In this life, it is impossible for people to survive independently of this world, and to interact with people, we must first learn to grasp the measure.
Whether it's with friends and family, classmates and colleagues, or strangers, you need a scale.
If you don't grasp the scale well, sometimes you may hurt others, and sometimes you will hurt yourself.
Whether it is hurting others or hurting ourselves, it is not the result we want, in fact, the contradictions between people, as long as the heart, most of them can be resolved.
Of course, this requires us to sort out the various relationships, learn to think differently, try to accept ourselves, understand others, and so that the problem can be solved.
Everyone has a time when they are not confident, watching the opportunity fall on their side, but they do not have the courage to seize it, and finally become someone else's bag.
Not being confident is probably the most terrible shortcoming of a person, and the premise of not being confident is that we don't know ourselves, don't accept ourselves, and don't believe in ourselves.
We may find countless reasons for ourselves not to do it, but we do not have the courage to prove that we must do it, so why not deny ourselves?
When people are alive, they must first learn to see themselves clearly and let go of prejudice and distrust of themselves in order to go further.
Self-esteem and arrogance often bring unexpected failures; inferiority and self-abandonment will make us miss many opportunities and leave regrets.
At this time and another, there is no right or wrong in many things, but the angles they stand on are different, and the time periods they are in are different.
A wise person should understand that many things in this world have little to do with themselves, and the only person who can really rely on themselves is themselves.
Don't always think about changing others, or imposing your own views on others, doing so will only make others more and more distant from you.
In the final analysis, life is our own, others can only be our audience, the director is always ourselves, and the life drama directed by ourselves is wonderful.
No matter how close the relationship is, you can't be the protagonist of other people's lives, you can only be yourself, care about a degree, communicate with each other, and the relationship between each other can be more lasting.
A person must have the freedom to be himself and the courage to dare to be himself, have his own rhythm of life, and live a true self.
Only when a person treats himself kindly, respects himself, and focuses on himself can he become a better self.
Life is short, I want to try to get out of the narrow self, keep my original intention, so as to become a better version of myself.
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Wen Ling, a freelance writer, has her works in major newspapers and online platforms. This article is the author's original and reprinted with the author's permission.