The blind date man said that he didn't know how to promote the relationship with me and then ignored me, what should I do?

Netizens asked:

The boys introduced by the fellow villagers met with 3 faces in total. The first time we had a meal together, the meal he invited; the second time we went to the park together, he brought a lot of snacks and bought me souvenirs for me to take home. The third time he sent me lipstick and sent me home late in the evening, after which he didn't contact me for several days. Suddenly one day he asked me if I wanted to settle the relationship or what I thought I could talk about. I said that I only met a few times to settle the relationship? He said that he didn't know how to move forward with me, and the more he got to the back, the more he felt that he had no words to talk about and no desire to share.

He said several points: 1, send me specialties hope I can talk to him about how it tastes, it doesn't matter if it's good or not. I replied to him that the specialty was not eaten for the roommate to eat, the roommate said that it was too dry, he heard this a little cold; 2, the third meeting to send me home late, originally still looking forward to whether I asked him if he was home? But no. 3, the lipstick sent is because my one fell off, he asked the color number to buy me, I did not give him feedback. He said that the more he got to the back, the more he felt that there was no interaction, and he didn't know how to promote the relationship with me.

I have a slight liking for him, but not very strongly. His comprehensive conditions are not bad, and I should feel good and like him if I continue to get along.

He hadn't been in touch with me in more than ten days, and I couldn't resist talking to the introducer yesterday. The introducer said to ask him for his opinion, and then the introducer has not replied to me until now. What am I going to do?

My answer:

The biggest problem for both of you is that you pour cold water on people when he is proactive; when people feel hopeless and give up, you want to take the initiative to show kindness, and you seem to miss the most appropriate time node.

Silly boy, people have already replied to you, and they still respect your opinion, and you feel that they have politely declined him, so he retreated.

Your caution, slow heat, and solidity, I understand, but in my opinion you really don't understand men, or do not understand interpersonal communication.

I think you are not without paying, you have done it with contacts, do not owe people, generous contact with people, but your progress is too slow, the feedback is not timely, giving people the feeling that there is no match.

Blind dates can't just be with you, not to mention every week, at least there are other people who choose.

You don't give a clear answer, you don't have a positive attitude, people think you don't like him, or think you're not good at serving, people give up on you and go to the next one.

The market for blind dates is also very competitive, and it is not easy to be suitable for the photo, of course, we must cherish resources and improve efficiency.

I feel that the man you said is quite reliable, but also quite hearty, and knows to bring you specialties and send lipstick.

Whether it is that you feel that your realistic conditions are good, or that he feels okay with you, just by being able to meet several times and eat, drink and play, you can see that he hopes to develop further with you, not the kind of person who does not look at it a second time at the beginning.

You said that you didn't eat that specialty for others to eat, we know it ourselves privately, you can't just tell people to punch people in the face, you girl is also real.

You have a thousand reasons and ten thousand reasons, and in his opinion you don't care about the gifts he has specially prepared for you, don't cherish, don't value. Giving people a feeling of kindness as a donkey's liver and lungs, I also feel that you do not respect me and do not take me seriously.

And you didn't eat it, even if you don't eat it, you also said that others ate it and said that it was too dry to eat, so that he felt very faceless, specially selected gifts for you you did not look at, but also a very demeaning tone, talking without mercy at all, let him hot face paste cold ass.

He will feel that it is true to say that it is good to hear you, and that it is difficult to hear that the emotional intelligence is not high, and it will not communicate, and even if you live together in the future, there is no fun, and you will be angry when you are old.

And even if it is out of courtesy, you should also give feedback to others, you can say: "Thank you for taking the trouble to help me choose the specialty, I went back to share it with my roommate, she also envied my blind date is too hearty, know that we girls like to eat snacks." 」 The two of us ate and talked about meeting you, and before we knew it, we had finished eating. The taste is very good is a little dry, although we love to eat, but next time you don't want to spend so much. ”

In this way, you recognize his taste, affirm his efforts, and gently say that it is not very tasty, let him think you are cute, and also let him understand your taste, and next time choose other snacks for you. Isn't that a matter of a few words?

There is also lipstick, you can obviously say: "You are so sweet, my favorite one has fallen, I am still very distressed, you will buy it for me immediately." What a surprise. The love card is different, and it looks very good to paint it. ”

Don't people like to listen to his words? In particular, you don't say black to white, just a little skill.

Also, even if you are partying with friends, the big night will tell each other whether they are home, go to bed early, and next time I will please.

And you yourself said that you have a little good feeling for him, otherwise you wouldn't have gone out several times and calmly accepted his gifts, and thought about fighting for it afterwards.

He asked you before the attitude, let you determine or talk about the idea is also very normal, time is very precious, no one should delay anyone, do not make it possible to give a statement early, do not let people guess ah.

You can say, "I'm a slow-burning person, I'm more cautious about relationships, and I don't have much experience in relationships." But through a few meetings, I don't think I'm disgusted with you (if you want to be reserved, you can say you don't like him a little bit if you don't mind), and I feel like you're quite serious about me. I don't know how far we can go, but for now I want to continue to contact you. I can't promise you anything now, but I probably won't meet other people at the same time. We are both real, learn more about it and see. ”

At the very least, you give people a clear attitude, give him positive feedback, and let him know that the next step can be to meet you more actively and frequently.

And your words are also a knock on him, so that he can push away the meeting of other blind dates.

At present, the introducer has not replied to you, I see that 80% of it is no play, maybe he has a more suitable blind date, at least he thinks that you have not looked at him, he does not need to waste time here with you, so it may be okay to talk to the introducer.

I think you should fight for it again, even if you don't have a chance, at least don't let people misunderstand that you are not a good person.

You take the initiative to voice him, tell him all your feelings and concerns about him, and then you can say a little bit of what I suggest you say.

Look at the ones you wrote that I think this man is not bad, and those I have been blind dates have never done such thoughtful and attentive.

If he still ignores you, at least you are willing, and you will be more comfortable when you kiss the next person.