Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Maturity is never about age! It only has to do with how a person perceives himself and everything around him when he is in reality!
People live a lifetime, as if many people are assuming that it should be good not to grow up, always hoping that they are mature people who can truly understand the world!
Ambivalence is filled with countless helplessness and heartache of adults.
We are born lonely, and when we leave, we are lonely! From the process of birth to death, in order not to be laughed at by loneliness, we have also done our best to pay all the heat for a friendship relationship.
Mine is yours, your business is my business... Thousands of people have said such righteous words!
However, as people's minds become more and more mature, you will find that there is a very "strange" phenomenon between people:
Talk more and do less and less!
In particular, the more people of a certain age are used to being alone! Some of them only have three or five friends left, and some of them really don't get too close to anyone!
Why is it that the phenomenon of swarms of friends in the past was only shadowed by the later three-three-two-two or single-shadow? Because of human nature and reality, let people know under what circumstances to force themselves to mature!
Don't believe it, the more mature people are, the less friends they have!
Relationships that are not tired of getting along are never completely open-minded, but moderately reserved and timely estranged!
If you're smart enough, don't consume yourself in unworthy relationships:
1: Those who have different paths do not have to be forced
The Tao is different, not conspiratorial! Obviously, the psychology, angle, and concept of looking at things are contradictory, so don't make too much "effort" for the "harmony" of the relationship.
Between people, it is impossible to get along 24 hours a day and night after birth, so there has always been a difference in the external influences absorbed!
Don't think you have the same tastes, and occasionally you have the same opinion of one or two things, you are the same person! These are just superficial preconditions that determine whether you can have a relationship or not.
And whether you can get along for a long time depends entirely on the degree of "fit" in the details between each other in the process of getting along!
Even if it is a relative under the roof, there will be times when there are differences of opinion! However, because there is a "pro" word as the basis for each other, they can get to each other's actual hearts at the first time.
Moreover, because of the determination of the relationship between relatives, they can also be "sincere" relatives to each other, and there is no need to have too many relationship concerns.
However, relationships outside of relatives are different.
When there is disagreement with others, it is the hardest thing to try to agree on. Instead of putting yourself to great lengths in the face of facts that cannot be changed, it is better to enjoy the time alone.
See through and don't say broken, don't preach on the grounds of "good for you", don't explain too much with "I meant it to be good"...
Between people, when you have existential value, you don't have to be too sharp to refute others, you get extremely "friendly" approval!
No one should think from anyone's point of view, no one should agree with whom... From your own point of view, there is no mistake!
Smart people will not impose their own ideas on others, and they will not forcibly change others!
Incompatible relationships, no need to force!
2: Time is precious, and energy should be "worth it"
In the face of many pressures of survival and life, people's energy is often not enough to be distributed! If, in a state of already exhausted state, overload yourself for an unworthy relationship, there is no benefit in returning except to consume yourself.
It is not an easy task for people to live. And the triviality of interpersonal relationships is the biggest source of people's lack of tiredness.
Truly mature people know how to break up interpersonal relationships! People who deserve it, appropriately more exchanges. Relationships that aren't worth it, minimize interactions, and break relationships if necessary!
Between people, there is always an equivalent exchange. When you feel that there is no balance between giving and returning, it must be that some relationship between you is intertwined!
As people see and experience more, the friends around them are doomed to be fewer and fewer. It is a kind of clarity that perceives reality, understands human nature and the human heart, and there is no sorrow.
A hundred years, fleeting. If you waste too much time and energy on maintaining relationships large and small, it only means that you are not yet a person who can reconcile with yourself.
In real life, you will know many people, but you must not be able to get along with everyone closely and in harmony.
Don't say who is true or who is false, if they are all true friends, you simply do not have the energy to maintain the relationship.
Truly mature people are not completely detached from interpersonal relationships, but in the limited life and energy, choose the most worthwhile relationship for proper maintenance.
In this life, it doesn't matter who you know, you think that you are left and right, not necessarily your strongest connections and relationships!
As a person, you should have a deep self-awareness, you should understand that life is your own, and it is far more important to invest energy and time to run yourself than to maintain low-quality relationships.
Who you are, what your value is, what you are in exchange with a relationship, and what it is worth pondering for everyone!
The more mature people are, the less friends they have. At the same time, the more mature people are, the less they will hope in others.
In the face of interpersonal relationships, the ordinary mind is more important than anything else.
People who make themselves physically and mentally happy can be more contacted. People who look down on each other, don't necessarily compete to win or lose.
Whoever leaves and who comes has always been a normal thing in the world!
Perhaps, the only friend in this life is only yourself, then be your best confidant.
Perhaps, there are only two or three confidants in this life, which is the best gift of fate!
I only hope that everyone can endure loneliness, can bear loneliness, and shake hands with themselves; in the days of gradual maturity, get used to whose hot and cold, look down on whose distance and distance are estranged, and not be burdened by unworthy relationships.
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: In real life, do you really call "friends" more people? Leave what you are sorry to say to others in your heart and leave it in the comments section below!