Read a sentence:
"A large part of the meaning of life is that we warm others at the same time, but also to illuminate ourselves, as long as both people's hearts have warmth, both need to give and give, then there will be no disappointment and sadness in life." 」
In fact, this is also the fundamental reason why many people are willing to integrate into the big environment and establish contact with many people and live together. Because there is warmth, there is mutual help, there is also love.
However, not every relationship can bring us happiness and joy, and sometimes it can also bring us hurt.
At first, I thought that the acquaintance of two people was a lifelong friendship, but I did not expect to go their separate ways halfway, without a trace of hesitation.
You think that as long as you devote yourself fully to it, you can exchange for true treatment, but in the end, you end up disappointed, which makes people feel painful.
To be honest, no matter how hard you try, you can't decide the outcome of a relationship, but rather find a way to get along with each other in the trend.
Only in this way can you make yourself have the ability to turn around and leave and stop losses in time in interpersonal communication, and you will not embarrass yourself because of the wrong relationship, nor will you lose touch with feelings that are worth cherishing.
In my opinion, the longest relationship between people can be summarized in six words: don't overestimate, don't force it.
1 Don't overestimate your relationship with others
Read a sentence:
"The relationship between adults can't withstand the years, let alone a few pieces of silver."
Don't think that the people you care about in your heart will definitely care about you.
A friend told me a story about his personal experience.
Some time ago, his father went out to buy vegetables and was accidentally hit by a car, and the driver escaped.
My father was sent to the hospital by a well-wisher, and he also rushed over, at this time he needed to hurry up to operate to turn the crisis into safety, and the operation fee was a big problem in front of him.
He felt that he had a wide range of contacts and usually had a lot of friends, and it was not a big problem to borrow some money from them.
However, after he explained the ins and outs to these friends, either he had recently lent money to relatives, or he had just bought a house and had no money in his hand, or the project at hand failed and the money was smashed into it...
Originally, I imagined it too beautifully, but in the end I was disappointed.
In reality, how many people have overestimated their relationship with others and let themselves be bruised. How many people expect others to be able to send charcoal in the snow, but see each other turn away.
In this world, not all sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity, and the relationship between people is more fragile and fragile than we think.
When we overestimate our relationships with others, it's easy to make ourselves a joke if we don't pay attention.
In fact, between people, the encounter is accidental, and separation is inevitable.
Feelings that are particularly important in your heart can't withstand a little wind and rain, as long as the breeze comes, it will disappear.
Many times, the reason why we are sad and sad is not because of the ruthlessness of others, but because we expect too much, let our hopes fall short, and let our hearts break.
The truth of human contact is that not relying on and not expecting is the self-discipline that a person should do.
It can make us recognize the true meaning behind the relationship, let us look down on the joys and sorrows, and use a sober mind to see the truth of the interaction, not overestimating the relationship is the real power.
2 Do not force anyone to be with you
Between people, if you want to maintain a long-term relationship, remember not to force anyone to be with you.
I have read a passage: "Between people and people, it is actually just a road relationship." ”
Life is like a journey, we will meet many people in this life, someone will pass by you, someone will stop and stay with you, and in the end, only you will be left.
For those who do not say goodbye, or part ways halfway, although they will be sad, please do not embarrass yourself, because leaving is the norm of life.
No matter how many good memories you have in the past, when the relationship between two people fades, the feelings will gradually disappear.
If you're still clinging to it, it's only going to make yourself embarrassed in the relationship, so it's better to learn to let go and leave quietly.
That being the case, know how to cherish it when you have it, remember to say goodbye when you break up, and leave no regrets.
In fact, the role of each person in your life is different, some people are to remind you to know how to cherish, some people are to let you know how to choose, some people are to let you understand the true meaning of life.
Life sea, there will always be different people and you unexpected reunion, there will be different people with you and you do not quit, do not think that leaving is what you have done wrong, in fact, the person who will really accompany you will cherish the fate of two people, and the person who parted ways halfway is a passer-by in your life from the beginning.
Since it is not a road person, there is no need to force the other party to stay with themselves, cherish it when they have a chance to be together, and remember to say goodbye when they have no chance to get together, and there will be a period later.
In the human world, it is precisely because of the reunion that people feel the true meaning of warmth; it is precisely because there is separation that people can clearly see who is worth cherishing in life.
A journey of landscape and water for a year, a lifetime for a moment. Life is very short, come and go can realize the true meaning of living, do not force people who are far away, but cherish everyone around you, be kind to yourself, be kind to each other.
Please remember that the loss does not have to be sad, because this is destined to be separated;
Remember, what you have is especially precious, because not everyone will stay with you.
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