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In Zhang Ailing's novel "Red Roses and White Roses", "Red Rose" Wang Jiaorui is the kind of woman who has a variety of styles, and a man will fall at a glance but will never consider marrying her home as a wife.
On the contrary, the slightly weak and dull look is the image of a good wife, and the "white rose" Meng Yanli is the most ideal wife candidate in the minds of men.
The reason is nothing more than that men are extremely shrewd, and the choices they make are always optimal for themselves, and under the balance of various interests, they choose the one that suits them best.
It is as if the fallen scholar who was forced to live temporarily in the Qinglou because he was poor and could not afford to pay for the accommodation of the inn, before he achieved his meritorious name, he said that he wanted to rescue the wind and dust woman from the water and fire.
But he climbed up to the Toad Palace, folded the laurel branches, and added an aura of honor, where can he remember the gentle countryside in this corner where he once lingered.
Yes, in fact, whether it is for unmarried men or married men, the difference between "house flowers" and "wildflowers" can be described as the existence of cloud mud.
In the eyes of men, the former is often the "white moonlight" in front of the bed, while the latter is just the "mosquito blood" on the wall.
And to be more specific, "houseflower" type women and "wildflower" type women. There are mainly three differences.
First: "Home flower" is more like an orchid, only a faint fragrance, not ostentatious, not conspicuous, and "wildflower" is more like a demon peony, all the time exuding its own charm, emphasizing its own status.
Therefore, from this point of view, wildflowers are the ones who prefer to compete for favors and fame, while the domestic flowers are the ones who are not insulted and unwilling to fight.
The "wildflowers" know that their identity is not clear, and they also know that their underground love affair with men is not in the light of day, but even so, they still have a little illusion in their hearts.
That is: if you are strong enough, even strong enough for men to feel afraid, does that mean that men dare not easily leave and betray themselves?
But in fact, this idea of "wildflowers" is somewhat naïve, because men like obedient little white rabbits or rebellious little foxes who never challenge their own bottom lines.
Therefore, if you repeatedly jump on a man's thunder point, then he does not dare to fight with you head-on, can't he still choose to escape?
You know, whether the "wildflowers" want glory or wealth, men may give them all the happiness they want, but as for things other than materials, wildflowers can't get it even if they try their best, because men have already given it to the "family flower".
Second: In the eyes of married men, "family flowers" are "family-oriented" women, who are usually willing to give up their careers for their husbands and children, while "wildflowers" are more egotistical, they yearn for freedom and do not want to be bound.
"Family flower", as the name suggests, is a greenhouse flower that is raised at home, can not withstand the wind and rain, and can not embark on a journey full of unknowns alone, and this type of woman is naturally more suitable for being a full-time wife, rather than a strong woman in the workplace.
But "wildflowers" are different, they have grown up in the dangerous rainforest since they were young, for them, their fate must be firmly in their own hands, and absolutely can not let others make decisions for themselves.
Therefore, men who desire stability and longevity will of course prefer greenhouse flowers that are easy for them to control, rather than outdoor flowers that grow wildly.
At the end of the day, men are not vegetarians, and they are accustomed to weighing their pros and cons.
So, as long as a man identifies you as a "wildflower" type woman, he will treat you with a frivolous attitude.
Because only in this way will the probability of you falling in love with him will be greatly reduced, and he will not have a deep sense of guilt.
There are always some women who love to deceive themselves and feel that they can become the only rose in a man's heart, but as everyone knows, a man's heart can hide a lot of secrets, and he will only choose the one that is most beneficial to him.
Third, in the eyes of married men, "family flower" type women can go to the hall and the kitchen, and are decathlon talents, while "wild flower" type women are mostly the kind of four-body inactivity and grain.
To put it mildly, the reason why some men marry the "family flowers" home is nothing more than to find a free nanny for themselves.
And the reason why men praise women for being virtuous and virtuous, and is a good wife that is unique, is actually just using a kind of verbal technique to deceive women.
Because when a man faces a "wildflower" type woman, he will never feel that it is her duty to wash and cook for himself and clean the house.
On the contrary, men will think that "wildflower" women should not do these rough jobs, they should be held in the palm of the hand by men.
Although "wildflowers" are not well rated by men, if you have to ask men who they respect more, it is actually "wildflowers", because in the final analysis, "domestic flowers" have been regarded as their own property by men.
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In short, married men have a scale in their hearts to measure the value of "family flower" type women and "wild flower" type women.
In their eyes, the three biggest differences between these two types of women are:
First, the domestic flowers are indisputable, while the wildflowers are strong and aggressive;
Second, home flowers take care of the family, and wildflowers prefer freedom;
Third, the house flowers are virtuous, and the wildflowers are lazy.
Of course, no matter how big the difference between domestic flowers and wildflowers is in the eyes of men, women should not be the silk flowers that are attached to the survival of men now.
Love yourself, be kind to yourself, cherish your feathers, and don't give anyone a chance to hurt you.
You know, loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.