Parent-child relationship is the most basic and sincere interpersonal relationship of human beings. Parents must fulfill their responsibilities and obligations for the education and upbringing of their children. Children also play the most important role in the lives of their parents.
However, for the ancient giants, the parent-child relationship seems to be quite distant. Jia Baoyu's father, Jia Zheng, saw his son, either beating or scolding, Jia Baoyu heard his father call himself, immediately frightened and scattered, saying that he did not dare to go.
As a young master among the giants, Jia Baoyu had more than a dozen servants around him. It is said that as Jia Baoyu's parents, Jia Zheng and Madame Wang should strictly control these servants, lest any of them with inferior character instigate Jia Baoyu. However, the two most important big men around Jia Baoyu, Raider and Qingwen, were not even well known to his parents.
Specifically, Jia Zheng did not know the attacker at all, and had not even heard of the name of the attacker. That time, in Madame Wang's room, she accidentally asked Jia Baoyu if the attacker had sent Jia Baoyu to take pills, and Jia Zheng immediately asked, "Who is the attacker?" ”
If Jia Zheng is a man, who is outside to take care of big things, and is not familiar with the handmaidens in his son's room, it is still forgivable, And If Madam Wang in the Lord does not know Qingwen, it is a bit unreasonable.
As Jia Baoyu's mother, Madame Wang always said that she cared very much about her son, and her son was the only one she relied on in this life. However, in "Dream of the Red Chamber", in addition to seeing Madame Wang take away a few servants in Jia Baoyu's room, we really don't see what Madame Wang has done for Jia Baoyu. There were too many slaves in Jia Mansion, and Jia Baoyu's clothing, food, shelter, and transportation did not need Madame Wang to worry about, so naturally there were those slaves who took care of them properly.
However, Madame Wang does not know Qingwen, which is also written by the author in "Dream of the Red Chamber".
Probably even Lady Xing's companion Wang Shanbao's family did not think that Lady Wang did not know Qingwen, so she directly complained in front of Lady Wang, saying, "A Qingwen in the baoyu house, that lady is more iconic than others, and she has a clever mouth, dressed up like a Xishi every day, and can speak in front of people, pinch the tip to be strong, and without speculation, she will set up two eyes to scold people."
When Madame Wang heard this, she was suddenly touched by the past, so she asked Sister Feng: "Last time we followed the old lady into the garden, there was a water snake waist, shaved shoulders, eyebrows a bit like your Sister Lin's, and was cursing the little girl there... This girl must be her. ”
Qingwen's position in Jia Baoyu's room was second only to that of the attacker. But Madame Wang didn't even know Qingwen. It can be seen how few times she goes to Yihong Courtyard. For their only surviving son, do not care about the question, this parent-child relationship is too cold.
In fact, not only Jia Zheng and Madame Wang, but also Jia Amnesty. For his son Jia Lian, Jia Yu is also scolding; for the only daughter Yingchun, Jia Amnesty also ignores and allows her to live a casual life.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", the most affectionate family is the Xue family in the "four major families" who began to fall into embarrassment. Aunt Xue is very affectionate and caring for her son Xue Pan, although some are unprincipled, but they are most like a mother; there are also many intimate interactive pictures between Xue Baochao and her mother. The Xue family, although the bad deeds are spotted, the relationship between the three brothers and sisters of this mother and son is very warm.
So, why is the parent-child relationship in Jia Fu so indifferent? In fact, the reason is also very simple. These rich nobles were too dependent on the slaves in their homes.
All the young masters and ladies in Jia Mansion, in addition to the servants around them, each had a nursing mother and four teaching grandmothers. The servants are responsible for the daily life of the young masters and ladies, and these mothers-in-law undertake the basic education work of the young masters and ladies on weekdays, including etiquette, behavior and other contents. Of course, these teaching grandmothers are also well versed in the rules of the giants, familiar with etiquette, and can definitely assume corresponding responsibilities.
In this way, the parents of these young masters can relieve themselves of a considerable amount of responsibility, and only need to do what they want to do every day. For their children, they just put on the shelf of their parents. As a result, their contact with their children inevitably decreases, resulting in a more indifferent parent-child relationship.