Most people don't know how to chat and there's no shortage of chat topics. It's about not having the right train of thought.
Everyone lives in the same environment, the same city, watching the same news, talking about the same gossip, and many times it is not because there are not enough topics.
Two people go from strangers to romantic relationships, on average, about 3 months, and there will be more than 4,000 conversations in between. We can't prepare all of this beforehand, and no one can prepare it.
It is important to master the right method, and naturally there will be endless topics to talk about.
01
Chat is guided by the positive emotions of boys
Every time you chat, you have to see when the boy will have positive emotional fluctuations, such as you can make the boy feel moved, proud, happy, happy, funny, pity, etc., all of which are positive emotions.
Of course, this mood swing must be because of you, and if the boy mentions his beloved dog in the chat and he is happy, then this positive emotion is not the optimal level of emotional fluctuation.
Let me give you an example, for example, when a boy says to his fan Xiao Zhu, "George Bernard Shaw said that one person in every 20,000 people will match you, and I am lucky that I can meet you." ”
When the boy said this, his mood must have fluctuated, and he said this sentence for Xiao Zhu.
At this time, Xiao Zhu should be guided by the boy's positive emotions and respond to his emotions:
In fact, meeting in the sea of people is a kind of fate, although this sentence is very tacky, but many times the simpler, the more tacky words can depict a person's heart.
So, guess what I'm thinking? I give you a hint that I think the same as you think. ”
Or is it
"What happened to you today?" Your eyes are so gentle. Wouldn't you be... Ha ha. ”
Your ambiguous gentle responses and questions will make the boy say more and you will be able to judge his intentions. If he confesses and you like him, you can go with the flow.
If he and you continue to play tai chi, you may as well use "Ah! Am I guessing wrong? I thought you liked me, I was angry! ”
This slightly flirtatious language replies to the boy, and if the boy's attitude has been ambiguous, you can pretend to be angry and cool the boy a little.
02
Judge the chat atmosphere between you
For example, a boy says to you, "How lucky I was to meet you!" ”
Looking at the literal meaning, the other party should be very happy, but in different atmospheres, the meaning of this sentence is completely different. Similarly, in different atmospheres, the same sentence reveals different needs.
When you quarrel, the boy says, "Oh my God, you ruined everything I had, how lucky I was!" I've met you! ”
In this sentence, Luck is just a rhetorical remark, he wants your understanding, he hopes that you can solve the contradiction.
As you lay on the lawn looking up at the stars, the boy said, "Oh my God, how lucky I am!" Met you" In this sentence, luck is a form of gratitude. All he needs is the same feedback you give him.
So, now, you need to think carefully, when you usually get along with boys, can you judge the chat atmosphere between you? Can you think about what kind of feedback boys need in the chat atmosphere?
If not, then the next content, you have to remember well. I will give you a set of templates that you can refer to and use.
When you usually chat, the boy's need is comfort. So you can give the boys more positive feedback, such as:
"I think you're so good"
"In my eyes you are a careful and gentle person."
"It feels like the stars are beautiful today."
"Who would you most like to see the moon with?"
In short, straight women chat is not to learn words, but you have to learn how to perceive each other's emotions and the atmosphere between you, these two points are solved, you can use words to be at ease.