Lady Xing: Her husband took the initiative to be a matchmaker for taking a concubine, and after Mandarin Duck refused to marry, she was reprimanded by her mother-in-law Jia Mu
Lady Xing was born in the declining Jinling family, and in "Dream of the Red Chamber", her status is second only to that of her mother-in-law Jia Mu, according to the three generations of Jia Pardon, counting by the decline of one pin, Lady Xing should be the Lady of the Three Pins.
It is reasonable to say that Lady Xing is the eldest daughter-in-law of Rong Guofu, and her rank is higher than that of her sister-in-law, Lady Wang, and she should be a housekeeper. In fact, the presiding wife of rongguofu was lady Wang, and although lady Xing was a long-house daughter-in-law, because she was Jia Shu's wife, she was born less than her sister-in-law, Lady Wang, and became a marginal figure in Rongguofu.
Mrs. Xing acted as a matchmaker for her husband.
Lady Xing sent the people out of the room and quietly said to Sister Feng, "Calling you here is not for anything else, there is a difficult matter, the old man entrusted me, I have no idea, first discuss with you." Because the old man had taken a fancy to the old lady's mandarin duck, he asked him to be in the room and asked me to go with the old lady. I think this is a normal thing, but I am afraid that the old lady will not give it, do you have a way? ”
This is a passage in the forty-sixth episode of the Dream of the Red Chamber, Jia Yu took a fancy to the old lady's side and wanted to take her as a concubine, he was embarrassed to ask his mother for help, so he asked his wife Lady Xing to help matchmaking.
Lady Xing was a miserly person, who liked to amass wealth and had no heirs, so she protected herself in the palace by obeying her husband Jia Pardon. After knowing that Jia Yu had the idea of taking a concubine, Lady Xing knew that persuasion would not work, so she took the initiative to act as a matchmaker for her husband and asked her daughter-in-law Wang Xifeng to help find a way.
Wang Xifeng knew the temper of her mother-in-law, Lady Xing, and also knew that she usually obeyed Jia's words and had few objections. Wang Xifeng was afraid of complaining later, so he found an excuse to avoid it, and let his mother-in-law, Lady Xing, go to talk to Mandarin Duck alone.
In fact, this time, what Wang Xifeng said to her mother-in-law, Lady Xing, was also out of good intentions, and what she said was also the truth, but Lady Xing was difficult to understand, and she would not feel that what Wang Xifeng said was reasonable, on the contrary, she was greatly dissatisfied with Wang Xifeng's kind and blunt words, which was also the "left nature" of Lady Xing.
Lady Xing persuaded Mandarin Duck to be a concubine.
When Lady Xing saw her like this, she said again, "Don't you want to?" If you really don't want to, you are a fool. Let the master and grandmother not do it, but are they willing to be a? Three years and two years, but with a little boy, still a slave. You followed us, and you know that I have a good nature, and I am not the intolerable person. The lord treats you well. In a year and a half, give birth to a man and a half woman, and you will be with me. Who are you going to call and who are you not moving? The ready-made master does not go, misses this opportunity, and regrets it is too late. ”
It can be seen from this that Lady Xing tried her best to help Jia Pardon persuade Mandarin Duck to agree to be a concubine. In Wang Xifeng's view, Lady Xing is a more miserly person, she likes to accumulate wealth, because she has no heirs, in order to keep her position as a wife, she can only obey her husband Jia pardon to protect herself.
Compared with You's bitterness, Lady Xing was willing to do these things for her husband, first, to win the trust of her husband Jia Yu, and second, to win a reputation of virtuousness. It's just that Lady Xing was wrong this time, although Mandarin Duck was a handmaiden, she was unwilling to be a concubine.
After Mandarin Duck refused to marry, Lady Xing could say that she was angry at both ends, her husband Jia Yu complained that she was ineffective, and her mother-in-law Jia Mu reprimanded her for being too virtuous.
Mandarin Duck refused to marry, and Lady Xing was reprimanded by Jia Mu.
When Jia Mu saw no one, Fang said, "I heard you say that the media is coming for your old master." You are also three from four virtues, but this wisdom is also too much! Now that you are also full of grandchildren and sons, are you still afraid of him, and you can't persuade him to say two words? It's still up to you old man. Madame Xing blushed and replied, "I have advised her not to follow her several times." What else does the old lady not know, I also have to. ”
Mandarin Duck refused to marry, and Jia Mu was particularly angry after knowing that Jia Yu forced marriage, and she felt that the eldest son Jia Yu did not really want to take Mandarin Duck as a concubine, but used a concubine to control her property.
Jia Mu did not like Jia Shu, the eldest son, and she felt that Jia Yu usually did not pay attention to the maintenance of his body, nor did he work well, and put all his thoughts on concubines. The eldest daughter-in-law, Lady Xing, is even more hateful, not only does not advise her husband to take care of her body, but also takes the initiative to act as a matchmaker for her husband.
Seeing Lady Xing come in, Jia Mu couldn't help but reprimand the eldest daughter-in-law. Lady Xing wanted to defend herself, but was told by Jia Mu, "He forced you to kill people, and you also killed them?" "Plugged back.
Some readers questioned that the reason why Jia Mu was angry was not that she was really reluctant to let The Mandarin Duck give Jia Yu a concubine, but that it was inseparable from the care of the Mandarin Duck, and if the work of the Mandarin Duck could be replaced, I believe she would also be willing to give the Mandarin Duck to Jia Yu as a concubine.
There must be a reason for this without the care of the Mandarin Duck, but the real reason that makes Jia Mu angry is not the fact that Jia Yuqiang married the Mandarin Duck, but the motive of Jia Yu to do so. Jia Mu suspected that Jia Yu and his wife were worried about her property and wanted to control her under the guise of a concubine. This is also the reason why Jia Mu did not like Lady Xing, the eldest daughter-in-law, she felt that Lady Xing was too weak and blindly obedient to her husband.
Reprimanded by her mother-in-law Jia Mu, Lady Xing felt very wronged, but she did not dare to complain, nor did she dare to defend herself, so she had to suffer in silence. Jia Lian did not endure like Lady Xing, he could not help complaining after being accused by Jia Mu, thinking that it was all the trouble caused by his father Jia Yu, so that they carried the black pot, and Lady Xing was particularly angry after hearing it, and scolded Jia Lian.
It can be seen that Lady Xing is not only vulgar and shallow, but also three from four virtues, she is only in front of her mother-in-law, not really filial piety, and she is too virtuous to her husband Jia. In Lady Xing's eyes, only by obeying her husband can she maintain her current position, and her husband takes a concubine, she is not jealous or deeply persuaded, but takes the initiative to act as a matchmaker for her husband, and is also a sad figure.
I am Xiao Meng, telling you the story of "Dream of the Red Chamber".
Reference works: Cao Xueqin, Fat Yanzhai commentary on "Dream of the Red Chamber" Fat Collection