Quarrel can be said to be a taboo in the interaction between men and women, if the scale is not grasped well, there may be a situation in which both parties break up and divorce, and even turn against each other. But girls who understand skills can make the relationship between two people more intimate through quarrels. Next, I will talk in detail about how to grasp the scale of quarrels.
First, when arguing, remember to bring your relatives with you
When quarreling involves each other's good brothers, if there is a little more drinking with friends such as dinner, some girls will not say that who is who, at first glance, it is not a good person, you see that you are all damaged by him, hurry up and stay away from him. When the boy is drunk, the current reaction may be to defend the friend for a few words. Some boys attach great importance to their friends, so their mate selection criteria naturally include whether you can get along with his friends. If your boyfriend happens to fall into this category, you must pay attention to this. The most correct way to deal with it is to accompany each other to the party and try to mingle with his good friends. If the other person is drunk, you can first show him concerns about his body. Then explain that you don't like the boy too much, he will naturally restrain a lot.
Second, don't turn over old accounts
Many girls feel that they are just complaining about a few words and boys will not go to their hearts, but boys will feel a lot of pressure when you turn over old accounts. Because in their eyes, in fact, the past things mean that they have been solved, and the girls associate the past and the present things together, which seems very aggressive, and even makes the boys have a feeling of suffocation. The next two people may fall into endless quarrels, and your feelings will be consumed in repeated quarrels. Girls always turn over old accounts when they quarrel, largely because they did not fully forgive some previous things, and when she showed forgiveness, it was more out of the girl's love for boys. This kind of psychology you can understand as because I love you and I have you in my heart, so I compromised for the sake of love, but in fact, it is irresponsible to both of you. When the negative emotions in the heart are not released in time, they will always be pressed in the heart, and when the next anger comes, it will naturally produce the idea of calculating the old and new accounts together.
The third point is not to label boys
For example, when some girls argue, they always say to boys, what a selfish man you are. You and your female colleague must be looking at each other every day. Girls often go to suspicion, doubt boys, and even frequently test boys. After a long time, the boy will be very resistant in his heart, and he will feel that you don't trust me at all. Since, no matter what, you think that I am an irresponsible person, twilight, ambiguous with people, then what motivation do I have to prove my dedication to you? What is the point of my efforts and commitments? Therefore, if a girl always gives a bad definition to a boy, it is easy for him to have the idea of breaking the jar and breaking it. When the other party does something that makes you unhappy or even makes you angry, don't say that you are such a person, but tell the other party that your method is inappropriate, and your practice makes me uncomfortable. Because it's the method that you're going to criticize and blame, not the person.