True self-discipline is not intermittent effort, but true self-motivation, which is continuous effort.
Sometimes, we are motivated by the success of others and begin to think that we can actually do it ourselves. We will also envy the achievements of others and think that we must work hard ourselves. We also hate our laziness and decadence and want to change the status quo completely.
In fact, at the beginning, you can indeed get up early, but only insist on it for a day or two; you can also read a book for a while before going to bed, but it is only three minutes of heat; you are determined to exercise, but if you insist on it for no more than half a month, you will give up.
In many moments, we often deceive ourselves with intermittent efforts. I thought that as long as I worked hard, I would prove that I still had self-motivation, but the real self-motivation was continuous effort.
You think you can't stick to it because you have too little time, too much busy work, too much pressure, and in fact, persistence doesn't give any reason or excuse.
The difference between people is not about trying or not trying.
Perhaps, it is better to work hard than to do nothing. However, only occasional efforts, occasional progress, and occasional struggles have brought about growth and progress, which is not only negligible, but even regressive.
The biggest gap between ordinary and excellent is whether uninterrupted effort can be achieved.
Everyone craves to be better, to have a new look. Occasionally working hard will create an illusion for yourself that you have not completely given up, and then you will be at ease to be the self who has not worked hard for a long time.
If you fall into such a vicious circle, the effort is no longer for self-improvement and perfection, but as a shield for not trying.
In fact, effort is the simplest thing in the world, but it is also the least simple.
It does not have any conditions, as long as you want, anyone at any time, anywhere, can immediately work hard.
But most people may be able to make occasional efforts, but it is difficult to persist day after day.
Between a day and each day, it seems that there is only one word difference, but the real difference is the whole life.
A day's effort may be a sudden desire to fight for your life.
But every day of hard work, this continuous force comes from a person's inner motivation, without the applause or encouragement of others, to be able to move forward unswervingly towards the goal alone.
There is a saying: "As long as you work hard, it is possible to have the life you want." ”
In fact, only occasional efforts will not make people really better. A person takes a step forward and then takes a few steps back, so that the result of the cycle is that a person who looks as if he is progressing is actually regressing.
Only by constantly working hard, day after day, can we keep moving forward. Only by insisting on a longer period of time and walking a longer road can we make greater progress and get closer and closer to a better self.
All intermittent efforts are self-deception. Only long-term efforts can bring us harvest and change.
The biggest difference between people is probably in the matter of hard work, who insists better, who persists longer, who will be one step closer to the life they want.
People with strong hearts have these 6 habits
We often lament that life has ups and downs, and we need to cultivate a strong heart to face all kinds of disturbances. Developing the following 6 habits can make your heart stronger.
01, learn to focus on growth
Growth is always an unavoidable key word in life for everyone. But sometimes, we may only be three minutes hot, want to go to graduate school to continue further study, turn over two days of books and there is no follow-up; want to learn photography, buy a device and start to retreat... It seems that they have worked hard, but in fact, they are all dragonflies.
The real masters are actually long-termists, good at exerting their focus to the extreme. When you are patient enough and focused on something, you will have a harvest from scratch, from zero to one, from low to high.
02, learn to face difficulties
Whose life has not experienced a late-night collapse and has not suffered the temper of life. Not every dream can be adhered to, but in the end, it must be the strong.
A strong starting point for a person is actually to face difficulties. When your heart grows stronger, the difficulties become weaker. Be brave and build armor for our hearts.
03, Academic Society Independent Thinking
What does it mean for anyone to not have the ability to think independently? It means that there is no power in the heart.
People who are good at independent thinking know what they want. Only by having a full spiritual world can we release a free soul, live out our true appearance, and be more close to the direction of life.
04. Learn to work and rest regularly
In the Zhuangzi Jean King, it is said: "The sun rises and works, the sun enters and breathes, and the mind is at ease between heaven and earth." "What is said is that only by doing things according to the natural laws of the world can we have a good mood." If a person can really go to bed early and get up early and have a regular schedule, his heart will also be very healthy.
A regular schedule will put the body in a more stable state and the mood will be more peaceful. The mental state is good, the efficiency of doing things will also be improved, and the whole person will be full of energy and vitality.
05, learn to control emotions
Bad emotions don't solve anything, but can lead to more serious problems. And people who can't control their emotions don't know when they will hurt others and harm themselves.
In life, everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things. What is really admirable is the person who can control his emotions. They are gentle in their words and deeds, calm in their manners, and give people a sense of security. More importantly, they will not allow bad emotions to develop unchecked.
06, learn to grasp the present
From the first day we came to earth, we were doomed to have no turning back. Even if you occasionally take the wrong road or detour, the final direction is always forward. If you have been immersed in remorse and forget to look up, you can only miss the precious scenery of the moment.
The best moment of life is always the present moment. Work hard for every minute and every second in front of you, focus on the abundance of your heart, and grasp the happiness of the moment, in order to have a better future.
Empathize, do things in a different position, and act in a different position
Between people, the warmest is not a heart-to-heart match.
Our lives have never been truly right or wrong.
If you understand "transposition", you will find that everything is different.
Many times, we habitually look at problems from our own standpoint, try to think differently, think more about each other, but there will be unexpected endings.
The secret of success lies in putting your own feet in other people's shoes, so that you can think from the perspective of others.
The most valuable thing between people is to think from the other person's point of view.
So-called, those who love to come out love to return, and those who are blessed to come are blessed.
You think for others, and others will naturally think about you.
After all, people's hearts are all mutual, and only by comparing hearts to hearts can we harvest more sincerity.
Learning to go out of your own world, know how to stand in the position of others, and solve problems for others is not only the kindness of being born as a person, but also the pattern of dealing with the world.
In life, contradictions and conflicts cannot be avoided between people.
When encountering problems, if you only consider your own interests and do not consider others, it will only make the relationship between the two sides more and more tense and the problem more and more difficult to solve.
If everyone knows how to transpose positions and make concessions to each other, they will be able to turn their differences into jade and resolve contradictions.
I have seen such a passage: transposition thinking is not moral tolerance, but a complex system of thinking techniques, so that you have a high probability of knowing what others are thinking and doing, and using this as a logical starting point to carry out their own inferences and actions.
In the eyes of many of us, empathy is nothing more than empathy, being able to empathize with others.
In fact, this is relatively one-sided.
Don't look at others in your own position, look at yourself more in other people's positions, know how to do things in a different position, and treat others well.
Doing things in a different position, in the final analysis, is to find the best solution to the problem, both to understand and respect others, but also to maintain some of their own positions.
If you just blindly stand in the perspective of others and compromise with others, it becomes "flattery", and it is not a real transposition.
There are many things that we haven't experienced, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Especially when we stand on the moral high ground and judge a thing with a straight face, it is easy to get caught up in our own prejudices.
Although human sorrow and joy are not the same, no one can really empathize, but without experiencing what others have experienced, we really have no right to blame anyone.
If we can give the world more kindness, I believe that the person who is in the cold will certainly be able to feel the warmth we bring to him.
Between people, the warmest is not a heart-to-heart match.
More understanding, less indifference; more understanding, less harm.
Some people say: There are two strokes of the word, one writes about oneself, and the other writes about others.
To live, you must not only strive to make yourself better, but also know how to empathize, put others in your heart, and let others live well.
In this way, our life can achieve a true sense of perfection, and we can really write the word "people" well.
May we all be a person with pattern, wisdom and temperature for the rest of our lives.