The epidemic has been too difficult in the past two years, 5 pieces of advice for middle-aged people

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Source l Peanut Mom Amber

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It's also hard for everyone

I have several relatives and friends who work in Beijing and have not been home for the Chinese New Year in 3 years.

Originally planned to return this year, before the Spring Festival, Beijing brought an asterisk, that is, to be able to go home without being isolated by the local area, and I was worried that I would not be able to return to Beijing smoothly, so I had to give up.

A middle school classmate of mine, at the end of last year, there were two epidemics in Hangzhou, the community where she lived was unlucky, she was isolated twice in 3 months, and the Spring Festival was also spent alone in isolation.

An old leader of my foreign company also has a good friend who needs to live in Hong Kong for two years because of his family's work.

Recently, the epidemic in Hong Kong is fierce, and my friend still has two children, and he can't go to school and dare not go out.

A friend of mine opened a chain of restaurants in the first two years with good momentum, and venture capital invested in the first issue.

Did not want to open a store for a year to encounter the epidemic, dead for two years, finally can not stand the continuous losses, closed before the Spring Festival, the previous investment is adrift.

The most tragic thing is a couple, one who is unemployed as a training teacher, and one who is laid off on the Internet.

The job is gone, but the new house bought last year has to pay off the mortgage...

Whether it is the international situation or the domestic economy, there are too many reasons for us to be pessimistic.

Even an optimist like me began to wonder, "Is the future going to be better?" ”

But in fact, the future is not bad, it is very good.

Is the future bright, and the road is tortuous

At the end of October last year, at the National Forum of Principals of Primary and Secondary Schools, I listened to a speech entitled "The Great Changes in a Hundred Years and China's Future Development".

In the speech, there is an important judgment, this is his report to the high-level, not what we can usually hear:

In 2030, even at market exchange rates, China's total economic output (GDP) is likely to surpass that of the United States, becoming the world's largest economic power.

But only when China's economic aggregate (GDP) is twice as large as that of the United States will the United States be convinced, because the United States can card our necks the technological advantage, basically disappeared.

So when are we going to wait?

It is estimated that in 2049, that is, about 100 years after the founding of the People's Republic of China, we will realize the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation and the world will enter a new period of stability and balance.

Mainly the optimistic side.

However, I also heard another side: before 2049, the United States will certainly not be convinced, let alone unconvinced, and may break out various forms of conflicts - trade wars, financial wars, information wars, public opinion wars, etc.

From the Russo-Ukrainian War, we can see that the United States stood idly by and did not protect Ukraine, which also marked the decline of its status as the "big brother" of the West.

And the more dramatic changes occur in the balance of power between great powers, the easier it is to produce friction and turmoil, as was the case in World War I and World War II.

The fate of the individual is closely linked to the destiny of the country.

In the next 20 years, China is destined to rise, and our external environment is doomed to be unstable, and may even encounter terrifying waves.

The future is bright and the road is tortuous.

Increase your knowledge and work hard

So what do we do if we need to face a lot of difficulties next?

It is not only the external environment that determines the fate of the individual, but also the individual's talent, luck, insight and effort.

I often say that we should pay more attention to what we can change; for what we can't change, we must learn to accept.

Entanglement and confrontation do not solve the problem, but only consume the energy within us.

Looking at it this way, the external environment, talent and luck, we have very little room to operate, and the main thing we can change is our insight and effort.

Insight is even more important, because it determines whether we are working smartly, not inefficiently.

From my own experience, some of the problems that were very confusing and difficult to solve when I was young are actually my own lack of insight and ability, and I can't solve them at the original level.

At that time, the best way is not to fight with the problem, but to improve their own insight, accumulate their own ability, when you break through yourself to reach the previous level, many problems will be solved, and many things that cannot be done before can also be achieved.

In the face of an uncertain future, the focus of our education for children is also this:

Increase your knowledge and work hard.

Silicon Valley investor and former Google senior researcher Wu Jun said in the book "Insights", I particularly agree:

"Lack of insight, lack of love, lack of rules are more terrible things than lack of money.

Poverty may make material conditions a little worse in the short term, but it does not prevent parents from nurturing their children in terms of insight, love, and rules. ”

5 pieces of advice for middle-aged self

I often receive messages from friends of all ages, sharing my confusion and difficulties, asking me to give them some life advice from the perspective of a passer-by.

Standing at the beginning of 2022, this period that makes me a little pessimistic, I will remind myself to keep doing these 5 things.

01 Read more, argue less

Your insight determines how far you can go.

The best way to improve your knowledge is to read.

Reading a good book can help you re-understand yourself, recognize the world, and constantly improve your insight and pattern, so as to become a better self.

No matter how busy you are, you should take time out every day to read some good books, and also recommend good books to your children, share the ideas in the books with your children, and give your children useful guidance and influence.

Don't be happy to agree with the views that are consistent with yourself, and disagree with your own views, and resist if you don't agree with your own views.

The greatest opportunity you can get to improve exists in those ideas that are different from yours.

So, even if you don't like the views you don't agree with, you have to train yourself to think about it, is there some truth?

If you still feel unreasonable, at least you can let you know the complexity of the world and human nature, be in awe, and be considerate.

More important than judging right or wrong is a deeper understanding of the real world and real human nature. In this way, you will be more understanding and tolerant.

Read more, listen more, prejudge less and argue less.

If a book or a person can give you new understanding, broaden your boundaries, and give you more life experiences, then it is good for you.

02 Pay more attention to yourself and less to others

It's not that other people and the outside world are not important, but no matter how much you worry about it, you can't change much. Therefore, paying attention to the situation and caring for others must also have a degree.

In fact, the world is also made up of each individual, so everyone becomes better, every family becomes better, and the world can become better.

Without having to change the world to point out others, it is a great achievement to improve yourself, take care of your children and family, bring them happiness and insight.

03 Do a good job of financial reserves, do not invest randomly

Don't rush to invest because of the big water slam and feel that money is depreciating.

Remember, many people have less money and even go back into poverty, not because they keep their money in the bank, not even because of consumption, but because of improper investment.

In order to cope with uncertainty and unexpected situations, in case there is no income at all, it is also possible to ensure a basic life for several years, and then pay special attention to risk prevention.

In recent years, it is more important than investment to guarantee the bottom, and to build a firewall for the family with insurance and savings.

04 Health first, other second

The body has a memory, and when you are young and strong, you toss it toss all the damage it has done, and it will silently write it down. When it comes to middle age or when you are vulnerable, retaliate against you more and more fiercely.

When the career collapses, it can start all over again, but when the body collapses, it is difficult to fully recover.

No matter how busy the work is, how busy the housework is, first of all, we must first ensure sleep and ensure a regular and healthy diet; secondly, to ensure a certain amount of exercise and annual physical examination.

No matter how annoying the work is and how angry the child is, you must also be an emotionally stable middle-aged person.

Emotional instability does not help to solve the problem, but is harmful, and it is even more harmful to the body.

05 Even if there are 100 reasons to be pessimistic, you still have to choose to be optimistic

After decades of time, you have naturally experienced many difficult things.

You have found that the more difficult the time, the more you have to be patient, sink your breath, and cultivate yourself well.

Because, things are bad to a certain extent, they will slowly get better. When the opportunity comes, it depends on whether you have planted the seeds in advance, which is likely to blossom and bear fruit.

So, even if the world gives you 100 reasons to be pessimistic, you have to choose to be optimistic.

Between optimism and pessimism, choosing pessimism cannot change reality, and choosing optimism under the premise of doing 3 and 4 can make you have a good mentality and do things positively.

Also be optimistic about the child, don't worry too much, bless the child more, help and support him to improve his insight and effective efforts.

These two years are very difficult, and the next one seems to be not easy, but we only have to choose to be optimistic, and we only have to choose to go on.

It's like there's a question and answer on zhihu —

Q: How to get out of the trough of life?

A: Take a few more steps.

Do what you can do, as long as you keep going, you will always meet good things.

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