"Sighing in the world, the beauty is not enough to believe in the present." Even if it is a case of Qi Mei, it is difficult to calm down in the end! This is a sentence in "Lifelong Mistake" to describe Baoyu's feelings in married life: although he has the happiness of "raising his eyebrows", he always feels that "the beauty is insufficient" because "it is difficult to be peaceful".
What makes Baoyu "difficult to calm" is the Dai Yu, who has long since passed away, "the Lonely Forest of the Immortals in the World".
Many readers think that Baoyu is dissatisfied with marriage and dislikes Baochao because of this "yi difficult peace", and they ignore the premise of "yi nan ping" as "fly in the ointment".
Why is "fly in the ointment" "difficult to reconcile"? To give an easy-to-understand example:
A scumbag, the kind that can only get two or three points in a long-term examination, although he also dreams of getting a high score, it is helpless to go to the blue sky. However, in one exam, he relied purely on the mask, and the 100 percent test paper actually made him get ninety-eight points right. Of course, this pure reliance on Meng can also be understood as the unprincipled preference for him by a new teacher, deliberately releasing water to expose the problem in advance, etc., so that he did all the problems that he would not have done at all. Originally, I could only take two or three points, but the result was ninety-eight points, is it beautiful? Of course, it is beautiful, but he still feels that it is "insufficient in the ointment", because the two points lost are exactly what he thought he would do with nine out of ten. That is to say, he could have scored full marks, the most difficult things were done right, but he lost points in the easiest place, so he couldn't think straight, which is "difficult to agree".
Baoyu is exactly this mentality. For a long time, he thought that Dai Yu was easy to get and Bao Chao was difficult to find. As a result, he gained baochao and lost Daiyu, so when he lamented "inadequacy in the beauty", he always felt that "it was difficult to be peaceful".
Dai Yu is easy to get, she is a gift from Jia Mu to Bao Yu, and she can get close to her at zero distance.
Jia Mu loves to collect beautiful women, not because she herself likes beautiful women, but because her precious grandson Baoyu likes. Therefore, she gave the most outstanding Qingwen to Baoyu, but the Mandarin duck who stayed by her side looked ordinary, and there were "a few freckles on the cheeks on both sides" .
Baoyu was born with a love of "fat ring powder" and "likes to mix inside the drapery", Jia Mu not only did not worry about it, but "regarded it as a treasure", and even threw herself into his favor, trying to get Bao Yu to accompany him to the object of "mixing". Before there was Shi Xiangyun, and then there was Lin Daiyu, all because Baoyu liked it, it became a gift from Jia Mu to Baoyu.
It is precisely because Xiangyun and Daiyu are both gifts from Jia Mu to Baoyu, so they are arranged to have close contact with Baoyu without suspicion.
When Xiangyun and Baoyu spent their time together, they were still in their infancy, and when they grew up a little and needed to avoid suspicion, Xiangyun was taken away by the Shi family.
When Dai Yu came to Bao Yu's side, she was just at the age of "men and women at the age of seven", and should have lived separately in "another room in the other courtyard", but because Bao Yu liked this "fairy-like sister" at a glance, Jia Mu arranged for them to "sit together on the same day and rest together at night".
Not only that, Dai Yu, a talented and beautiful "fairy-like sister", not only did not resist Bao Yu's closeness at all, but also took the initiative to take the initiative, even to the point that Bao Yu wanted to sleep with her, and she sent her own pillow to Bao Yu.
In addition to being physically in close contact, they are also highly consistent in their thinking: Baoyu does not like to listen to words such as reading and making progress, and Sister Lin never says words; Baoyu likes to use his miscellaneous studies for the wind and snow moon, and Dai Yu also likes to use her Wing Chun Cai to sing the wind and flower snow moon; Bao Yu thinks about I only for my heart in dealing with people, and Dai Yu also starts from I only for my heart in everything.
Both Jia Mu and Dai Yu's attitudes clearly told Bao Yu: As long as he wants, everything about Dai Yu belongs to him and can be used at any time. Therefore, even Xiao Weixing'er could see that "in the future, it will be set by Aunt Lin."
Therefore, in Baoyu's view, Daiyu is too easy to get, it can be said that there is no obstacle. Moreover, in his expectations, he thought that in this life, he could only guard The Dai Yu raiders for a lifetime, "looking for Dai Yu to accompany them for a day, and when he came back, he still mixed with the raiders, only these two or three people, I am afraid that they will still die together."
Yes, in his life plan, there is no Baochao, because Baochao is like a scum who wants to get a high score, which is really out of reach, and at most he can only think about it in his dreams.
Baochao is difficult to find, cold and lofty, and refuses to treasure jade thousands of miles away.
Bao Yu loves beauty, and his ultimate dream is to accumulate the beauty of the world in Yihong Courtyard, just like a collector who loves to collect beautiful women. However, his collection of beautiful women is only for appreciation, not for blasphemy (this is a special note when reading the Red Chamber).
There is no shortage of beautiful women in Jia Province, Baoyu's sisters and sisters are very beautiful, and the servants in Jia House are also outstanding. However, after seeing beauty, I didn't think how beautiful they were, until the appearance of Daiyu, her beauty made Baoyu stunned, so she called it "fairy-like sister".
However, the appearance of Baochao not only brought another style of beauty, but also its "character is square, the appearance is rich, and most people say that Dai Yu can't reach it", that is, it is more beautiful than Dai Yu.
More beautiful than the "fairy-like sister", of course, it will be remembered by Baoyu. Therefore, in the dream that Bao Yu did the most comfortably, he found his dream in life: to have "both beauty", the beauty of Bao Chao's "bright and feminine" and the beauty of Daiyu's "charming".
However, for Baoyu, how easy it is for Daiyu to obtain, how difficult it is for Baochao to find. Their beauty represents two extremes, and their attitude towards Baoyu is also two extremes. This is like the scum facing the test paper, easy is too easy, closed eyes can answer; difficult and too difficult, racking their brains can not answer.
Baochao is difficult to find, and it is difficult in two aspects: one is that she is cold, not as enthusiastic about him as Daiyu, but often shows great indifference; second, Baochao has lofty ambitions and has the ambition of "reading and reasoning, assisting the country and governing the people", which cannot be integrated with Baoyu's "joy in the inner curtain".
Bao Yu had not tried to get close to Bao Chao, but his conversation had been stifled back. Of course, Baoyu is only a "chaos demon king", not a bully overlord, so even if he is full of yearning for Baochao's "bright and feminine", he does not dare to make a mistake, even if Baochao's "snow white and crispy arm" is in front of his eyes, he does not dare to reach out and touch it. If such a white arm had grown on Daiyu's body, he would have already started.
In addition, what makes Baoyu feel more difficult to get close to is that Baochao has lofty ambitions. The two of them, one is a scum and the other is a bully. The scum of the school is rich and powerful in the family, and only wants to live a lifelong life. However, Xueba aimed to serve the country after completing his studies, and used his knowledge to benefit the country and the people. How can two people like this come together? However you think about it can only be delusional.
However, Xueba looks too beautiful, and Xueba wants to have her beauty, so he is full of yearning for Xueba, and knows that it is impossible, and can only "fornicate" in his dreams: he hopes that she and Daiyu will wait for him together in the "Fragrant Embroidery Pavilion".
This is the perfection that Baoyu wants.
However, fate loves to joke with people the most, not only "the eight words of 'inadequacy in the beauty, good things are more grinding' are closely linked", but also "in an instant, it is extremely happy and tragic, people are not exchanged for things", Dai Yu, who thought he was at his fingertips, died in advance and failed to go to the step of waiting for him in the "Xiang Boudoir Embroidery Pavilion"; Bao Chao, who thought he could only be delusional, became the wife he was marrying, and really waited for him in the "Xiang Boudoir Embroidery Pavilion".
Originally, I could only get two or three points of scum in my life, but I got ninety-eight such high scores at the critical moment of the college entrance examination, and my life can be described as the peak, how can it not be beautiful? Unfortunately, if you don't know how to cherish because you are too careless to know how to cherish, and you don't lose the easiest two points, you can get a full score. Every student is very clear about how big the difference between the full score and the difference between the two points is, and the regret of this "lack of beauty" is too "difficult to reconcile".
Yes, if Baoyu could really care more about Daiyu from the bottom of her heart, try to make her cry a little less, and worry about her illness as much as possible, Daiyu would not have gone so early, and his dream of "combining beauty" would have come true.
This kind of "difficult intention" is not only Baoyu's regret, but also his guilt and self-blame. Only because of his absurdity, with the goal of "mixed world" as his life goal, he lost the most easily obtained Daiyu.