Shakespeare said:
Love is a flower that grows on the edge of a cliff, and it takes courage to pick it.
With the development of the times, people's thinking is avant-garde, more and more women are not as subtle and passive as the previous women, and many young women will pursue the boys they like. Therefore, many women are often in love, and what they lack is not courage, but the wisdom of managing love.
Wang Yangming once said: If you want to achieve great things, it is a big taboo to be brave and unscrupulous. Women who have courage but no wisdom in their feelings are equally difficult to achieve their own happiness.
Although some women treat feelings seriously, they lack the wisdom to control men. To be honest, a truly intelligent woman will not be too nice to a man.
01. Human nature dooms most of us not to cherish what we get so easily
A lyric in "Red Rose" says it well: What you can't get is always in turmoil, and the favored one is unloved. Yes, human nature dooms most of us not to cherish what we get so easily.
A couple of online romances appeared, during which the boys did not have any pursuit of the girls. On the first day of ben, the two had a relationship and soon moved in together.
During the cohabitation period, girls not only bear the rent, water, electricity and various living expenses, but also wash and cook for boys. The girl was in love for the first time, and she thought she would marry the boy, but the boy cheated and betrayed the girl.
In fact, boys don't chase girls much, girls easily let boys get themselves. After the girl also lives with the boy, although the girl is very concerned about the boy, but the girl pays too much for the boy, it will make the boy feel that he can easily get everything from the girl, the boy will feel that the girl is very cheap, talk about cherishing?
02. In relationships, men value women more
In the movie "Jasmine Blossom", Ah Hua and Xiao Du are a couple, and Ah Hua has a deep affection for Xiao Du. In order to help Xiao Du complete his studies, Ah Hua also did not hesitate to use the money earned from his hard work to sponsor Xiao Du to go to school.
However, Xiao Du not only failed to repay Ah Hua. During his study abroad, Xiao Du met a better girl, but instead abandoned Ah Hua when she was pregnant with a child.
Villiers once said:
The basis of all true love is mutual respect.
Mutual respect is based on the equal value of both parties, men are very realistic, they will never be touched by you because you are good to him, and they will never fall in love with you. In feelings, men value women more.
Men like and respect a woman from the bottom of their hearts, never just because the woman is kind and has good character. Only if the woman herself is valuable, beautiful or well-off or very profitable, men will sincerely want to understand, approach, and love this woman.
SuZen also said that to make a person love you all the time, it is not because you are gentle and kind, but because you are valuable and can bring him more happiness and a sense of accomplishment. People have a utilitarian heart in the face of feelings, and the lover who can let him have face outside can often defeat those lovers who can only give him warmth at home. Therefore, just blindly being good to a person cannot win love. Only if you yourself are getting better and better, can you always grasp happiness steadily.
03. Smart women see through human nature and naturally do not treat men too well
Women have low self-worth, and no matter how good they are to men, men will not fall in love with you because of this. But if you yourself are worth high and the conditions are good, men will not leave you casually. Men like to weigh the pros and cons, and men understand that it's hard to meet a woman as good as you again if he leaves you. Your worth is irreplaceable in men, and the cost of men betraying you is great, and men will not leave you easily.
What women need to do to keep men is not to be good to men, but to let men see the high value of their own scarcity. Therefore, smart women are focused on themselves and do not spend too much time and energy on men.
People's energy is limited, women should understand that you are too good to men, there is no energy to improve themselves, love yourself. Smart women see through human nature, understand men's psychology, and naturally will not be too good to men.
I have seen a story that A does not like to eat eggs, and every time he sends eggs, he gives B to eat. At first B was very grateful, and over time the habit was taken for granted. So until one day, A gave the egg to C, B was not happy, and then a big fight broke out. B forgot that this egg was originally A's, and A could give it to anyone he wanted.
We all hope to get the kindness of others, and we will be grateful at first, but over time, we are used to the kindness of the other party to us, and we are easy to take the kindness of the other party as a matter of course. Until one day, that person is not good to us, we feel resentment in our hearts. But in fact, it is not that others are bad, but that we ask for more, get used to getting, but forget to be grateful.
The fact is that people are inert, you are too good to one person, and the expectations given to you by the other party will be high. And once one day, you can't meet the other party's requirements, of course, the other party will not only not be grateful to you, but also more resentful of you. It's human nature, and we can't challenge or change it.
I only hope that every woman will become smarter in her feelings as soon as possible, see through human nature, and harvest the love she wants.