After chasing after ten episodes of "Speak Well", while worrying about the feelings of the three pairs of CP in the play, I felt that talking well varies from person to person. Facing the same person, a meaning of the language, different tones of voice expressed, to give each other a world of difference in feeling. Therefore, regulation is an art, not only pay attention to psychological tactics, but also pay attention to the speed and tone of speech, and at the same time cooperate with the observation of speech and color, all of the above have been done, and the success rate of adjustment will be high. But once a certain aspect is not considered, such as adjusting people's mentality is not good enough, which sentence is too direct, it will become an embarrassing scene of being intimidated by the other party in seconds.
Take the unexpected situation encountered by the male protagonist Yang Guang (played by Chen Xiao) when hosting the show. Mother Li abandoned her son, and now that she is older, she wants her son to support her. This kind of thing cannot be evaluated by filial piety alone, nor can it be blindly constrained by morality. If Mother Li can take the initiative to hug her son and say a few warm words, then her son will not escape. Or the son is not mentally prepared to completely forgive Mother Li, do not agree to the hug link set up in the show to create a reunion atmosphere, since he agreed, even if he did not want to hug at that time, even if he called his mother, he would not be embarrassed.
In the process of recovering Mr. Li, helping Ding Ning (Wang Sisi) will only play with the parties, Mr. Li does not care at all, and because her attitude is a bit angry, it almost intensifies Mr. Li's rebellious emotions. It had to be Yang Guang himself, without a condescending tone, without bitter advice, and promised that the program team would not pursue any responsibility for Mr. Li. However, he took out the matter of Mr. Li's boss as an analogy, what boss attaches importance to filial piety, and thinks that people who are not filial to their parents are not able to bear the responsibility at work, and they are stunned to scare Mr. Li back to the live broadcast room. This is effective mediation.
Then take the fact that the heroine Liao Wang (Wang Xiaochen) sent a lawyer's letter to Grandma Yang (Wei Qing) to explain. Before people do mediation, they also know how to do a survey, she knows that several parties are mother-son relationship, former mother-in-law relationship, but also stupidly go straight to the subject, the middle will not be euphemistic. Of course, it will not be accepted by Grandma and Aunt (Tu Ling). When persuading Yang Guang, it was also at the point of the boss Guan Qingnian (Wang Zhifei), who let go of the obsession that "the winning lawsuit is easy to fight". If she had understood in advance the reason why Yang Guang did not forgive her mother and sympathized, the case would have been withdrawn long ago.
Or Niu Zhiling (Zeng Li) knows how to be flexible. She took the initiative to help Yang Guang find the family dispute case in Donghu Street to mediate. On the one hand, I want to help Yang Guang raise the ratings of the show and avoid being compared with Zhao Li 's (Fang Yilun) new show. On the other hand, I want Yang Guang to think of his relationship with his mother and mother, mother and grandmother by mediating the relationship between mother-in-law and mother and daughter-in-law of others. This kind of subtle help will make the parties take the initiative to self-reflect. Compared with Liao Wang's simple dogmatic preaching, the efficiency is higher and the results are better. Transfer the pressure of speaking well to Yang Guang.
Everyone has also seen that when mediating the relationship between Ms. Wan and her mother-in-law, Liang Daniang, Yang Guang mentioned empathy many times, which not only touched the two parties greatly, but also made him reflect on the relationship with his mother afterwards. Where in the world is there a mother who does not love her children? Parental divorce does not necessarily have to separate a party at fault! Whether it is a family or a community, it is very important to speak well. The scale of mediation is not well grasped, and sometimes it can really backfire