Zhang Ailing said in her novel "The Complaining Girl": "No matter how high or low a beautiful girl is, her future is always unlimited, or it should be said that it is unpredictable, and she herself has the mystery of fate." ”
Throughout ancient and modern history, beautiful women have always carried a little legend.
In the traditional Chinese concept, the idea of "red face and bad water" is even more popular. Although this view is biased, it somewhat reflects people's ambivalence about the desire to be close to beauty and jealousy.
It is true that beauty is also a resource, but if you can't control your own ability, you are vulnerable to it.
A hundred years ago, Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying were in a graceful posture, like two unique flowers, one south and one north, which were called "Southern Tang And Northern Land".
Lu Xiaoman
The years have made people old, and decades have passed, one person is still as beautiful as a peach and plum, and one person is already like a frost chrysanthemum.
It really makes people sigh: it is easy to be a beauty for a while, but it is difficult to be a beauty for a lifetime.
The flowers bloom in two, one on each side
It is said that the prototype of the lively and delicate Huang Rong in Jin Yong's pen is Lu Xiaoman when he was young. But just by looking at the photos left, she does not have a perfect posture.
Perhaps, some women are more beautiful than moving, so they are very superior; while some women are moving with a variety of styles, and they are naturally inferior to taking photos.
Lu Xiaoman is a special thing, quiet and beautiful, moving is alive and fragrant, moving and static, inadvertently turning all sentient beings upside down.
Hu Shi said that Xiao man is a must-see scenery in beijing, and Liu Haisu was also instantly knocked down by her beauty.
Even if she is of the same sex, she has a good feeling for her. Zhang Youyi has a deep friendship with her after eliminating mustard, and Zhang Chonghe also likes her gentle conversation. You must know that these two ladies can't appreciate Lin Huiyin.
Probably from childhood by her parents in the palm of her hand, Lu Xiaoman does not lack love nor lack of security, her life background is warm and soft, people are relaxed, treat people and things is also sincere like a child, and getting along with it is naturally like a spring breeze.
Born in a banking family, Xiao Man was intelligent and sensitive since childhood, and could write poetry and paint. Growing up, she also received a good education, would Chinese, and was often invited by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to receive foreign guests as an oral interpreter during her studies.
Lu Xiaoman painting
Tang Ying was born seven years later than Xiao Man, and she also held the first good hand in her life.
Father Tang was the first Western doctor to study in China, and later opened a private clinic in Shanghai, with a high income and high reputation.
There are four cooks in the family, and each meal is strictly balanced nutritionally; there is a special tailor at home who only serves Tang Ying alone.
The Tang family is very strict in teaching, and they cannot play with the dishes and chopsticks at will when eating, they cannot talk while eating, and they cannot use their mouths to blow soup...
In terms of raising children, the Tang family is even more stingy about costs. Tang Ying has a special tutor to learn dance, English, opera and other talents and wisdom.
At that time, the famous lady was a real celebrity, and the excellent material conditions and good family education made Tang Ying dignified and elegant, extraordinary in temperament, and was the vane of the fashion on the beach at that time.
When people called it: "Tang Ying alone, feed half of the tailors on the beach." ”
She was at the forefront of fashion with CHANEL N0.5 perfume, LV handbags, CD lipsticks and CELINE dresses.
The authoritative women's magazine "Linglong" also encourages new women to follow Tang Ying's example, re-dress, be sociable, and not become accessories to men.
In 1927, Tang Ying Lu Xiaoman co-founded the "Yun Clothing Company", which was the first clothing company in China to be opened for women.
Fashion alone can not support Tang Ying's reputation of "a flower in the ten miles of the ocean", on the basis of talent, she and Xiao Man are on par.
That year, 17-year-old Tang Ying and 24-year-old Lu Xiaoman jointly took the stage, one playing Du Liniang, the other playing Liu Mengmei, performing the Kunqu opera "Peony Pavilion", which became the front page headline of major newspapers that year.
In 1935, Tang Ying performed the Peking opera "Wang Baojun" in all English at the Calden Grand Theatre, which was the first performance of the English version of Peking Opera in China and caused a great sensation.
Not only that, she is also proficient in dance piano and Peking Opera Kunqu, and is also good at brush painting landscapes and drawing oil paintings, and is versatile.
Origin, beauty and talent have been killed by the twenty-something Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying, all waiting for their own choices, and the pair of clouds and rain hands of the heavens.
Lu Xiaoman to the left, Tang Ying to the right
Zhou Guoping has a good saying: "If heaven gives a beautiful face, you must pay attention." This is a test for you. ”
At the beginning, because of his passionate love affair with Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman ended the boring marriage of the last time at the behest of his parents.
In order to divorce her ex-husband smoothly, she beat up the fetus in her womb. Due to poor surgical conditions, unfortunately, she fell ill with frequent low back pain and was unable to have children for life.
For the sake of love, she is indifferent. Since childhood, she has gathered thousands of pampering in her life, and along the way, she has wanted to wind and rain, thus forming a wayward and arbitrary personality.
Shima loves Xiao Man's aura and hopes that she will achieve something in literature and art. But in the years after the two married, Xiao Man often fell upside down in the morning, stepping on the dance floor, banquet and smoke bed, and the aura gradually disappeared.
Singing, writing poetry, painting landscapes, flowers and birds, these are all kinds of Xiao Man, but she does these things purely for fun, if she wants to sink her heart and do something, she is naturally lazy.
Xu Zhimo was very distressed about this, and he blamed her and blamed her, but Xiao Man still did not change his original intention. Coupled with the various discord in the marriage that devoured the original hot feelings, before Shima's accident, the relationship between the two was actually in jeopardy.
After Xu Zhimo's plane crash, all the insults poured into Lu Xiaoman, as if the theory of "red face and bad water" had been corroborated:
In order to provide her with food, drink and enjoyment, the poet traveled day and night, so he took a free flight and had an accident.
The world seems to have forgotten the truth of the matter, and Shima flew to Beijing to listen to a lecture by Lin Huiyin. Moreover, the world is uncertain, how can this matter be counted on Xiao Man's head?
The grief-stricken Little Man did not argue that since he had loved, he had to retain his last dignity. She endured the scolding and white eyes of the world, and said with tears: "He died for me." ”
Under the clamor of the crowd, she ignored the horrors of the world, hid the firewood alone, washed away the lead, and immersed herself in painting. She lived to become the woman Shima wanted her to be, but unfortunately, she woke up too late and Shima couldn't see it.
Like Lu Xiaoman, Tang Ying also has no shortage of excellent suitors, even including Song Ziwen, Yang Xingfo and others. Compared with Xiao Man's willful arbitrariness, Tang Ying was sober and rational.
At that time, Song Ziwen graduated from Harvard, had a prominent family, and was a typical rich and handsome man. Although he was 16 years older than Tang Ying, he launched a fierce pursuit of Tang Ying, and Tang Ying also secretly agreed for a while.
However, this relationship was strongly opposed by Tang Father, and the political affairs were full of tricks, and he would rather marry his daughter to a businessman than marry a politician.
Under the arrangement of Tang's father, Tang Ying married Li Zufa, the son of The Shanghai giant merchant Li Yunshu. Song Ziwen wrote more than twenty love letters to Tang Ying, which she has always treasured around.
Li Zufa is a doctor with a wooden and old-fashioned personality, and he is very disgusted that Tang Ying is still in and out of social places after marriage. Coupled with differences in parenting, the two eventually parted ways.
Shortly after the divorce, Tang Ying and Rong Xianlin were united. Rong Xianlin is the nephew of Rong Hong, the father of Chinese students, who has a lively personality and a wide range of hobbies like Tang Ying.
Rong Xianlin's family is not rich, and he also carries 4 children left over from his previous marriage. Tang Yinghun did not care, and the colorful butterflies in the dance hall willingly cut down their clothes and food, washed their hands to make soup, and became a good wife and mother.
The same is to wash away the lead Hua away from the social place, Tang Ying and Xiao Man look the same, but not the same.
Little Man is a heavy blow from Shima's sudden death, a devastating persecution by external forces;
Tang Ying is from the peace and tranquility generated in her heart, and this sense of happiness makes her willing to let go of the hustle and bustle of Vanity Fair and the satisfaction brought by the fireworks world.
Self-disciplined women are best killed
After Shima's death, Xiao Man was only 29 years old, and there was no shortage of suitors at that time, but she refused.
Later, because her health was really not good, her former friend Weng Rui frequently treated her at noon, lived in her home for a long time, and committed herself to him for a long time.
Xiao Man and Weng Rui noon covenant law three chapters: "Do not abandon the wife, do not formally marry", Weng Rui wu wholeheartedly take care of her, for her family ruin is not a pity. Affectionate and exclamating.
The twilight little Man is like her landscape, Xiao Suo is thin. She used to love beauty so much, so lonely that she couldn't make up for it.
For physical maintenance, Xiao Man does lack self-discipline. When I was young, from getting up to closing my eyes, I kept eating snacks all the time, and I didn't eat a meal when I was old, my teeth were broken early, and I ate a bad stomach.
Someone has seen Xiao Man in her later years and said that her face is white and blue, her bones are thin, her cheeks are sunken, and her teeth are black. A generation of beautiful people have fallen here, which is also extremely lamentable.
People always have to pay for their choices.
When you are young, you are indulgent and unrestrained, and in the end it is inevitable that the old situation will be decadent.
When you are young, you rely too much on your innate advantages, do not care for them, and in the end, the advantages are reversed, and the highs and lows of this are ups and downs, even if you are calm and do not put in your heart, you can't resist the praise of others.
At that time, Xiao Man was financially strapped, but he still could not get rid of the ill-intentioned speculation of others. Some people say that she injects honey to promote gastrointestinal peristalsis and profligacy, she does not argue; some people say that she uses tofu to wipe the opium marks under her nose, and she remains silent.
This life has opened up and closed, ups and downs, and seen all the prosperity and depression in the world, what else is there to worry about?
If Xiao Man is a temporary beauty, then Tang Ying can be regarded as a beauty of a lifetime.
In 1948, Tang Ying followed her husband to the United States. In the 1970s, Tang Ying returned to China to visit relatives, wearing a delicate green cheongsam, outlining a graceful posture like a girl, and there was no trace of fatigue between her hands and feet.
At that time, she was over sixty years old.
It is easy to be a beauty for a while, and it is difficult to be a beautiful person for a lifetime, which requires a high degree of self-discipline to control yourself and recognize the world, so as to obtain elegance and detachment from the inside out.
For decades, Tang Ying has always maintained the regular life she developed as a child, and each meal has a precise schedule.
Even if there are so many children to worry about, the family is not rich, but her love of beauty and love of life has never disappeared.
Every day, she dresses herself up brightly, and her life is colorful, and all her hobbies, such as watching movies, visiting art exhibitions, soaking in theaters, playing mahjong, have not changed until they are old.
Compared with the old and single-shadowed Xiao Man, Tang Ying's children and grandchildren in his later years wrapped around his knees and his life was complete.
In the memories of the grandchildren, Grandma's celery stir-fried beef and hand-wrapped wontons are a thousand times better than those in restaurants outside.
Tang Ying's son, Li Mingjue, is a tenured professor at Yale University in the United States, a famous Chinese stage design master, and is known as "the titan of contemporary stage design in the world".
Lee Ming Jue
She died quietly in her New York apartment in 1986, and before she left, she cleaned herself up and cleaned herself.
Compared with Lu Xiaoman's ups and downs, Tang Ying's life lacks legend, and because of this, she is gradually becoming unknown.
However, people live for a lifetime, grass and trees in autumn, most of the famous ladies who have come from the age of gunfire are difficult to end well, and it is the best fortune in life to be able to hold real happiness and a stable life like Tang Ying. What are those floating names for?
It is better to look beautiful than to live beautifully
Beauty is probably the best gift god has given to a woman. But if you don't know how to cherish, lack of self-discipline when you are young, squander at will, and even rely too much on men by virtue of your appearance, it is inevitable that you will disappear into the crowd in the end.
Writer Lin Wanyang said: "A woman gets something because of her beauty, and after that, she must learn to hide her beauty and use other inner parts that are not so easy to collapse to guard her own gains." ”
When being a woman is like Tang Ying, for life, she is always sober and self-sustaining, and has a sense of calm control.
When she was young, she crisscrossed the Shanghai social scene and saw the glitz of the world; in the face of feelings, she could control herself, and she could leave her hands when she encountered an inappropriate marriage; at the right moment, she unloaded her armor and returned to the field, and she was hidden in the world.
In the end, sink into the heart, sink into the fireworks of the world.
In this way, even as time passes, it only polishes her elegance to become more outstanding and more intriguing.
Author | Shui Qing is good at writing about the past affairs of the Republic of China with temperature and depth.
Anchor | Su Nian Jinshi, WeChat public number: Su Nian Jinshi FM.
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