Sanmao once said: "What Heaven does not give me, no matter how I interlock my ten fingers, I still leak, and what I give to me, no matter how I have lost my hand in the past, will have it." ”
Yes, it is like the parting of adults, it seems to be fate, sometimes it is fate, and many times the fate of two people is quietly dispersed.
There was no loud goodbye, no heart-wrenching retention. Some just say "goodbye" one day and never see them again. And that's the norm in life.
It's as if what we once thought wouldn't change will eventually change over time, and that's the normal law of things, and we can't change it.
Indeed, throughout our lives, we are learning to say goodbye and experiencing goodbye. As there is a saying in "The Ordinary World": "There is no way to do it together." For an ordinary person, he had to obey the verdict of life. This is not fate, but an objective condition that cannot be surpassed. In this world, not all that is reasonable and beautiful can exist or be fulfilled according to one's wishes. ”
Think about it, most of us can only accompany each other for a ride, and finally because of work, family and other reasons will eventually leave. And this parting is often quiet.
It's like the friends we once said would never be separated, and in the end most people will say goodbye. This is perhaps the tacit understanding of all of us. There was no earth-shattering, some just quiet parting.
I once read a passage on the Internet: "The farewell ceremony for adults is very simple, I did not reply to your last message, and you also tacitly did not send it again, and just disappeared into each other's lives, as if they had never known each other." ”
The more you grow up, the more you can understand the truth of this sentence, in the adult world, companionship is a norm, parting is also a norm. It's as if we've said goodbye to a lot of people, but when we said it at the time, we didn't think that the goodbye we said this time would be indefinite.
Suddenly I wanted to say something like this: 'Leaving with great fanfare is temptation, but parting is quiet.' It was like when I used to go to work, when I just graduated from college and entered a company for an internship.
At that time, I was still a student who didn't understand anything and had just left school, but fortunately, my supervisor was very good to me, and as long as I asked him about the problems I encountered at work, he also went out of his way to explain them to me. Slowly our relationship also got better and better.
And he also gave me a lot of help when I turned positive, and I was very grateful to him at that time. In this way, we spent a year together, and we thought we could continue to get along. But what I didn't expect was that one day we left work as usual, and on the way to work, he said to me, "He's going to transfer, he's going somewhere else." ”
And at that time he also said let me do a good job here, he was very optimistic about me, originally I thought there was enough time to say goodbye, but what I did not expect was that the next day a new supervisor came. After handing over the job to him, he left.
We didn't see each other again, and I learned later that he hadn't transferred, but had left. Although we will have contact later, we don't know what day it will start, just like the previous sentence said.
The last message I sent him, he didn't reply, I didn't send it again, so we didn't have any more contact. Later, when such things were encountered more, it was understood that parting in this world is a norm.
It is also because of this that we have a better understanding of cherishing and learning to let go. Because life is like a train, there will be people at every station, and there will be people getting off. And this is how life moves forward in constant encounters and partings.
As someone once said: "Meeting is a beginning, leaving is to meet the next departure, this is a world of popular departures, but we are not good at saying goodbye." 」 ”
Maybe it's because of this, because we are not good at saying goodbye, so we will have a tacit understanding, that is, there is no rehearsal for parting, there is no rehearsal, it is in an early morning or evening, after saying goodbye, we never see each other again.
Yes, in the end, we will all understand that the parting of adults is quiet, which is the norm of life.
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