her words have healed and touched countless readers, and wang meng praised her as "the angel in white in the literary world".

Read her prose, even if you are a piece of paper full of folds inside, she can iron you and make your heart clean as new.

As she puts it: "The heart of excellence does not have to be gorgeous, but it must be strong." When you truly love yourself, do something that makes your heart rejoice. ”

Love yourself, this question seems simple but so mirrory and watery that people are often in the fog. First of all, we need to understand what love is?

Love is something wider than the sky and the ocean, it is like a billion stars in the starry sky, it cannot be seen and touched; it is like a coral in the ocean, which can be seen innumerable.

Without love, the vault above our heads would be dark and the creatures of the surrounding oceans would go extinct. Love is important, it's obvious.

And loving yourself is the beginning of love, it does not require you to give anything, only you need to have a brave and fearless soul.

If you are now surrounded by retreat and defiance, then you must read Bi Shumin's article, perhaps she is the ferryman of your confused stage.

These few truths in the book are worth learning:

Forge the mood, life is therefore magnificent and gorgeous

Man is both a carcass made of flesh and blood, and a castle built of heart and soul. The unity of the two, the mood is dominated by people. If we don't have a good mood, then everything is like building a tower on the sand and fishing for the moon in the water.

The heart is a closed box in the depths of our hearts, which can hold the warmth and cold of the world, and can also accommodate the wind, flowers, snow and moons of nature.

Our hearts are soft and cannot withstand the sound of the wind outside; our hearts can be hard, as brilliant but powerful as diamonds.

Since it can be transformed between soft and hard, why don't we forge the mood and make it more stable?

Bi Shumin said: "Happy people will smile in the dark night, and miserable people, even if they are asleep, will shed tears in their dreams."

An unhappy person, her heart is soft, because it cannot stand up to scrutiny. Such a person, living under the gaze of others, is afraid of the leaves, and his heart is like a reed fluttering around.

A person who is afraid of difficulties, her heart is soft, because she cannot withstand the tribulations. Such a person is doomed to do nothing, to achieve nothing, and will experience the slap of life for the rest of his life.

So please forge your mood, make it as hard as a rock, and don't do the reeds that let the wind blow.

A person whose heart is as hard as a stone will not be palpitated by the wind and grass outside, nor will he be self-pitying and stagnant because of the slap that life has given you. Forging the mood, life will be magnificent and brilliant.

Peel off the cocoon, so life opens the fog to see the sky

Silkworms, an insect that wraps itself in silk. Silkworms are creatures that are both comfortable and pathetic.

It never thought that the small world it had created for itself with silk would eventually become a weapon to entangle itself.

When it spits silk, it is focused and happy, immersed in the fruits of its own labor, until it is finally thrown by the silkworm keeper into the boiling boiling water to peel the silk, and the silk threads that spread across the sky are the last straw that overwhelms it.

Sometimes, our human tragedy is the same as that of silkworms. We were all wrapped up in our own vomit.

When you see money as your inner crosshair, that money is the silk you spit out. Money, everyone loves, there is no doubt about it.

If you just get money with your hands, then your purpose is simple.

But if your means of grabbing money are dirty and the purpose is not simple, then you will slowly sink into the silk you spit out, and eventually you may be entangled in it.

When you are addicted to the sweet words of love and cannot extricate yourself, the silk of love will blindfold you, suffocate you, and confuse you.

True love is temperance and reason. If you love excessively, you will be like a patient with respiratory failure, and finally die safely in the overuse of oxygen.

Because the high intensity of oxygen inhibits the patient's respiratory center, it loses the ability to breathe spontaneously.

In the same way, everything you are in business, if you are just spitting silk, then you will only be slowly wrapped in your own silk until death.

Don't be a master of cocooning yourself, stop loss in time, peel off the cocoon, maybe you will find that life is so clear.

Resist the only one, so life is radiant

When we waited for the bus, we found that the wildflowers on the side of the road were so delicate and beautiful that you thought it was the best flower you had ever seen, so you missed the shuttle and just admired the one you had at hand.

But you didn't think that when you get on the bus, the scenery at the next stop is more pleasant, and the flowers in the garden are more delicate.

You missed the spring color of the garden because of a wildflower on the side of the road, and I have to say that you are stupid.

In this world, the most uncertain is the only, and the most unbelievable is also the only.

There is no unique work. Who stipulates that you can only work diligently and earnestly for the rest of your life, and keep this "iron rice bowl". No one can be sure that various factors will force you to resign and lay off in the future.

If you want to rise step by step, you must dare to step out of the "only" circle and accept the challenge of the next job. What if your next job is to turn you into a phoenix?

There is no one in love. The person you met when you were young and amazed you, no one can say that you will be together in the future.

You can't believe in the only, because everything in this world will always be variable. Milk expires and love spoils. Now you think you have met the right love, but who can be sure of future marriage?

Never lower your bottom line and principles for love, and remember to always put love for yourself first.

Resisting the only thing, life will be full of energy and live freely.

Now, you are still prosperous, love yourself. In the process, I believe you will find your own heart and a unique self-experience.

Love doesn't cost, it just requires a fearless soul. Give it a thumbs up, may you in the future, can understand your heart, can love yourself well.