Temper is the embodiment of a person's upbringing and self-cultivation.
When there are many nameless fires in the event of trouble, after a long time, they will rebel and leave, and they will have to pay for their bad temper.
Temper is a thing that seems ordinary, but it subtly affects the lives of each of us.
Being able to soothe your emotions, the outside world will also give you a piece of peace.
Therefore, the wise fight for anger, and the fool is angry.
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The temper is gone, and the luck comes
A big temper, no matter how good the luck, is also scared away; as soon as the temper is changed, luck comes.
It is recorded in the "New Sayings of the World" that there was an impatient person in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, that is, Wang Shu (匯述) (raiding the Marquis of Lantian, also known as Wang Lantian).
Once, Wang Shu was eating at home and wanted to use chopsticks to tie up a boiled egg to eat.
The egg was round and slippery, and a chopstick could not be pierced.
Wang Shu was anxious and angry, and directly threw the egg on the ground.
Unexpectedly, the egg was still spinning on the ground, as if provoking him.
Wang Shu jumped like a thunderbolt and pounced on it to try to squash the egg, but he didn't step on it.
At this point, Wang Shu was almost mad at the egg.
He picked up the egg and put it in his mouth, bit it and then spit it the ground.
Such a "revenge" makes me feel more comfortable.
After people heard about this incident, they shook their heads and sighed, and many people commented that Wang Shu was "narrow-minded."
To be angry about such trivial matters is actually to punish yourself with your own anger and lose a bad reputation.
Later, after Wang Shu experienced in the official field, he realized his character defects, changed his past wrongs, and often treated things in a gentle way.
Xie Yi, a colleague with a rough temperament, has a grudge with Wang Shu.
Once, Xie Yi scolded Wang Shu with vicious words, and Wang Shu ignored him and stood facing the wall.
After half a day, Xie Yi left, and he returned to his seat. People praised him for his nurturing and open-mindedness. This is a god turning point!
Wang Shu's final official, Shang Shuling, died at the age of 66 and was posthumously awarded the title of General of Shizhong and Hussar.
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The wise are angry, and the fools are angry
Sometimes, to know if a person can achieve success, it depends on whether he can control his temper.
A person who can't even control his temper is difficult to make a good impression.
Zhou Yu, portrayed in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", although brave and strategic, is narrow-minded.
When Sun and Liu jointly resisted Cao, Zhuge Liangqiao used the East Wind to defeat Cao Bing.
Zhou Yu, jealous of Zhuge Liang's talents, sent someone to assassinate him, but Zhuge Liang escaped, which was angry.
In order to retake Jingzhou, Zhou Yu tricked Liu Bei into marrying relatives, but as a result, he told Sun Quan to "lose his wife and fold his soldiers", which was a second anger.
Zhou Yu, pretending to help Liu Bei attack Xichuan, asked Liu Bei to send grain and grass to comfort him, waiting for an opportunity to assassinate Liu Bei.
Zhuge Liang made a plan and deployed a four-way army to surround them.
Angry, Zhou Yu spat out blood, and Yang Tianchang sighed: "Born Yu, He Shengliang!" ”
Wang Xiaobo said: "All the pain of people is essentially anger at their own incompetence. ”
Everyone in the world said that Zhou Lang's wisdom was not as good as Kong Ming's, but he didn't know that before he fought for wisdom, Zhou Yu had already lost to his temper.
Anger is an emotion that is difficult to control.
Because it is difficult to control, it is easy to cause disasters and damage health because of temporary anger.
The Northern Song Dynasty great Confucian Cheng Hao said: "The love of the lady is easy to develop and difficult to control, but the anger is even worse." The first can be in anger, forget its anger, and look at the right and wrong, you can also see the lack of external temptation, and do not think too much. ”
This means that among people's feelings, the most easily triggered and uncontrollable is anger.
If you do not get rid of your anger beforehand when dealing with things, you will not be able to deal with external objects with a calm and objective attitude.
Stupid people will only get angry when things happen; smart people, who can suppress their temper, win in the atmosphere.
Every day is a good day, and good time is not used to be angry.
Good luck often follows a good temper.
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