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Wang Su's "Prodigy Poem":
Asahina Tianshe lang, Twilight Tianzi Hall.
Ordinary farmland villagers, through reading, can also enter the house and become courtiers.
Reading changes destiny, and it has been the case since ancient times.
Today, for children from rural and even urban working families, reading is still the most reliable way out.
In the TV series "Dajiang Dahe 2", Song Yunhui, played by Wang Kai, is a typical example of changing his fate through reading.
Through reading, Song Yunhui allowed himself to grow from a destitute rural child to a social elite and a pillar of the country.
His life, status, and vision have changed a lot through reading. But his core values have not changed.
His integrity, family affection, principles, and bottom line are the embodiment of the values he created in the environment in which he grew up.
Song Yunhui is a kind person, his wife Cheng Kaiyan is also a kind person, and the reason why the marriage of the two people has not come to the end is because of their different values.
Psychologist said: The biggest gap between people is not status, rich and poor, education or beauty, but values.
Through his efforts, Song Yunhui has narrowed the status and distance between rich and poor between him and Cheng Kaiyan, but he cannot close the gap between the values of the two.
A person's core values are often difficult to change.
01. Phoenix Man changes his fate through reading
Cheng Fu (pseudonym) was married for 10 years and endured for 10 years. The values of his family and his wife Ye Lin (pseudonym) are very different.
He had worked very hard to get closer to each other and to fit into each other's circles, but unfortunately, some things were ingrained and there was nothing he could do about it.
He knew that Ye Lin had always loved him and had been carefully maintaining their relationship. However, what should come will always come, and he can hide other things, but his parents are his bottom line.
Ye Lin's family trampled on his bottom line, he took the initiative to propose divorce and get out of the house.
The child belongs to Ye Lin, the house is also, although Ye Lin is not bad for this suite, but Cheng Fu insists on his own opinion.
He drove away in his car, took with him several sets of change of clothes, and some digital equipment he had purchased over the years; he also took a wedding photo and a group photo of his family of three when his son was full moon.
Cheng Fu is a "phoenix man" who changed his fate through reading.
He walked out of the remote ravines of the Central And Western Regions, attending a university in a first-tier city 211 college, with a master's degree.
His wife, Ye Lin (not her real name), is a wealthy girl from another first-tier city, and the two met when they were in their second year of master's degree.
Just like Cheng Kaiyan in "Big Rivers and Big Rivers 2", it was Ye Lin who took the initiative to chase him.
In Cheng Fu's eyes, Ye Lin is a kind and unskilled girl, not materialistic, unpretentious, not vulgar. Cheng Fu loves her sophistication the most.
However, Cheng Fu knew Ye Lin's family lineage, and he knew that there was a huge gap between the two, not only in the economy, but also in values.
He liked Ye Lin very much, but some love could only stop at his lips and teeth, hiding in the years.
02. Married for 10 years, hidden for 10 years
At first, Cheng Fu deliberately kept his distance from Ye Lin.
But Ye Lin was very determined, and even turned against him and his parents for him. At Ye Lin's insistence, the relationship between the two finally blossomed, and finally received the blessing of Ye Lin's parents.
When getting married, the marriage room was a down payment from Ye Lin's parents.
After graduation, Cheng Fu worked in a state-owned enterprise and had a stable job, but his salary was not enough for him to have enough economic foundation to complete the marriage event.
His parents have been educating Cheng Fu since childhood, and people are not poor, so when they are in love, he is reluctant to let Ye Lin spend money, but Ye Lin's consumption concept is very different from him, and he spends a lot of money.
Cheng Fu did not save much money. The wedding was paid for by Ye Lin's family, and his money was used to pay for the tickets and accommodation of his parents and relatives who came from their hometown to attend the wedding.
The father-in-law and mother-in-law were businessmen, and the guests invited were all brightly dressed, while the relatives of the Cheng Fu family formed a sharp contrast with them at the banquet.
Cheng Fu was originally grateful to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, but he took it to heart the contempt they had for their parents and relatives.
The parents stayed for two days and went back. They left 70,000 yuan and instructed Cheng Fu: "Mom and Dad have no ability, they can only do this step, the next road, you have to rely on yourself." ”
Although their parents were from the countryside, they understood that they had not come again after nearly 10 years of marriage. From time to time, they would mail local souvenirs from their hometowns over and let Cheng Fu distribute them to Ye Lin's relatives.
However, Ye Lin only went back to him three times from beginning to end, once when she was married, and once when her parents left.
As the Son of Man, how can parents not mind being despised? Cheng Fu chose to be patient and silently put his grievances in his heart.
03. Other things can be tolerated, but parents are the bottom line
Cheng Fu usually does not say that he has heartfelt respect for his father-in-law and mother-in-law, but at least on the surface, he has done a good job. But my mother-in-law always looked at him unfavorably, thinking that he was too pedantic and did not know how to be flexible.
Cheng Fu is a middle-level deputy of the unit, and belongs to the technical backbone, if there are some network resources, promotion is a simple thing. My father-in-law offered to help several times, but he refused.
Cheng Fu has his own principles and bottom line, he never participates in the personal exchanges in the work, but relies on his technical experience and resume, and reluctantly holds a small position.
His father-in-law was therefore estranged from him and felt that his future was the same.
In fact, Cheng Fu very much wanted to succeed one day, let Ye Lin raise his eyebrows, and let his father-in-law and mother-in-law look at him with admiration. But he only wants to rely on his own real materials to obtain, not on relationships.
He and his father-in-law and mother-in-law have different values, treat people differently, and follow different principles. The cold eyes of his father-in-law and mother-in-law were something he could understand.
But what he couldn't accept was that his parents were sick and hospitalized until they left, and his father-in-law and mother-in-law didn't even ask.
Later, Cheng Fu and Ye Lin returned to their hometown to deal with their parents' affairs, and their father-in-law and mother-in-law did not let them bring the children back together, saying that it was unlucky.
Cheng Fu's heart was like a knife at that time, and he didn't even have the mood to quarrel, and he just wanted to rush back to his hometown to see his parents for the last time.
After the incident, Ye Lin apologized to him on behalf of her parents. Cheng Fu said, I will always love you and give up everything for you, but I can't accept this apology.
This incident violated Cheng Fu's bottom line.
He could hide other things, but his parents were looked down upon by their own families, which made him always grumble. As soon as he remembered that his parents had been good, he was in great pain.
04. The phoenix man takes the initiative to clean up the house
What led to the end of his marriage with Ye Lin was a joke by Ye Lin's girlfriend.
Cheng Fu usually can't blend into Ye Lin's circle, Ye Lin and friends party together, he never mixes. That day, the girlfriend sent a message to Ye Lin, saying that she had found a "handsome guy" for her.
Cheng Fu inadvertently saw that in fact, he believed very much in Ye Lin's personality, but in that instant, he had endured 10 years of grievances, inferiority, and various complex emotions, and suddenly exploded.
He slapped Ye Lin. He immediately regretted it after the fight, and he found himself the kind of man he despised the most, and he cried bitterly.
Later, Ye Lin forgave him, but he could not let go. Therefore, he took the initiative to file for divorce and chose to leave the house.
The biggest gap between people is values.
Cheng Reused 10 years, still unable to close this gap. Ye Lin still loves him, and so does he, but there is only love in marriage, and it is not enough.
The mother-in-law will also call him, saying that the two of them are old and have no other wishes, only that the daughter and son-in-law's family can be happy.
His mother-in-law told him to think about it, give each other a chance, and think about the children no matter what.
Cheng Fu sometimes reflects that he is nearly forty years old, what is the purpose of such a toss?
Maybe it's all about values.
Reading changed his destiny, but his values never changed.
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