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"Wow, you're glowing now, it's the shawl that the Sun Father gave you." I don't like it. ”
"There's a rainy grandpa here." It has been playing here for many years. This piano key is so deep. Your feet beat to the beat with it. ”
Recently, "fairy tale mother" has become popular on the Internet. She took the baby "rice ball", spoke Cantonese, and compiled everything she saw into a fairy tale to introduce the world to the children.
A child draped in light
On January 17, 2022, the mother pushed a stroller and walked with her child on the old street of the county town. As the sun sets, the child's hair is golden. The mother spoke Cantonese and said softly to the child, "Rice balls, you like the sun father-in-law." Wow, you're glowing now, it's the shawl that the Sun Father gave you. I don't like it, it's not very warm. ”
The video caption "You are a child draped in light, and the world loves you." In the comments section, people began to call her "fairy tale mother."
The protagonists in the video are the mother Du Xiaomin (pseudonym) and the baby "rice ball". "On that day, I suddenly felt that one planet was being warmed by another." Du Xiaomin said.
On December 7, 2021, because her husband needed to work in Hong Kong, Du Xiaomin returned to her hometown in Zijin County, Heyuan, Guangdong, with her children and two cats from Guangzhou.
When Du Xiaomin was pregnant, she had two cats, one named Hu Suzai and the other named Aaron. At that time, Du Xiaomin would shoot daily sharing of about the two cats online.
After returning to his hometown, Du Xiaomin often pushed a stroller and took the "rice ball" to the old street of the county town, found interesting and beautiful, and recorded it with video.
On January 6, 2022, Du Xiaomin and "Rice Ball" met a stray dog. "I met a lot of new people today. The eyes are so majestic, we will bring some sausages to it next time. Then, the "rice balls" will also cooperate with them to shake hands and pray.
On January 7, 2022, Du Xiaomin and "Rice Ball" brought sausages to feed stray dogs. "I hope this Wang Mama can be all right."
On February 6, 2022, Du Xiaomin took a "rice ball" and saw a bunch of leaves crawling on a roadside stone. She pointed to the "rice ball" and said, "Here's a necklace." It's a spring girl. Further on, Du Xiaomin saw the red packaging shell of the firecracker falling to the ground, and she pushed the stroller with the "rice ball" and walked over. "Wow, you're a red-carpet actress now."
Du Xiaomin shares the daily life with her children every day, she uses Cantonese to tell children about rain, about flowers, about the sun setting, to meet new friends. In Du Xiaomin's eyes, although the child still can't understand, he can subtly perceive.
In just one or two months, her short video account has more than a million followers. Fans left a message, "All I saw was tenderness and was healed." "It's like entering a fairy tale world."
"Fairy tale moms" suffer from depression
"Mom is also a first-time mom."
In 1991, Du Xiaomin was born in Zijin County, Heyuan, Guangdong. After going to school, she went to Shenzhen and returned to her hometown during the winter and summer vacations. When Du Xiaomin was a child, her parents often quarreled. These childhood memories have made her insecure all the time, and they have also made her extra sensitive to external things.
When she was in college, Du Xiaomin studied animation. In 2014, after graduating, she started her own business and opened a studio. In 2019, Du Xiaomin married her boyfriend of six years. Earning money, traveling, and being free became their state of life.
The "balance" is broken, taking place in 2020. Du Xiaomin was pregnant.
"It was a surprise and a surprise to know I was pregnant." Whether it is childhood memories, emotional management, or financial situation, Du Xiaomin is not ready for the arrival of a life.
In the first five months of Du Xiaomin's pregnancy, her husband, who works in Hong Kong, could not return due to the epidemic. "Sometimes it's very crashing." Du Xiaomin lives with two cats and a baby in her belly, and from time to time she also has morning sickness.
In the early stages of pregnancy, Du Xiaomin was still taking orders from the studio. "I don't want to give the burden only to the child's father, but when I took the order and found that my body could not hold up, I was very anxious." Due to her physical condition, she could no longer continue to take orders, so she had a "career dilemma".
On February 25, 2021, "Rice Ball" was born. "A little caught off guard, as if being pushed forward by something." Du Xiaomin's figure, work, and life have changed dramatically, and she suffers from prenatal depression and postpartum depression.
On the first Mother's Day after becoming a mother, Du Xiaomin was deeply impressed. "I couldn't stop crying the night before my first Mother's Day for no reason, and I felt that the term mother was too heavy for me."
This time back to his hometown, Du Xiaomin took the "rice ball" to live in his grandmother's house. Du Xiaomin realized that if she continued like this, she would collapse and the child would collapse.
She said, "To be a good role in this moment, you must first be a happy mother." As a mother, I have to stand up first, I have to get better myself. Therefore, Du Xiaomin walked aimlessly to the old street with the "rice ball". "At first, it looked like those landscapes. Later, when I figured it out, I took the rice balls a little farther and found that there are many small beauties in life. ”
Grew up with bravery and confidence
"One more person, a lot more responsibility. I blamed myself so much that I didn't give the rice balls much material stuff. Later, I thought that there was no material to give her, always give her happiness, and the happiness of not wanting money gave her a little more. Du Xiaomin takes "rice balls" to the street every day to explore new fun. "When you feel like you have nothing, we're actually enjoying a lot of the beauty of the world."
On February 2, 2022, Du Xiaomin took her child to see the flowers on the side of the road begin to wither. "Rice balls" reached out and gave the flowers to their mother. "Rice balls are reluctant to spend flowers, right, you don't want it to disappear, right?" Then we keep it in our hearts and it will not disappear. ”
On February 4, 2022, it started to rain. Du Xiaomin and her children passed by a puddle. "There's a rainy grandpa here." It has been playing here for many years. This piano key is so deep. After listening to the "rice balls", he cocked his feet and shook. Du Xiaomin said, "Your feet beat with it." ”
The small actions of the "rice ball" feedback to Du Xiaomin became touching, and little by little fell on the mother's heart. Du Xiaomin began to have the ability to fight against sad emotions, "Sad emotions will not disappear, but I now learn to actively appease it." Life's problems are still there, it's just that I've changed. ”
She also gradually accepted the new identity of "mother", "I didn't want to grow up before, and now I feel that the child let me rebuild myself and make me more perfect." ”
Some netizens left a message for Du Xiaomin, "I have come to make up for my childhood." "Maybe I'm weird, why do I always shed tears when I listen?" "People in their 20s come here to listen to Ma Ma tell stories." "A good childhood story is enough to warm a lifetime." ......
In the face of netizens' love, Du Xiaomin said: "I didn't expect that my story would make them feel so much power. Mom, the word, is power in itself, it's a sense of security. ”
"I want my child to be a happy person and have the strength to stand up when he encounters adversity in the future." Du Xiaomin is exploring a special way of education.
Outside the window, rain began to drift. "Rice balls" burrowed into the bed and played. Du Xiaomin lifted the quilt, "Welcome to our strange world." What do you want? "Rice balls" pointed to the pattern on the quilt. Du Xiaomin said, "Ding-dong ding-dong." You are now a brave and confident little friend. "Rice balls" lifted the quilt and climbed out.
Du Xiaomin said to the child, "Are you going out?" Well, leave with courage and confidence. ”