As the saying goes: Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped. The friends you associate with and the circle you live in means what kind of person you are. But we are social animals, and there will always be all kinds of people around us.
In fact, most people and we are just general friends, and some people appear in our lives, which is simply bad news, because the other party will bring us a very serious negative impact. Although the virtue of our Chinese nation is to advocate kindness, at this time you cannot blindly be kind.
Because you have to understand that not all people in this world are as kind, humble, and cultured as you are. Some people still have bad minds, and coming to you is another plan.
You don't know how to identify them, it's you who suffer losses, and generally the people who treat you like this are not kind, and they obviously consume you, and they are not worth your deep friendship. For this kind of person, you should not be stupid to dig out your heart and lungs, it is best to stay away as soon as possible.
Talking is always untrustworthy, and the person who is rebellious to you
Cheng Yi, a famous theologian of the Northern Song Dynasty, famously said it well: Without loyalty, people cannot stand in the world.
If a person does not speak of loyalty and faithfulness, then he will not be able to gain a foothold in the world. Yes, integrity is the foundation of our people's primary foothold in the world. But such a simple truth, many of us can not do.
I have a primary school classmate, she asked me to borrow money, the first time I borrowed money, said that after borrowing, the second month can be repaid, the result of the second month did not pay back, she came to me again to borrow. Seeing that she was a primary school classmate, after all, she really needed money, so I chose to trust her again and lent it to her.
Finally, she came to me for the third time to borrow money, perhaps she thought that I would be as stupid as before to lend her money again, but because of the borrowing of money, she always spoke untrustworthily, and she rebelled against me, and I directly pulled her into the blacklist. In the end, I think that my blocking of her is all her own cause, and it is her own time and time again that she does not cherish and consume my trust in her.
Later, I listened to my classmates say that she not only borrowed my money, she also cheated the money of other students in our class. Since then, her reputation has been notorious.
A person who does not keep his word and always rebels is actually a manifestation of the person's character problems. And a person with a problem with his character shows that he has no bottom line and principles in doing things. When we are with such people, we may be betrayed and hurt at any time, and the Buddhists have a saying: If you put down the butcher knife, you can become a Buddha on the ground, but if a bad person can easily put down the butcher knife and become a Buddha on the ground, he is not a bad person. So we can't change such people, and staying away is the best policy.
People who will think of you when needed will only take advantage of you
There is a saying that goes like this: The icing on the cake is beautiful, and sending charcoal in the snow is the most precious. But in real life, many people are proud of his spring breeze and bright moments, and he can only think of you when he is poor and falls into a trough.
To put it bluntly, this kind of person will only take advantage of you, because he can only suffer with you, but he cannot enjoy happiness with you. As far as I can see, in reality, such people are often exquisite egoists. Selfishness is our nature, but this kind of person is too much, and there is no bottom line at all in doing things.
This kind of person is useful to him, he will be close, and he will be very enthusiastic. But if it is useless to him, he will behave very coldly, even very disgusted, and will abandon it as if it were a disaster.
When this kind of person needs you, you really help him, the other party will not appreciate you, will only feel that it is taken for granted, and even look down on you, think that you are good at bullying you stupid reason.
They need you, you don't help, the result will not be good, the other party may morally kidnap you, say that you are selfish, see death and do not save, or behind your back denigrate you as a person without conscience.
Anyway, for this kind of person, you help or not, inside and outside are not people. Getting along with such people, how you do, can not impress the other party, only to stay away is the wisest choice.
Lu Xun said that life is based on time, and wasting other people's time is equivalent to seeking wealth and killing people. Wasting one's time is tantamount to chronic suicide. In fact, we have limited time, so we must leave limited time to those who deserve it. Only if the people we make are good friends, to nourish us, not to consume, our lives will get better and better.
So, when we really meet people who are not worthy, stop being indecisive and soft-hearted. In this lifetime, when we come to this world, we always have to lose something in order to gain something. People who are not worthy of deep friendship, we should stay away as soon as possible and cut it off in time, which is also the performance of our responsibility for our own lives.