In the classroom, the teacher was reading the homework list of each classmate, except for Juanjuan's name, and the names of these people were all praised students.
Juanjuan's grades have always been the bottom of the class. And all are hovering in the bottom three.
Not only that, Juanjuan will lose her temper every time she does not take the exam, has a grumpy personality, is sad and sad at every turn, and cries her nose. Afraid of ridicule from classmates, unwilling to go to school.
Don't think that Juanjuan is really so bad, although his grades are not good, but she has also received many awards, such as all-around awards, in eloquence performance, logical thinking, this aspect is still very talented.
There are also a lot of Juanjuan's awards in its home, and I thought that Juanjuan would be amazing in the future, after all, it was so small and so excellent, but what she never expected was that Juanjuan's grades began to plummet when she was in the first grade.
Everyone says that three years old looks big, and seven years old looks old. This can make Juanjuan's mother nervous.
Juanjuan is actually a very strong child, every time she sees the teacher praise other children, Juanjuan also wants the teacher to praise her, she said: She wants to be the first place like kindergarten. But now she always counts down, which makes her self-esteem information greatly reduced.
Juanjuan's mother also blamed herself, blaming herself for not letting the child learn the knowledge of primary school in advance when she was in kindergarten, so she let the child not keep up with the pace in the primary school.
Therefore, Juanjuan's mother found the teacher and communicated with the teacher about Juanjuan's situation and whether there was an opportunity to change Juanjuan's current situation.
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In the chat and communication of the class teacher, the teacher told Juanjuan's mother that the main thing is to increase the child's courage and confidence.
About courage
Although in kindergarten and in primary school are learning knowledge, but the two environments are completely different, when reading kindergarten, because children are young, so no matter what they do, the teacher will watch from the side, and the child will have a special sense of security.
After attending primary school, with a certain degree of self-care ability, the teacher cannot do everything. At this time, students need to solve their own problems.
These problems have nothing to do with knowledge, but with the courage of children.
About confidence
Juanjuan was excellent in all aspects of kindergarten, in the first grade, the grades suddenly changed, which brought Juanjuan a psychological gap, on the one hand, the mother's excessive anxiety, the bad emotions subtly transferred to Juanjuan, so that Juanjuan's self-confidence was greatly reduced.
And because Juanjuan wants to be the first place in her heart, but the result is always counted down, which also makes Juanjuan lose confidence in herself and does not want to work harder.
In fact, Juanjuan's situation will be encountered by many families. Teachers also know the eagerness of parents.
The teacher said: Don't worry too much about Juanjuan's academic performance, but put your heart on Juanjuan's emotional value, although Juanjuan's grades are not good now, but in the teacher's view, with the child's growth, all aspects of the change, the grades will be flat in the future. How can it be said that those who have learned in advance will be a bully, and they may also be scum in the future.
So the most important thing now is to let Juanjuan learn to control her emotions, and need to have the ability to carry setbacks, which is the most critical, and she has spare energy to do better in other things.
Be sure to first cultivate your child to shape 6 emotions
The advice given by the class teacher made Juanjuan's mother light a fire of hope in her heart, and she excitedly shook the teacher's hand, hoping that the teacher would tell her what to do.
At this time, the teacher took out a set of picture books from the drawer and handed them to Juanjuan's mother, who told Juanjuan's mother that this set of picture books taught the children how to manage their emotions, which can cultivate the child's self-confidence and resistance to setbacks.
Juanjuan's mother is particularly happy after seeing the book, isn't this the right book for her children? What Juanjuan should change most now is her mentality.
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Juanjuan's mother is eating the scales, iron heart, still resolutely quit her job, planning to change Juanjuan, hoping that Juanjuan can become better and better, instead of falling like now.
1. It is good to correct the mentality, not the first
In one of the books, her mother taught Juanjuan that it doesn't matter if she can't be the first", telling Juanjuan that it is okay if she can't do the first place, so that the child has a correct goal.
2. Be brave and try to surprise you
There is also a book in the book is "I want to be more confident" to train children to try bravely and not be cowardly when encountering things.
3. Be loyal to the ear, my mother's criticism is for my own good, help me change my shortcomings
"Mother's Criticism" teaches children how to do things, what is right and what is wrong. Be criticized for correcting mistakes and avoid making them again next time.
4. Do what you think is right and let the ridicule of others turn into envy
I have to understand my goals when doing things, not afraid of being ridiculed by others, but making others envy you.
5. Tantrums don't work, keep the strength to deal with difficulties
Another book is "It's Not Difficult to Control Temper" so that Juanjuan learned that sometimes her tantrums do not solve the problem, but you must calmly think about and analyze the causes of the problem.
6. Overcome the timidity in your heart, and the night will no longer be fearful
The book "Overcome the Timidity in Your Heart" tells us that night and day are the same, guiding children to eliminate fear.
After Juanjuan read this book several times, Juanjuan has changed a lot, become confident and cheerful.
This set of books consists of 6 volumes and is a hard-shell picture book with color drawings with annotated pinyin. Fresh handwriting.
Although other people's children are already showing their grades, I believe that Juanjuan must be excellent after learning emotional management.
Finally, parents should understand that children's interpersonal communication and behavior habits are very important, and this book can lead those children to a correct life trajectory, so that children become confident and sunny