There is a double full law in the world, and it is not as good as it should be.
We hope to meet someone who loves us deeply, and this person is also the person we love deeply, so that the feeling of mutual affection can give us unparalleled happiness.
Unfortunately, due to the influence of emotional thinking, women are destined to take love as the whole of their lives.
It is said that after a person has a concern, he will have a weak rib, and after having a weak rib, he will start to do something "inappropriate" because of his soft heart.
In fact, there is nothing to care about a person, and the fear is that we will forget some original intentions and principles because we care about a person, feel that no matter what we do, we will have to have a degree.
Infatuation is also a good thing, it means that a person is single-minded with affection, and is a person worthy of trusting feelings, but if infatuation leaves the support of the bottom line, it will become a thing that is too late.
In gender relationships, remind "obsessive" women: no matter how much you love someone, there must be three "bottom lines".
Don't whitewash the other person's mistakes because of love
A single mother in the Japanese drama "Mom" has been abandoned by men many times because of her daughter, so when she has a new boyfriend, she is extremely tolerant.
The boyfriend does not go out to work, play games all day, do not do the right thing, go out to earn money to support him, as long as the other party does not leave him;
The boyfriend makes fun of her daughter and bullies her when she has nothing to do, and the woman knows and doesn't say anything, as long as the other party doesn't leave her.
Is this love?
No, this kind of love is deformed, it will make people form an unequal relationship invisibly, and over time, the person who does a small low will definitely suffer.
Love is love, mistakes are mistakes, the two can not be confused, can not be because of love and can not see each other's mistakes, so that only let the other party be unscrupulous.
As Milan Kundera put it: "The first betrayal irreparably provokes more betrayals, just as a chain reaction again and again takes us farther and farther away from the original betrayal." ”
Don't wronged yourself because of love to please others
There is a flattering personality in psychology, which refers to the fact that some people will suppress their own needs in order to maintain so-called relationships, and try their best to meet the needs of others.
This type of person is not good at refusing, afraid to make demands, they never respect the real needs of their hearts, and they are always used to putting others first.
In a relationship between the sexes, women with flattering personalities will meet men's needs without limit because they are not good at rejecting and because they are afraid of the breakdown of a relationship.
In this case, men will become less and less concerned about women's feelings because they have completely pinched women.
As emotion expert Zuo Yan said: "When a woman becomes more and more enthusiastic about men, men become more and more indifferent to women, this is because men feel that women have no challenges for themselves, so they will be like this." ”
In a relationship, good love is like a spring breeze, giving people a comfortable and comfortable feeling, like entering the room where they have lived, very familiar, do not need to be afraid.
Such feelings will make people return to their true nature and be their truest self.
How can such feelings make people need to disguise themselves to suppress themselves?
Therefore, in a relationship, the person who really appreciates us and truly loves us will always appreciate the kind of confidence and pride that emanates from us.
It is not that we lower our posture, pretend to be humble, pretend to be pleasing.
Don't lose yourself in the way you are because of love
In order to attract the people we like, we will cater to each other's preferences, and we will do what the other person likes.
As everyone knows, we slowly become what the other person wants to be, but it is not our original and most real appearance.
The love we want should not be like this.
The love we want is to be able to be the truest self in front of a person, or plain makeup, or ladylike open-mindedness, how we are happy and how to come, rather than because the other party likes it or not.
Gu Long once wrote in the book: "If a person loves too deeply, it is usually always a tragedy." ”
Love is never a matter of letting a person compromise and seek perfection in exchange, love is the joint efforts of both sides, it is evenly matched, it is not divided, it is walking side by side.
So, in a relationship, we just do it ourselves.
If there is a person who needs to change our original selves to be able to support the relationship, then the relationship must not be suitable for us.
We must be looking for the person who can calm us down in the midst of a storm.
Because such a person can let us experience what it feels like to be a good love, and can also let us be ourselves in love. Therefore, for the rest of your life, you must find such a person to be with.