Early in the morning, I saw my colleague Xiao Zhang listlessly enter the office, and I asked him with concern whether he was uncomfortable, and if he was sick, he could go home and rest and come back to work.
Xiao Zhang said: "I am in good health, because of the things at home, I am a little unhappy." Under my repeated questioning, Xiao Zhang told me: "Since my wife became pregnant, the focus of the whole family has been on my wife, and I have borne all the life and family responsibilities, and the pressure is very great." ”
It turned out that because Xiao Zhang was pregnant with his wife, he invisibly felt that the pressure on his body was getting bigger and bigger, so he was nervous. In fact, for expectant fathers who have pregnant women at home, pregnancy not only brings different feelings to pregnant women, but also brings pressure and psychological changes to expectant fathers.
Let's take a look at the stress and psychological shifts in father-to-be.
1. Worry about family pressure
The fact that the wife is pregnant means that there will be one more member of the family in the future, which is a happy thing. However, with one more family member, there will be a lot more expenses. For example, the baby needs to use diapers, clothes, milk powder, complementary foods, etc., which need to be solved by the father-to-be.
And now many families, the wife is pregnant, they are faced with the choice of going home with the baby. Since there is no elderly person in the family to help with the baby, if you hire a nanny, the cost of the nanny will be higher than the salary of the wife to work, and at the same time, considering that the nanny brings the baby, it is not very assured.
The wife comes home with the baby, and there is one more member of the family, which means that there is one less source of income and one more expenditure item. As a husband-to-be father, he will have to bear more financial pressure.
2. Worry about the discomfort of the wife's pregnancy
The physical discomfort and psychological changes encountered by the father-to-be when his wife is pregnant can be said to be helpless, especially for the first time to become a father. For example, the wife in the first trimester, no appetite to eat anything, eat a small amount of food will vomit, the father-to-be sees such a situation, will definitely be worried.
During the October of pregnancy, there are different and unseen situations that occur. Expectant fathers will worry about the health and safety of their wives and fetal babies, and when they see their wives in pain, and they can't help themselves, they will inevitably blame themselves and even produce mental anxiety.
3, the father-to-be will also be jealous
Just like my colleague Xiao Zhang, when I see my wife and my own family, the focus is all on the baby in my wife's belly, there will be a little bit of loss.
After all, I used to be the center of the family, cared for and valued by my family and my wife. Now, everything is first of all about the fetus.
As we often say, a man is, in a way, like a child who doesn't grow up. Even if you know that you are going to be a father and learn to take care of your baby, you can't control your jealousy.
So, when there are pregnant women in the family, the father-to-be appears in such and such a situation, how can he adjust his state, take good care of his wife, and welcome the arrival of the baby with his wife? Expectant fathers can do this and adjust their mentality.
1. Shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family
The wife is pregnant, the whole family is very happy, and the father-to-be is of course excited and happy. However, in addition to being happy, I will think about future expenses, and I will inevitably worry.
At this time, the father-to-be should balance his mentality. After all, good health can guarantee future income. If the financial pressure at home is indeed great, then it is necessary to work hard to earn money, after all, as a man, it is your responsibility to earn money to support your family.
According to their own economic ability, there is no need to buy items, you can postpone the purchase, and use the money in the right place. For example, if the wife is pregnant, to do obstetric examinations, you must do it regularly; if you want to eat dishes that strengthen nutrition, you must be willing to buy.
2. Keep learning and calmly cope with the things that your wife encounters when she is pregnant
The wife is pregnant, and for ten months, it is inevitable that she will encounter a situation that she has never seen before. At this time, the father-to-be can continue to learn to understand what kind of problems pregnant women encounter when they are pregnant, and how to solve them.
So as to be able to know in mind, when the wife really encounters problems, the father-to-be can make the right response at the first time. For example, pregnant women will encounter false contractions before giving birth, and inexperienced people will be very nervous and think that the fetus is about to be born. Through learning, the father-to-be knows how to distinguish between true and false contractions, and can calmly comfort his wife, before it is time to give birth.
The more the father-to-be knows about this, the more reassuring the wife will be. Having such a reliable husband in the family is a blessing for pregnant women.
3, the father-to-be can tell his wife about his loss
The arrival of the baby will attract the attention of the family, or break the family's two-person world, and the father-to-be will inevitably be jealous. When there was no baby before, my wife cared about herself very much.
Since having a baby, buying things will only focus on baby products, living, eating, and also based on the baby in the belly, opening and closing the mouth is also a baby.
The father-to-be was jealous and lost. If the father-to-be feels this way, he can tell his wife that he also hopes to get her attention. Of course, as a strong man, it is important to learn to self-adjust the mentality, after all, to maintain a good family, not only need financial support, but also emotionally pay.
Written at the end: In the eyes of most of us, pregnancy is a matter for the wife,000 people, and it has little to do with the husband. In fact, this is not the case, the father-to-be will also have a series of psychological changes after his wife is pregnant. As a father-to-be's family and wife, you can properly care for him, let him adjust his state as soon as possible, and welcome the arrival of the baby. (The picture is from the network, if there is infringement, it must be deleted)