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In order to fight with the musicals I loved, I gave up the iron rice bowl of university teachers and went to Shenzhen alone to develop. Unexpectedly, by chance, I fell in love with an Italian warm man on the Internet, and gave up everything to marry into the Italian countryside and became a housewife.
In the 10 years in a foreign country, at the beginning, I will also collapse and cry. But fortunately, I was lucky to marry a lover, and now not only do I have two lovely mixed-race daughters, but my daily life is as joyful as a comedy scene.
I am an only child, with a beautiful mother and a father who loves good men, and the family atmosphere is warm and happy.
From a young age, he has a cheerful personality, loves to dance and love to sing, is naughty and does not go home all day, runs to the field dam every day like a boy, catches shrimp nets and fish plays with mud, and often causes trouble for his parents. Live off the female paper, not ladylike at all.
The most memorable one was to go swimming in the river without the family, get lost and disappear all day, and kill my father. But the moment I found me, my father did not blame, and his anxious face was full of worry, which made me blame myself. From then on, I would say everything to my father in advance and no longer be willful.
In the first year of junior high school, I was successfully admitted to a secondary art college. When I applied for the major, I found that other girls learned dance from a young age, and I only started to learn it when I was 15 years old, and my dance skills were much worse than others. I had no advantage in the dance profession at all, so with curiosity, I chose the musical theatre major.
At that time, musical theater had just entered China, it was still a new thing, and no one really understood what it really was. At the beginning of the school year, I learned that musical theater is the most unpopular major, and the student source is seriously insufficient, and the school only recruits one class. But the choice you make yourself, without him, is right to go all out.
In the four years of college, the professional classes arranged by the school are mainly singing and dancing. With hard work and talent, I became an excellent student when I graduated. When my classmates were anxious about employment, at the age of 19, I ushered in the first opportunity in my life. The director recommended me to stay in school as a substitute teacher, and later recommended me to be a pre-test training teacher for the adult education dance class of Sichuan University. As soon as I graduated, I had a job, and I became the best in the eyes of my classmates.
But in the course of a year of teaching, I found that the major I studied had no chance to be used, thinking that I was still very young, and it was a good age to work hard. So, while I was a teacher, I applied for a professional university.
Just heard that Guangzhou Xinghai Conservatory of Music is recruiting, thinking that musical theater is not developing well in mainland cities, then coastal cities may have more opportunities, so I began to prepare to resign and go south.
But then I encountered a new entanglement, and at the end of the internship period, the director recommended that I turn positive and become a formal faculty member. I have to say that the opportunity of a university teacher is very tempting, and my parents also think it is a good opportunity. But I was too content with the status quo, and finally decided to go out and break in.
Relying on a solid professional foundation, I was successfully admitted to Guangzhou Xinghai Conservatory of Music. Shenzhen is a young and diverse city, where I met the teachers who let me do musicals, and with their support, the school began to focus on cultivating musical theater talents, and I finally found a like-minded peer and a stage of love, which felt like a new life.
At that time, I trained for more than ten hours a day, but I didn't feel bitter. Kung Fu paid off, and we created China's first stage play in the form of a musical, The Little Girl Who Sold Matches, in which I played the role of a cat.
For the sake of publicity, we did a nationwide tour, but the effect was not satisfactory, and the audience's acceptance of this new form of performance was limited. Coupled with the fact that the school did not create other works in the future, I was confused when I was close to graduation, and where to go became the biggest problem.
After communicating with my family, I finally gave up my beloved profession, chose the latter in the face of ideals and survival, and crossed the line to start a pharmaceutical sales.
For me, whether it is a musical or a career change for a living, once I make a choice, I will devote myself with 100% enthusiasm. Every turn of my life, I have not failed to live up to my current self.
After I officially started working, I spent most of my time on business. Without much socializing, I was almost thirty years old and became an older leftover girl in the eyes of my parents, and my friends suggested that I learn English.
Because of my work relationship, I had business dealings with clients in the Middle East, and I accepted this advice because I wanted to make friends and practice my English.
Soon after, I received an email from an Italian man who was very specific about his situation and could feel his sincerity between the lines. So I left him a mailbox.
Unexpectedly, I received a reply the next day, and the Italian man was impressed by my humor and humor, and the more we talked, the more speculative we became. After a period of online dating, he just happened to come to China for more than ten days on a business trip, and we discussed meeting.
The first time we met, there was no embarrassment of the language barrier, on the contrary, we both felt very good, formally established the relationship between men and women, and hoped to communicate on the premise of marriage.
When I learned that I was dating a foreigner and preparing to get married, my mother reacted the most, she was a hundred unhappy, saying that the other party must be a liar, and also frightened me with foreign love and domestic violence. In order to prove that I can't be wrong in looking at people, and in order to get specific evidence to reassure my mother, I went to Italy alone to investigate my boyfriend's family situation.
Thinking of going abroad, in order to save enough face and aura, I deliberately took out the good clothes and cheongsam at the bottom of the pressure box, and also made up exquisite makeup.
But when I arrived, I found that Italy was very different from what I thought, except for the center of Milan, there were very few high-rise buildings, all of which were very low kind of small bungalows, and the facades were often renovated.
(The real Italian countryside in my eyes)
The Italian boyfriend's family lives in the countryside and has a beautiful yard like a garden. His dad was fat-looking, wore a pair of small glasses, and looked cute. His mother looked graceful and charming, like an aristocratic lady.
In order to welcome me, my boyfriend's father went to the supermarket to buy very high-end biscuits, only to find moldy and hairy when he opened it. The whole family was hip-hop, all of them were comedians, and a lot of funny things happened that month.
After returning this time, I told my mother the truth about the situation, and she changed her attitude after listening to it, thinking that I married into such a family, although there would be differences in language and living habits, but my boyfriend's family was simple and enthusiastic, and it should be very happy to live with them.
(My husband and I wear Chinese costumes to take wedding photos)
On Christmas Day 2011, my Italian boyfriend and I successfully obtained the license and formed a mixed-match family. A year later, we wore Chinese costumes to make up for the wedding, and at that time I learned that there is no concept of a bride price in Italy, and it is very interesting to write a list for relatives and friends to check the gifts they want to send. However, now for the sake of convenience, it is also direct gift money.
Half a year later, I resigned and went to Italy, at that time I was still quite confident in living in Italy, and I felt that my husband was there and I was not afraid of anything. Later, I found that I was punched in the face, because I couldn't work in Italian, and after my husband went out to work every day, I was left with my in-laws who didn't understand the language at home with big eyes and small eyes, in addition to dancing with their hands, it was a variety of expressions.
Slowly, my in-laws also found that this would not work, so they began to teach me To learn Italian. The two old men patiently told me, coupled with their own exploration, I can communicate easily after half a year.
In May 2016, the eldest daughter Dada was about to be born. When I was about to give birth, my Chinese parents were not around, and the only one who accompanied me was my Italian husband. Fathers are allowed to accompany me when I give birth in Italy, so my husband is inseparable from the whole process of childbirth. Having him gave me a lot of security.
During the waiting period after the induction injection, I was very nervous. I started to have pain in the back, I went into the delivery room to give birth, and my husband was next to me to cheer me up. After two hours, the pain intensified and I lay in bed moaning incessantly. The doctor suggested I take a hot shower and my husband was always around talking to me, giving me a massage, trying to distract me.
(Waiting for me to produce)
The Italian husband still passes the microphone online and reports the situation to the Chinese parents. In the end, I suddenly lost strength and was about to faint, so he immediately decided to switch to a caesarean section. When I was pushed out of the operating room, I was unconscious, but I knew that my husband was always with me.
We are like the best comrades-in-arms, going through the whole production process together, taking care of our daughters together, and our feelings are closer. He often thanked me, thanked me for my efforts, and thanked me for giving birth to a lovely angel. After this time, even my mother praised him as a good son-in-law, and I was also grateful that I had married a reliable and warm man.
(Accompanying husband, upgraded to be a wet dad)
The eldest daughter's Italian name is Margarita, and Chinese name is Favorite. Because the Italian name is too long, we took the last letter tata, which sounds very much like the dada in the Chinese, so the daughter has another nickname.
I found that the elderly in Italy generally like to live with their children, and they do not go out independently when they reach the age of 18, as the Internet says. When Dada was born, the two elderly people in the family were already 70 years old, and my husband also needed me to manage the family's affairs, so I became a housewife. There are a lot of stay-at-home moms here, but they are all all-round moms.
There will also be mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts in Italy, and next-door neighbors often hear quarrels. Fortunately, our family is all born comedians, talking and doing things with their own laughter, constantly happy all day long, and there are few quarrels.
My in-laws are my parenting helpers and king diners, and they love children very much. Mother-in-law does not dance square dance like Chinese retirees, and father-in-law does not love to play chess and fish, their biggest hobby is to enjoy food and play with children. It was often the time to sleep in a stroller, and two elderly people were still sitting on the edge of the bed.
(Italian in-laws love children)
I made Sichuan-style Chinese food, everyone is very satisfied, rich in flavors. For example, chili peppers, my mother-in-law likes it, and she is also full of praise for the foot-soaked chicken feet she made last time. Usually I cook, and occasionally if my husband does not go out to meet customers, he will learn to make Chinese fried fritters for us to eat. Because the whole family is a foodie, my Italian husband and I have soared in weight after marriage.
My mother-in-law is very afraid that I will miss home alone in foreign countries, and every Spring Festival, my mother-in-law will say that she will celebrate my festival well. She would go to the supermarket to buy my favorite shrimp, fish and meat, make dumplings with the whole family, drink a few sips of Chinese liquor, and I would teach them to say "Happy New Year" in Chinese. It is really a kind of happiness to have such a sweet and warm family in a foreign country.
(Celebrate the holidays with the whole family)
When I was two years old, I began to toss and turn, became a mother and baby blogger, and shared my daily life in Italy on a parenting app. Unexpectedly, my "strange" way of taking a baby and a happy mix of family atmosphere are very popular with everyone, and I have gained more than 70,000 fans in two years.
Since then, I've also fallen in love with making videos. It became a part of my life, a new link between me and my fellow Chinese, and it excites me. I hope to share the most optimistic and positive side of my life with everyone, even if I marry away from home, I must strive to live a prosperous life!
Last year, two big things happened in our family. First, the mixed-race little cute sister Nono was born, and we became a family of four. When Grandpa heard the news of my pregnancy, he stood in place with a water cup for a few seconds, and his expression was very cute.
Second, with good luck, we spent a million yuan to buy a new farmhouse. 170m2 house and a big yard close to our estate.
Now in Italy, because of the Russian-Ukrainian conflict, many Unvaccinated Ukrainian refugees came in, resulting in a grim epidemic situation. The in-laws are busy going to the supermarket these days to buy things and stock up on goods. Parents who are far away in China often call us to pay attention to safety, and also send a lot of proprietary Chinese medicines to enhance our immunity.
(Loving Chinese medicine sent by my mother from China)
In fact, I discussed with my parents as early as before getting married, and then I took them to Italy to retire. In the three months of Dada, they also came to Italy once, lived here for a month, the in-laws also like to be lively, and the four old people got along very happily.
Now whenever we have time, we will go and pack up the new house, hoping to finish it by the end of this year and make it look like it. When the epidemic is over, the Chinese parents will be brought to live together, and the family of nine will be reunited as soon as possible.
At the age of 37, a Sichuan girl who is married to Italy, I moved from the fast-paced Chinese city of Shenzhen to the italian countryside where I live at a slow pace, and slowed down to feel the joy of heaven. So far, my life has been written according to my own wishes, and I believe that people who are determined and hard to live can always meet happiness!
Author Nannan, focus on the field of emotions to create and share, with emotions to communicate with you and my soul, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.