How would you feel if you were waiting in the delivery room and were in so much pain that your husband was playing games calmly outside? Presumably, a slightly normal woman will definitely be blown up.
After all, at this moment, you are experiencing pain, whether it is physical or mental, you are suffering. As a qualified lover, you should wait anxiously outside the delivery room, even if you can't do anything, you must do your best.
But some people obviously made mistakes, but they felt innocent, and even ran to the Internet to complain, delusionally that some netizens could understand and comfort him. He actually shamelessly asked, how many games to play, to spend some time, is it too much?
Let's not jump to conclusions, such behavior is not too much, may wish to exchange identities, assuming that at this time you are in the delivery room to give birth, from time to time the pain makes it difficult for you to shed tears, and your lover, but outside the game can play hard.
I can understand that the boy's so-called powerlessness, he feels that he can't help with the birth of a child, and he can't go in and accompany him, so he has to play games to pass the time.
Although it makes sense logically, it is chilling in terms of emotion. At this time, your wife is in great pain for the sake of your common child, and you can do nothing, but you cannot remain indifferent.
No wonder some people know if they want to know if they are married to the right person and have a child for him. But at this point, if you don't marry the right person, it's not too late.
In fact, whether you marry the right person does not need to wait for this step. For example, the man who plays games outside the delivery room must occupy a particularly important role in his daily life.
If not, he would not have been in the wife waiting for delivery, such a critical moment, actually play games to kill time, his such a practice, it is really very chilling, there is no man's responsibility at all.
When a man is always game-centric, then you have to be careful. Even if this man, all aspects of him grow on the point you like, you can not choose the moth to put out the fire, otherwise there will be your bitter fruit to eat.
Some girls, do not hit the south wall and do not turn back, even if they hit their heads and break the blood, they are not dead-hearted, and they believe that they love the love of this life, but he will not change. I didn't even know whether to praise her bravery or be stupid.
We all know that a good marriage is a parallel and evenly matched. But if you fall in love with a man whose life is dominated by games, you are tantamount to pulling yourself back.
As long as he has an enterprising heart, life will sooner or later be as you wish, but there will be some setbacks in the middle.
But if a man, addicted to the game all day long, even loves you this thing, you have to remind, or even ask for it, then you should take advantage of the cliff to stop the horse, stop clinging to it, and the mud is deep.
Fulfill him, but also let go of yourself, the rest of your life is long, you have to find a man who truly loves you to work with you, so as not to come to this world in vain.
Then the question is, how to identify the person you love, whether it is a man worth entrusting for life. My suggestion is that it can be examined from the following three aspects.
1. Will he be anxious about you?
Truly loving someone must be full of yours. At this time, you are waiting for delivery in the delivery room, even if he can't accompany him, he will not play games outside to kill time, because he will be anxious for you at this time.
If the man you love is always slow, not in a hurry, and does anything that requires you to be angry or spoiled to complete, then he does not really love you, but just enjoys the feeling of being embraced by you.
In fact, many couples can't tell whether they are together because they love that person or because they are together because that person gives you feelings. Maybe at first it was because that person, at first glance, fell for ten thousand years, but after a long time together, I found that I didn't feel anything, but I had to barely maintain it, but behind my back, I was secretly riding a donkey to find a horse, trying to find a more suitable feeling for myself.
We cannot say that human nature is selfish and indifferent, in fact, this is what nature is. People who truly love someone purely, and love without reservation, are rare in reality, let alone anxious about you.
But then again, the degree of anxiety needs to be pinched, things have priorities, if it is a big thing for you, and the man you love, but not the same thing, not at all anxious, then it is time to turn around and leave.
Don't waste your great time on someone who doesn't love you, it's not worth it.
2) Whether he is willing to suffer for you
I don't know if you have such a feeling, obviously what you eat is not very good, but it feels particularly delicious. In fact, delicious is not what you eat, but the person who eats with you.
This can be explained from a psychological point of view, just like the lover's eyes are out of the West, and the same is true of Aiwu and Wu. Because I love someone, even the things I eat become extremely delicious. The affection between you will produce a wonderful chemical reaction.
There is a person around who really loves you, even if you eat chaff vegetables, you don't feel bitter. In other words, as long as he has you in his heart, he is willing to suffer for you and will fight for a beautiful home for you.
However, in this era of material abundance, people have few opportunities to suffer hardships. The hardships mentioned here refer to his willingness to take the initiative to undertake some physical work for you.
For example, when you say you're hungry in the middle of the night, he'll go to your usual favorite store, buy your favorite food, and then run to you breathlessly and say, while it's hot, eat it quickly.
Or maybe you're ready to put down roots in the city, and he's willing to give himself a few more jobs for the house of your dreams, just so that you can live in the house you want to live in as soon as possible.
To love someone is willing to suffer for her, even if it is bitter, he does not feel bitter, because chewing and chewing, he will taste the sweetness inside. This is the greatness and wonder of love.
3, whether there is you in his life plan
Some men say that they love you, but they only talk about it, because his life plan has always been only himself, and he has never had you.
On the contrary, every decision you make is to consider him, and even willing to give up better opportunities for him. Such a love brain, I do not advocate. Because love is fragile, only what is held tightly in the hand can make you feel more secure.
Boys' love is much more rational than that of girls. They will often convince you that you are constantly asking you to cater to him for the sake of the goodness he describes in his mouth, and you become selfless.
Many times, girls know that boys don't love her so much, but they are willing to move themselves and will find various reasons to convince themselves of their misconduct. Such humble love will not be exchanged for a satisfactory result.
Some people may say that I have humbled him to the dust, but how can I not get his love, how can he still wantonly trample on my sincerity and dignity, making me sad.
All I can say is that you don't even love yourself, so how can someone else love you. You can even break through your own principles and bottom lines, so don't blame people for abandoning you when you have no use value.
All situations are the result of your past choices. When you learn that he does not have you in his life plan, you actually choose to deceive yourself, and the final result will only be full of wounds for love.
If you had gone through this triple screening before you got married, you wouldn't have been entrusted with a non-human being, and there would have been no scene where you were waiting to give birth in the delivery room and your man was playing games outside.
Here we should remind women to have the courage to stop losses at any time, not to make mistakes and take the happiness of the rest of their lives. As long as you are confident and have the ability to make a living, even if you leave a man, you can still live a tasteful life.