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I don't know if you have found that in the army with the baby, there are more and more figures of grandmothers.
Perhaps because the children's grandparents are not empty, or in order to save the daughter from the contradictions of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, more and more grandmothers have begun to leave their hometowns and come to the city to help their daughters with their babies.
Compared with the grandmother with the baby, the grandmother with the baby has many advantages for the small family: from the perspective of the mother, because it is her own mother who helps to bring the baby, everything is easy to communicate, and if there is a contradiction in the daily routine and child education, there is no need to hide it, just talk to the mother directly. In life, there will be a lot less suspicion and open struggle, and the days will be more comfortable.
The daughter thinks so, but what does it think to be a grandmother? Perhaps it can be seen in the mouth of a straight-talking grandmother.
A grandmother sighed: "If the physical condition is still good, raising a second child is much better than taking the third generation."
This grandmother lived upstairs with us, and from the moment her daughter was pregnant, she knew that she would help her daughter with a baby in the future, who made her daughter an only child, and she was far younger than her daughter's mother-in-law.
Sure enough, when the daughter was about to give birth, the grandmother came to her daughter's house from her hometown, and she was worried about giving birth to and carrying the baby.
But after more than a year of taking it, she chatted with me and said that she couldn't stand bringing a baby to her daughter. The day before yesterday, she quarreled with her daughter, so angry that she directly said harshly, "Help you take the baby and be disliked by you, what am I?" Don't think about me as a girlfriend of yours, annoyed that I have a second child to bring my own, it is better than taking a grandson! ”
As soon as I listened, well, this grandmother really dared to say. However, people are really not joking, only 44 years old, it is not impossible to have a second child.
"It is better to have a second child with a grandson", this grandmother's belly slander is not necessarily true, but I even feel the helplessness of helping my daughter with a baby.
Although this grandmother's words were "fierce", she spoke most of her grandmother's voices.
Why does the grandmother feel that helping her daughter with a baby is more laborious and unflattering than helping her daughter-in-law with a baby?
The daughter feels that it is more comfortable for her mother to help herself with the baby, but for the child's grandmother, helping the daughter with the baby may be more difficult than helping the daughter-in-law to bring the baby.
There are two reasons for this:
First, as a daughter, I always feel that it is my own mother, and it is okay to say anything. So there are contradictions in life, hurtful words will be said regardless of disregard, I feel that the mother with the baby is not scientific, not to the mother-in-law like a roundabout way, but to point out bluntly, even the tone is not polite. After a long time, my mother couldn't stand it.
Second, as a mother, when I first came to help my daughter with a baby, it must be because I was worried about my daughter. It is because of the pain of the daughter that the mother will take care of most of the things.
The daughter saw that her mother was wrapped up in a big package, and she was not polite at all. So my mother did more and more, and I was too tired to do it.
My grandmother upstairs is, usually with other grandmothers or grandmothers in the community chat, she found that the old man who helped the daughter-in-law with the baby, the daughter-in-law left work the old man also let go, on the weekend as long as one of the couple does not go to work, the old man is completely leisure time, want to go to the park to the park, close can also go back to the hometown a trip.
And myself, taking care of the baby at night until before going to bed, on the weekend, the two of them want to live a two-person world, and go out for most of the day when they say a word. The family went out to visit the park, the daughter took a selfie to enjoy the flowers, the son-in-law brushed her mobile phone to play games, and she had to chase the baby to run.
What makes her even more envious is that the grandmother with the baby only takes care of the baby, the housework at home does not have to be taken care of, and the son and daughter-in-law who will cook a dinner if they leave work early. And she, 24 hours a day, it seems that in addition to sleeping, the rest is all with the baby busy time, the child sleeps during the day, she also has to be busy with home hygiene!
Give advice to the aggrieved grandmothers
It can be seen that for Bao Ma, if the old man with the baby in the family is a grandmother, please also consider it from the perspective of your mother and share more for her old man.
And the grandmothers with the baby, please also understand a truth: with the baby to know that it is difficult to raise a baby. If your daughter is a hands-off treasurer, and you have many grievances in the baby, you may wish to try to let go, let the little couple bring more dolls in their leisure time, and they will slowly know how hard you work.
A grandmother said that she brought a baby to her daughter, and her daughter always looked for her stubble, and the mother and daughter quarreled many times, and the daughter also blocked her WeChat several times. Later, because of yi love, she did not come to her hometown for a month, and her daughter and son-in-law rushed to bring a baby for a month, and then she was honest.
Raising a baby knows the grace of the parents, and this is the reason. If the elderly are all inclusive, the children cannot feel the hardship of taking the baby, and naturally they will not be grateful.
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