"I came clean, and I cleaned myself up", Dai Yu shouted "My body is clean" before dying, accusing the world of misunderstanding of her!
When Dai Yu was dying, he burned everything related to Bao Yu, including the manuscript he had written by his own hand, and Dai Yu's original intention was to cut off the connection with Bao Yu. At the last moment, Dai Yu, who was as angry as a gossamer, turned pale and muttered to herself: My body is clean! Dai Yu, who was full of sorrow and indignation, died of this incense.
Dream of the Red Chamber 98th time: Lin Daiyu said to Zi Juan: "Sister, I have no relatives here, my body is clean, you ask them to send me back!"
What is "clean body"? To put it bluntly, it is the female chastity that is highly valued by feudal society, and it is this thing that has forced Dai Yu to a dead end. Daiyu's words are her accusations against the Jia family, accusing them of misunderstanding the relationship between her and Baoyu, and in the case of living a hundred words, they had to rely on a cry before their death to speak out their innocence.
Why did Dai Yu say this sentence before dying, and how important was this sentence? In fact, this is different from the feudal society's concept of "private feelings".
Different from the ideological concepts of our modern society, the ancients still held a conservative attitude towards the matter of love, and in our view today, the ordinary free love is an unforgivable event in the eyes of the ancients.
Under the etiquette system of feudal society, especially women who did not leave the cabinet, they could not have any transgressive behavior, and free love was a private affair. In the mouth of Xue Baochao in Jia Province, it is called "adulterous dog thief", and normal male and female interaction has become such a vicious thing.
Not only in the feudal society, but also in the Republic of China period, this kind of ideological tumor still exists, the stepmother of the famous female writer Zhang Ailing, originally also a miss of the family, the family is quite strict, and after she and her cousin had a private affair, they were discovered by the family, knowing that they had no face and family society, so they took poison and martyrdom.
Although the man was rescued, after being discharged from the hospital, his father also severed all relations with him, and throughout his life, the father and daughter never saw each other again.
This emphasis on female chastity and harshness seems incomprehensible to us modern people, but under the social background and culture at that time, everyone thought it was normal.
In "The Biography of Hai Rui", Hai Rui's daughter was forced to go on a hunger strike and died just because she ate the snacks handed to her by the male servant; in "Meng Jiang Nu", Meng Jiang Nu married Fan Xiliang because of the feudal culture of "staining clothes and bare sleeves is out of control", and such stories abound.
After understanding the strict requirements of the ancient feudal society for female chastity, we can understand why Dai Yu said such a sentence when she was dying!
Dai Yu is a poor girl, the mother Jia Min is the only biological daughter of Jia Min, for Jia Min, Jia Mu loves a lot, so in Jia Min's marriage, the choice is not yet developed, but there is a promising official eunuch Lin Ruhai.
Ben thought that the daughter and son-in-law would love each other for a lifetime, but who expected that the two would die when they were young, leaving Dai Yu, who was only seven or eight years old.
After the death of her parents, Daiyu, who lived in Jia Province, learned to hide her emotions in her heart early, even if she was sad or happy, she slowly chewed it herself and never let people feel it.
This also led to her later, obviously in her heart, she liked Baoyu very much, but she had to watch Baoyu marry other people and fall alone.
Under the instructions of Jia Mu, Bao Yu and Dai Yu have had a very good relationship since they were young, when they were young, they were inseparable, it can be said that they were really two little guesses and green plum bamboo horses, and in the small hearts of the two people, they already regarded each other as the most important people in this life.
With the gradual increase of age, the relationship between the two people has not become diluted, it is still very intimate, the most important thing is that the two young boys and girls who have just opened their love sinuses have the intention and desire to stay with each other for life, but they are suffering from the lack of matchmakers, so they have to bury their love in their hearts.
In ancient society, if it was a matter of marriage, it was necessary to have the words of the parents to marry, and if it was privately decided for life, it would be scolded by the people in the family.
Does Baoyu love Daiyu? love! Dai Yu loves Bao Yu? Love too! More importantly, the feelings of the two people, up and down the Jia Province, are an open secret, and almost everyone knows the thoughts of these two golden boys.
And the tragedy is here, the relationship between the two is an open secret, attention, just a secret. Before it is truly made public, this can only be regarded as a secret that everyone knows but everyone does not know, although everyone has a number in mind, but everyone will not declare it.
It is not even an exaggeration to say that the people in Jia Province, including Jia Mu, will not consider that Dai Yu is Bao Yu's marriage partner!
Jia Fu is not a small household of commoners, nor is it a commoner, but a large family with a prominent family lineage, as the male and heir of Jia Fu, Jia Baoyu's marriage object must be in line with the interests of the family, and at the same time in line with the mainstream values of the society at that time.
What's in Daiyu? Nothing, once had a great future father, has long been gone, although Jia Mu is her grandmother, but Dai Yu is only sending people to the fence to beg for a living, without the slightest background, Bao Yu married her, what can she bring to the family? Nothing!
Therefore, it was doomed that Jia Baoyu could not marry his beloved Daiyu.
After Baoyu went to Baochao, Dai Yu was distressed and sick because of Bao Yu's marriage, which made many people suspect Dai Yu's chastity and think that she had already given her body to Bao Yu, which made Dai Yu really have a hard time arguing.
She didn't do such a thing, but who could listen to her? Who can trust her? In the concept of ordinary people, "love" and "sex" are inseparable, and the earlier intimacy between Dai Yu and Bao Yu has been seen by everyone, plus because Bao Yu is married, Dai Yu is seriously ill, which makes people think that there is indeed something.
In order not to let people continue to misunderstand, but also to prove that Dai Yu "burned the manuscript to break the infatuation", burned his own poetry manuscript, burned the things that Bao Yu sent, burned all the things related to love, and cut off his feelings for Bao Yu.
Before dying, Dai Yu, who only had one breath left, said to her own close servant, "My body is clean", it was the pain and helplessness that no one could tell, no one could tell, and she had to use the mouth of the beard to say her biggest grievance.
But what has been said? Just as she said to The Purple Crane, "Tell them to send her back", the Purple Crane is not capable of doing it, and it is useless to say it.
epilogue:
Dai Yu burned everything related to Bao Yu completely cut off the feelings that had once been, it showed that the fire of love that was once lit is now like ashes, and saying the phrase "My body is clean" is to accuse the world of misunderstanding of her, the person she loves married someone else, the heart is like a knife, and she has to bear such an unclean name, how unwilling it is, saying that there is no one to say, can only be turned into a cry before death.