In the "Awakening to the Everlasting Word", it is said: "Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, but they can be the same as people's words." ”
In life, we will inevitably encounter unpleasant things, and no one can share in them.
As a result, some people are indignant and angry, and a tragedy is caused by a momentary impulse; some people are depressed and constantly hurt themselves; some people are upset and chaotic, and they live all day long.
In the end, people who can't control their emotions are very sad to live this life.
Only by mastering the three keys to controlling emotions can you not be trapped in your heart, not chaotic, and live your life in peace.
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When angry, silence
There is a saying in the "Aphorisms and Walls": "Anger is a fierce tiger, and desire is an abyss." ”
When a person is angry, it is like a tiger coming out of the cage, hurting others and hurting themselves.
What's more, when you are angry, you are swayed by emotions, not only do you hurt people the most, you will regret doing things, but you will also cause yourself trouble.
Instead, hold the fire and remain silent, wait until the mood cools and reason returns, and then make a decision.
If this is done, many contradictions and dilemmas in life will be solved.
There is such a story in "The New Language of the World".
The Marquis of The Blue Sky of the Eastern Jin Dynasty was grumpy, and if he was a little unhappy, he would get angry and out of control.
Once when he ate an egg without being caught, he jumped like a thunderbolt and smashed the egg on the ground to crush it with his feet.
But the egg kept spinning, and Wang Shu was even more angry, so he picked it up again and chewed it up in his mouth and spit it out.
When Wang Xizhi heard about this, he laughed at his lack of the temperament of a scholar, and such a temperament was difficult to achieve a big thing.
Since then, Wang Shu has learned a lesson, and when he is angry, he is often silent and patient.
Later, someone scolded him, and his words were unbearable, and Wang Shu did not say a word, facing the wall to control his anger.
For a time, everyone praised his good cultivation, and "Wang Shu Face the Wall" became a good story throughout the ages.
As it is said in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "Those who have a peaceful heart and a peaceful heart, a hundred blessings are self-collected." ”
Learning to control emotions and remain silent when angry is the best way to deal with the world, and blessings will come uninvited.
Silence is not cowardice and timidity, but tolerance and generosity, the great wisdom of life.
Only those who know how to be silent at the right time, control their emotions, and not be trapped by anger are the strong people in life.
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When sad, exercise
Mr. Yang Dai said: "There is no one in this world who is not injured. ”
Life is a battle of one hundred against a hundred, and there are often traumas and sadness.
If you are blindly painful and sad, it will only crush your body and consume your mind.
Only by knowing how to self-regulate and self-repair can we have a steady stream of internal motivation and be afraid of the storms of life.
There are many ways to heal yourself, such as meditation, meditation, learning... But exercise is the easiest and most direct way.
Exercise is the best medicine, and if you stick to it, you can cure all sadness and pain.
Actor Li Ruotong also had a dark day after becoming famous as the little dragon girl in "Divine Eagle Hero".
Because her love faded out of the screen, she was unilaterally broken up after ten years of accompanying each other, and then her father died suddenly, a series of blows made her suffer from severe depression and even suicide attempts.
During this time, in order to pull herself out of the abyss, she began to exercise and fitness, spending more than 5 hours a day in the gym, running, sit-ups, push-ups, lifting dumbbells...
She fell in love with sports, and over the years, her body has become better, and her mood is no longer lonely and depressed.
Now Li Ruotong rarely acts, but because of sharing sports videos and body management experience, she is still loved by many fans on social media.
Haruki Murakami also said, "When I am blamed by others, or when I feel wronged, I can always run farther than usual." ”
Exercise, in addition to exercising, can really consume the negative emotions in your heart and make people more confident and powerful.
So, if you feel sad, go exercise, life goes on, the movement doesn't stop.
In the persistence day after day, with limited energy, to create an indomitable will, strengthen their body and mind.
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When upset, read
Qu Yuan wrote in the words: "I was upset and confused, and I didn't know what to do. ”
People who are upset and can't calm down will become confused about where to go.
But many times, the reason why people fall into narrow confusion and trouble is that they read too little.
Because your emotions are hidden in your cognition, not enough cognition, not enough wisdom, there is no stable emotion to solve the problems in life.
Only by constantly reading and seeing clearly can people get more calm happiness and liberate their hearts.
The writer Sanmao is a person who loves books as much as his life, and at the beginning of literacy, he kept reading books, sitting and reading, lying down, and even hiding in the cemetery.
The ideas in the book have also profoundly changed Sanmao's thinking, vision and pattern, so that in the years to come, she will not be confused, have nothing to do, and always smile calmly.
When she went to the Sahara Desert, there was a shortage of materials, and she was not upset, but on the contrary, she was full of fun and full of exuberant vitality.
Even when she encounters ignorant and ignorant villagers, she does not dislike and resents, and she can also give back her kindness and tolerance without hesitation.
Those books she has read have long been integrated into her bones, so that she is not narrow-minded, not bored, has a heart and vision, and can also see the scenery that others cannot see in life.
Lin Yutang said: "Reading, you can open the Mao Plug, get rid of contempt, gain new knowledge, increase learning, broaden your knowledge, and cultivate your spirit." ”
Therefore, reading is to use the lowest cost to obtain the highest level of growth, which can relieve your blockage and remove your worries.
Its benefits may not be immediate, but it can certainly help you become a better version of yourself.
When you are upset, go to school, until the pattern becomes bigger, the world is clear, and your emotions naturally become light and breezy.
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Fan Zhongyan said: "Do not be happy with things, and do not grieve with yourself." ”
Control your emotions and be calm, you can reach the highest state of life.
Therefore, grasp these three keys, do a good job of emotional management, and don't let negative emotions consume you.
May you be able to be silent when you are angry, exercise when you are sad, and read when you are upset in the days to come.
Control emotions, stabilize emotions, treat impermanence with a normal mind, and live the second half of life calmly and calmly.