China has a long history, and in the long years, the ancients left us with a lot of experience to talk about with their own life experience. For example, "Men nod, women are afraid to stride" is one of them. So, what exactly does this sentence mean? Does it make sense?
The "three" of "men are afraid of three nods" is broad, that is, to warn men not to nod their heads because of something, in other words, to have their own opinions, to warn women not to be led by the nose. That is to say, the ancients believed that men were the head of the family, the pillar of the family, not only to earn money to support the family, but also to support the family spiritually.
Without their own ideas, unable to start a career, everything is possible to be led by the nose by women, and eventually put the family in a difficult situation. Originally, it was unrealistic to use women to support the family at that time, and it was difficult to accept.
Of course, "men are afraid of three nods" is no longer feasible in today's society. Originally, for us, whether it was a man or a woman, as long as they were able to do it, they could get rid of their jobs and support their families. Therefore, in such a social environment, women can also want a lot of useful ideas, and can also give men a lot of advice. Therefore, only when husband and wife get along harmoniously, work together, and make progress together, can they get a better life.
"Women are afraid to take big strides" means that women should not take big strides. In the eyes of the ancients, women who were gentle and intelligent and well-behaved were the most beautiful. If a woman has beautiful cheeks and a figure, but likes to stride and talk loudly, she will not be liked by people. Sure enough, women who like to stride forward give the impression of calm and violent. Marrying such a woman at home is prone to family conflicts, which eventually leads to the inability of the family to be at peace. In that case, it will be difficult for the family to get a good future.
"Men nod, women are afraid to stride", is the experience of the ancients combined with their own living environment. For people of that era, this sentence really fits the historical environment and is highly praised by people. Of course, this also reflects the unfairness of society to women at that time, and for people at that time, what was needed was not capable women, but obedient women.
Therefore, now this sentence has lost its meaning and is no longer suitable for the current historical environment. This shows that although our predecessors have left us with a lot of experience, in ancient times, this statement still had a certain truth. Of course, if this were the case now, there would be a lot of uncontrollable factors. Whether it is still applicable needs to be confirmed after our in-depth study.
References: Common Sense of Ancient Chinese Culture, Introduction to Traditional Chinese Culture